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Thread: Office game - What's the deal with this girl?

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    Default Office game - What's the deal with this girl?

    Before I rattle on, some background; I am the most popular bloke at my workplace. Have had quite a few women hitting on me (none of whom I like) and some of them are even married. And until recently, I practiced the game on them while adhering to the platinium rule.

    So, as it happens, a new girl joins the workplace. She is drop dead gorgeous and all of 24. So much so that even my staccato faced boss blushes when he talks to her. While inititally she was not that friendly but we eventually built up some chemistry. Also, in a fortunate or unfortunate turn of circumstances, the management decided to rennovate the premises and we were shifted to an unsed office in the sixth floor.

    As it happens, here, I was seated right next to her and that is how our like-hate relationship started. We were very pally at first and she was always super excited to talk or listen to any of the crap that I would tell her. There were also very clear signs of attraction:

    1) She would always gaze at me when I wasn't looking
    2) Play with her when I'd speak with her
    3) Sit uptight, accentuating her body and preen herself when I'd converse
    4) Makes deep eye contact - She is not the type who blushes
    5) Teasing me

    It was great at first and then I had a little spat because she ratted me out on a prank that I played on the sales girl (who likes me - apparently). I was a tad bit pissed of at her and she did apologise to the sales girl while explaining that it was her who played the prank.

    Since then she has been acting weird and our equation is no longer the same. We only converse when it has anything to do with work and long periods are spent in awkward silence.

    I am somewhat attracted to her as well (She is hotter than my ex). So, instead of apologising and supplicating, I pay more attention to other women, including the girl on my right (Yeah, I am seated next to two pretty women).

    While she spends more time whatsapping, sulking and ignoring me entirely. Truth be told, I like her because she reminds me of my ex and is prettier than she was among other things.

    My cold approach skills of late have become rusty and I am relegated entirely to social game due to time commitments and also owing to the fact that I am nearly thirty now.

    How do I resolve the situation and restore the balance of power?

    Need to add that I am contemplating freelancing and thus she working in the same office should no longer be a problem.

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    Default Re: Office game - What's the deal with this girl?

    Quote Originally Posted by ryuzaki21 View Post
    Before I rattle on, some background; I am the most popular bloke at my workplace. Have had quite a few women hitting on me (none of whom I like) and some of them are even married. And until recently, I practiced the game on them while adhering to the platinium rule.

    So, as it happens, a new girl joins the workplace. She is drop dead gorgeous and all of 24. So much so that even my staccato faced boss blushes when he talks to her. While inititally she was not that friendly but we eventually built up some chemistry. Also, in a fortunate or unfortunate turn of circumstances, the management decided to rennovate the premises and we were shifted to an unsed office in the sixth floor.

    As it happens, here, I was seated right next to her and that is how our like-hate relationship started. We were very pally at first and she was always super excited to talk or listen to any of the crap that I would tell her. There were also very clear signs of attraction:

    1) She would always gaze at me when I wasn't looking
    2) Play with her when I'd speak with her
    3) Sit uptight, accentuating her body and preen herself when I'd converse
    4) Makes deep eye contact - She is not the type who blushes
    5) Teasing me

    It was great at first and then I had a little spat because she ratted me out on a prank that I played on the sales girl (who likes me - apparently). I was a tad bit pissed of at her and she did apologise to the sales girl while explaining that it was her who played the prank.

    Since then she has been acting weird and our equation is no longer the same. We only converse when it has anything to do with work and long periods are spent in awkward silence.

    I am somewhat attracted to her as well (She is hotter than my ex). So, instead of apologising and supplicating, I pay more attention to other women, including the girl on my right (Yeah, I am seated next to two pretty women).

    While she spends more time whatsapping, sulking and ignoring me entirely. Truth be told, I like her because she reminds me of my ex and is prettier than she was among other things.

    My cold approach skills of late have become rusty and I am relegated entirely to social game due to time commitments and also owing to the fact that I am nearly thirty now.

    How do I resolve the situation and restore the balance of power?

    Need to add that I am contemplating freelancing and thus she working in the same office should no longer be a problem.
    A similar thing happened to me once, how I made it normal was that

    1) when conversating with another girl on a topic and if shes nearby, I would call her out and ask her about her opinion, pov or choice. If her decision made sense, I would accept it and tell it to the girl who asked me and when the girl would thank me. I'd tell her to thank the other girl(the one you like)

    2) Ask her to do some legit favour (its called backward rationalization and cognitive dissonance, it goes on her subconscious mind that "omg, I'm doing this work for him that means I must really like him")

    3) If all of it doesn't work, talk to her and then Isolate her. Hold her hand, or hold her arm or her lower back (for a short time) and say " hey ______, listen. I have been noticing you for the past few days and you seem really down. It makes me sad to see you down like this, anything wrong ?"
    She will probably go on tell her problems
    Never give her the answer to her problems until and unless she asks you too or its really something that could affect her.
    After that say "look you will find a way out, I know you can. Lets make a smile on that face shall we ? After work, I'm going to take you to an ice cream place. My treat, that should put a smile on your face" if you have have not told her how to solve it.

    if you have solved it, then say "See so simple right ?, is this really dragging you down ? Tell you what, after work, Ice cream place, my treat"

    If she says no to the ice cream place, then tell "Okay sure, gosh ppl these days (in a joking manner).. Then tell her to go home, have Ice cream and be happy (In a very genuine caring tone, as if your talking to your 6 year old daughter). Then walk away like a badass.

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    Default Re: Office game - What's the deal with this girl?

    Do you think there is any chance of you fucking this girl? If you did, would it be one time or a lasting thing?

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    Default Re: Office game - What's the deal with this girl?

    Makes a lot of sense. Especially since I have a keen cognisance of psychology.

    Today, it was more of the same except that we were both alone (my other female neighbour was on leave) and we had the design team with us.

    Didn't greet her in the morning and she didn't either. Except that she looked at me expecting me to wish her. I chose not to.

    A part of the day was spent in awkward silence and then this girl from the top floor walks in. I call her over and start a conversation with her, the girl that I am targetting joins in as well. As the day goes, I keep making excuses to leave my desk and after a while she makes a pretext to call me over for some help.

    I assign a task to her (being the senior executive) and she performs it dilligently. Asks me to help her with her iphone app as she needs to record a conversation on Monday. I help her and our fingers make contact, she immediately withdraws her hand (not a good sign) and I act nonchalantly. We are still in close proximity and our cheeks almost touch.

    I understand that she has a bf and that may well be the actual reason for the sudden change in behaviour as well as ASD. I don't think that this is going anywhere.


    Quote Originally Posted by xlosmuertosx View Post
    A similar thing happened to me once, how I made it normal was that

    1) when conversating with another girl on a topic and if shes nearby, I would call her out and ask her about her opinion, pov or choice. If her decision made sense, I would accept it and tell it to the girl who asked me and when the girl would thank me. I'd tell her to thank the other girl(the one you like)

    2) Ask her to do some legit favour (its called backward rationalization and cognitive dissonance, it goes on her subconscious mind that "omg, I'm doing this work for him that means I must really like him")

    3) If all of it doesn't work, talk to her and then Isolate her. Hold her hand, or hold her arm or her lower back (for a short time) and say " hey ______, listen. I have been noticing you for the past few days and you seem really down. It makes me sad to see you down like this, anything wrong ?"
    She will probably go on tell her problems
    Never give her the answer to her problems until and unless she asks you too or its really something that could affect her.
    After that say "look you will find a way out, I know you can. Lets make a smile on that face shall we ? After work, I'm going to take you to an ice cream place. My treat, that should put a smile on your face" if you have have not told her how to solve it.

    if you have solved it, then say "See so simple right ?, is this really dragging you down ? Tell you what, after work, Ice cream place, my treat"

    If she says no to the ice cream place, then tell "Okay sure, gosh ppl these days (in a joking manner).. Then tell her to go home, have Ice cream and be happy (In a very genuine caring tone, as if your talking to your 6 year old daughter). Then walk away like a badass.

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    Default Re: Office game - What's the deal with this girl?

    Makes a lot of sense. Especially since I have a certain cognisance of psychology.

    Today, it was more of the same except that we were both alone (my other female neighbour was on leave) and we had the design team with us.

    Didn't greet her in the morning and she didn't either. Except that she looked at me expecting me to wish her. I chose not to.

    A part of the day was spent in awkward silence and then this girl from the top floor walks in. I call her over and start a conversation with her, the girl that I am targetting joins in as well. As the day goes on, I keep making excuses to leave my desk and after a while she makes a pretext to call me over for some help.

    I assign a task to her (being the senior executive) and she performs it dilligently. Asks me to help her with her iphone app as she needs to record a conversation on Monday. I help her and our fingers make contact, she immediately withdraws her hand (not a good sign) and I act nonchalantly. We are still in close proximity and our cheeks almost touch.

    I understand that she has a bf and that may well be the actual reason for the sudden change in behaviour as well as ASD. @redstar1324: I don't think that this is going anywhere.


    Quote Originally Posted by xlosmuertosx View Post
    A similar thing happened to me once, how I made it normal was that

    1) when conversating with another girl on a topic and if shes nearby, I would call her out and ask her about her opinion, pov or choice. If her decision made sense, I would accept it and tell it to the girl who asked me and when the girl would thank me. I'd tell her to thank the other girl(the one you like)

    2) Ask her to do some legit favour (its called backward rationalization and cognitive dissonance, it goes on her subconscious mind that "omg, I'm doing this work for him that means I must really like him")

    3) If all of it doesn't work, talk to her and then Isolate her. Hold her hand, or hold her arm or her lower back (for a short time) and say " hey ______, listen. I have been noticing you for the past few days and you seem really down. It makes me sad to see you down like this, anything wrong ?"
    She will probably go on tell her problems
    Never give her the answer to her problems until and unless she asks you too or its really something that could affect her.
    After that say "look you will find a way out, I know you can. Lets make a smile on that face shall we ? After work, I'm going to take you to an ice cream place. My treat, that should put a smile on your face" if you have have not told her how to solve it.

    if you have solved it, then say "See so simple right ?, is this really dragging you down ? Tell you what, after work, Ice cream place, my treat"

    If she says no to the ice cream place, then tell "Okay sure, gosh ppl these days (in a joking manner).. Then tell her to go home, have Ice cream and be happy (In a very genuine caring tone, as if your talking to your 6 year old daughter). Then walk away like a badass.

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    Default Re: Office game - What's the deal with this girl?

    Seems like you're trying to make something out of nothing. Why not go to a club instead?

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    Default Re: Office game - What's the deal with this girl?

    Clubs that are happening are in the old part of the city. The logistics don't work out in the long term. Also, any success that I have had with night game was owing to alcohol and having a friend who helped with logistics.

    I also need a hotter LTR gf than my previous one. This one here fits the bill. Besides, a woman having a bf or even being married does not matter anymore. It's always game-on.

    Like @
    states, women have this ass-backwards form of rationalisation. They are not driven by the tenets of logic or reason. Soliphism is inherent to their worldview and they have no real understanding of the concept of honour. They are wholly driven by their emotions.
    Quote Originally Posted by redstar1324 View Post
    Seems like you're trying to make something out of nothing. Why not go to a club instead?


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