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Thread: Girl from work AND social circle!!

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    Default Girl from work AND social circle!!

    This is a bit of a new one for me. I've never really gamed girls in my social circle or worked with girls since studying PU (I run a business with my parents) so I'm not sure my normal approach to this situation would work.

    Anyway, there's this HB, bartender at my local pub, I met her about 3 years ago while she was working, tried picking her up and found out she had a bf, found out later that day that her bf was one of the boys I used to kick around with a few years earlier. So I left it at us being new friends and had fun with her as a bartender and the odd time we seemed to have combined social circles.

    About a year ago she broke up with her bf and I remember talking to her about it and saying how if I wasn't seeing the girl I was with that her and I would have hooked up for sure!
    I broke up with my girl not long after and the bartender and I hung out a couple of times but she had started planning a 12 month trip to America so, again, I left it that. I just didn't want to pursue anything at the time knowing she was going away for so long.

    Fast forward to now:
    I've started working at my local as a second job so I can save for a 3 month trip to Europe next year and about 3 weeks in, guess who returns! I didn't think too much of it at the time because I've got so much going on at the moment, but a month or two in and she's getting under my skin again! We get along so easy and everything just seems to flow for us.
    So a couple of weeks ago I decided to pull the trigger, we worked out our schedule and I told her we were going to do something fun, she agreed but ended up sick that week so we left it. I won't say it's been weird since then but I feel like she's been hot and cold with me ever since. When she's drinking she's way more open, her texts and overall behaviour are noticeably better towards me, and when we're at work, it's almost the complete opposite.

    Alright, so obviously I want to know wtf she's thinking etc and normally I would just take her coldness as an IOD and leave her be (that thought has crossed my mind a few times but the next time we're together everything's hunky dory again).

    So I'm at the point where I just want to call her out on it but I have zero idea on how to go about it! Mainly for the fact of the whole work and social circle factors (or maybe I'm just being a giant pussy) either way I'm not 100% sure on the best way to approach the situation.

    Any ideas?

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    Default Re: Girl from work AND social circle!!

    Ask her out again and don't think too much about why she's doing what she's doing.

    If she agrees to go out with you and shows up than she's still interested, if she says no or doesn't show up, let her go.

    Calling a a chick out that you're not even dating is kinda AFC. Quit worrying about her and enjoy your life

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    Default Re: Girl from work AND social circle!!

    So pretty much I'm just being a giant pussy lol!

    It's crazy how much of this stuff I thought had become a part of my natural behaviour, really hasn't! I was overthinking it and giving her way too much time and energy

    Appreciate the reply, mate! I'm gonna focus on the 2 new numbers I got over the weekend and see how this one plays out.

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    Default Re: Girl from work AND social circle!!

    Agree with Slickwilly. Perhaps IT is not weird, maybe it is YOU that is weird. Don't ding the girl for wanting to keep things professional at work. Sounds like you had a date planned, and a legit problem came up, and now you have taken it personally. Hit the reset button and plan another date. I also sense neediness. We ALL do it. Get it in check, and try and move forward.


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