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    Default In college and interested in a girl in campus.

    I notice her around college campus and she notices me too. I want her as my girlfriend, she is very attractive and dress very nicely. I dress nicely too. I am good looking too, but it seems like it just doesn't help, sure there are girls who seem interested and because I dress very well better than 98% of the guys in college I get alot of attention. However this girls gets lots of attention too but the problem I just don't know what to do.

    I noticed sometimes when I turn to look at her she was looking at me but quickly turns away when she sees me turn to her. Every time we pass each other she pouts her lips forward and seems to want to seduce me. I think she might be interested.

    I live in a conservative culture so just approaching has to be indirect and subtle. I don't know how to game her. I have Approach Anxiety and she is attractive which makes it worse, I am afraid to mess this up because if I lose her and won't find a girl as attractive as her and no this is not one-itsh here where I live girls aren't that attractive and because she is from abroad she is different and Idon't want to lose her.

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    Default Re: In college and interested in a girl in campus.

    Don't put too much pressure on yourself and the situation. That's a good way to get yourself to screw up. Someone once said that you attract what you fear. If you fear losing her, that's what's going to happen. You should be indifferent to the outcome with her because, ultimately, you can only do your best. Whatever happens as a result of you doing your best as your ability allows you to now can't be any different. Therefore, don't be attached to the outcome. This is why success is all about preparation. You prepare now to succeed later. Improve yourself now and you'll be ready for these chance encounters with women who you really are attracted to.

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    Default Re: In college and interested in a girl in campus.

    With this kind of Mindset, you are going to come off as needy as you've already lowered your value than her (in your mind). Just be normal, confident and go talk to her, the best way to know whether a girl is interested in you or not.
    she pouts her lips....
    This is overanalyzing and could be anything. Thinking about this much details will increase your anxiety even more.

    Also if you want to make a girl, whom you haven't even met, your gf just because she's attractive, you need to re-evaluate your values and criteria of a gf. Not that you shouldn't consider physical appearence, but there are other things that matter a lot other than appearence (imo).

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    Default Re: In college and interested in a girl in campus.

    Thanks for all your advice guys.

    I will try to do my best. One last thing I noticed that she bought the same sunglasses that I wear. (Ray Ban New Wayfarer 2132) Before that she used to wear different style of sunglasses but after she once saw me wearing it I saw her 2 weeks later wearing it. Does that mean anything at all?

    I also noticed that she stood right in front of me yesterday with her body directed right at me and she was touching her hair. I just looked at her then turn my head because I was super nervous, did I mess it up with her?

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    Default Re: In college and interested in a girl in campus.

    Hey Buddy,

    If this girl gets a lot of attention at college you may have to do alot of work if you are not willing to approach.

    What i suggest is two things,

    1. DMV
    2. Devalue (negs)

    So you have girls interested in you but your not interested in them.

    This is a good thing because you can use them as social proof, Hang with them and make sure the girl you like sees you with them.

    Then basically demonstrate higher value by talking about, how you are in college so that you can make the money to Give back to your parents who have supported you. You can use heaps of statements like this. The intention is to show value that makes you a Man, not just a boy.

    This should get the girls around you very attracted to you, do not sleep with them, just be seen with them, once women notice other women are attracted to you, they will be curious and attracted to you, Then she will notice you.

    Through some negs on the girls too, not to harsh and always smile and joke around, so that they see you as a high value person. this should amplify your affect and make girls desire you more.

    Its only a matter of time after that that she will notice you. Then strike.
    Men, we need to value our time more then we value women. This isn't to say women are not valuable. But who are we to believe in something so illogical, as men we should realize that without our time(life), we would not even be able to pursue women, but only our mother who gave us life. Why do we think we should prioritize them over our time(life) unless she is the one who gives me/my children life. Man is Sovereignty.

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    Default Re: In college and interested in a girl in campus.

    This girl likes you. Talk to her!

    The sunglasses thing could just be a coincidence but everything else you've explained makes me believe she's into you. One thing that's never failed me is this: If you think she likes you, she likes you. The vast majority of time when you think a woman likes you she does. This is because women throw out allot of signals that men don't pick up. I've always found out that way more women are into me then I realize, so when I think a woman is into me, she always is. This holds true for most men, unless they are delusional.

    All you have to do is tell her "Hey, I've noticed you around campus. I'm (your name here)." Then roll from there.

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    Default Re: In college and interested in a girl in campus.

    Have you never talked to this girl at all? Do you even know her name? Aside from the fact that she dresses well and is attractive and gets a lot of attention, is there anything else that she has going for her?

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    Default Re: In college and interested in a girl in campus.

    Thank you all for your help.

    The thing that scares me the most is that I am afraid that she might not be interested in me just want attention from me and if I approached she would shoot me down. There was a girl in the past showed interest in me and when I approached her she just excused herself and left me. At the sametime I saw her a couple of times when I turn around she truns her head away quickly means she was checking me out and I mean sure it was me.

    I started to talk to random girls on campus, asking for directions and sometimes try to follow it up with asking if they talk same classes as me. I am trying to build my confidence up. I never tried doing what I am doing before but it is great. Sometimes the reactions aren't really that good but I am sure with pratice it will get better.
    The way I see it is that most guys walk through campus with a macho/aloof look and behaviour and really generally look kinda boring, when I was build momentum and had higher energy than the people around I started to feel how people can be boring.

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    Default Re: In college and interested in a girl in campus.

    Quote Originally Posted by RenaissanceManinNJ View Post
    Have you never talked to this girl at all? Do you even know her name? Aside from the fact that she dresses well and is attractive and gets a lot of attention, is there anything else that she has going for her?
    No I never talked to her at all, all we do is exchange glances at each other thats all.

    Yes, I know her name and where she is from, saw her profile on Facebook.

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    Default Re: In college and interested in a girl in campus.

    Quote Originally Posted by TheMark View Post
    No I never talked to her at all, all we do is exchange glances at each other thats all.
    Then talk to her. The more you keep thinking without taking action, the more anxiety you're gonna feel and the more needy you become.

    If she rejects you, that's even better because now you know the answer and won't waste any more of your time on her. Even then if you fear rejection, go indirect first.


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