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    Question 3 Consistent Problems in New Relationships

    I keep getting a few consistent issues when pursuing new relationships. These plague me hard and I can't seem to find the answers within myself, so I figured I would ask for an outside opinion. I will number the questions.

    Background: I don't have much issue getting the girls I like to hang out with me. We always seem to have a great time, and I'm not really pushy on sleeping with them. If I feel it I go for it. I'm great at building attraction and flirting both in text and real life, and just about every woman I go out with is into me.

    1. When we have been seeing each other a couple weeks they tend to start loosing attraction. How can I keep this going? Even dating multiple women I seem to loose their interest. As soon as they start talking with another guy they get pretty cold. I have even had a couple that I thought things were going great with and BOOM in a relationship with another guy. [ I feel here I need to be more of a challenge but I'm not sure how. I'm very direct and straight forward, and tend to not waste time playing stupid games. ]

    2. I always get this speech about "I can see myself getting married to you and being so happy, I'm just not ready for that. I have a career, I know what I want out of life and where I'm going, and I want someone to take that journey with me, but I won't accept just anyone.

    3. I also get called "perfect" a lot. They tell me out sweet I am, and how they love my honesty. I make sure to let them know I don't put up with any shit, but every girl seems to test me on this in a way in which I feel like I have to walk away, and I do. I also tell them off the bat that they just feel this way now and not to put me on a pedestal because I'm just a person and I'm not going to accept someone just waiting for me to "fuck up and ruin things" because I'm only human and will eventually say or do the wrong thing.

    I also tend to get this "I don't want to hurt you" speech, which I usually tell them either not to worry about me and go have fun OR if I'm into them I just let them know that I won't give them the chance then and we should go our separate ways. This has been a pattern with about 15 different women ages 18-32 now and I'm not really sure what I'm doing wrong here. I mean yea, I am kind by nature and I have no desire to change that, but I'm also assertive and show that.

    I do tend to start falling for them I guess. When they start calling me Babe and Boo, or referring to me as their man, and shit like that they would call their boyfriend I often start evaluating if I want more with them than just something casual. I'm learning my lesson on this, though.
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    Default Re: 3 Consistent Problems in New Relationships

    Quote Originally Posted by Blistex View Post
    I keep getting a few consistent issues when pursuing new relationships. These plague me hard and I can't seem to find the answers within myself, so I figured I would ask for an outside opinion. I will number the questions.

    Background: I don't have much issue getting the girls I like to hang out with me. We always seem to have a great time, and I'm not really pushy on sleeping with them. If I feel it I go for it. I'm great at building attraction and flirting both in text and real life, and just about every woman I go out with is into me.

    1. When we have been seeing each other a couple weeks they tend to start loosing attraction. How can I keep this going? Even dating multiple women I seem to loose their interest. As soon as they start talking with another guy they get pretty cold. I have even had a couple that I thought things were going great with and BOOM in a relationship with another guy. [ I feel here I need to be more of a challenge but I'm not sure how. I'm very direct and straight forward, and tend to not waste time playing stupid games. ]

    2. I always get this speech about "I can see myself getting married to you and being so happy, I'm just not ready for that. I have a career, I know what I want out of life and where I'm going, and I want someone to take that journey with me, but I won't accept just anyone.

    3. I also get called "perfect" a lot. They tell me out sweet I am, and how they love my honesty. I make sure to let them know I don't put up with any shit, but every girl seems to test me on this in a way in which I feel like I have to walk away, and I do. I also tell them off the bat that they just feel this way now and not to put me on a pedestal because I'm just a person and I'm not going to accept someone just waiting for me to "fuck up and ruin things" because I'm only human and will eventually say or do the wrong thing.

    I also tend to get this "I don't want to hurt you" speech, which I usually tell them either not to worry about me and go have fun OR if I'm into them I just let them know that I won't give them the chance then and we should go our separate ways. This has been a pattern with about 15 different women ages 18-32 now and I'm not really sure what I'm doing wrong here. I mean yea, I am kind by nature and I have no desire to change that, but I'm also assertive and show that.

    I do tend to start falling for them I guess. When they start calling me Babe and Boo, or referring to me as their man, and shit like that they would call their boyfriend I often start evaluating if I want more with them than just something casual. I'm learning my lesson on this, though.
    Well I want you to know that I identify with this, and with a large number of girls that I've dated. I don't think I've gotten yet up to 15 yet, total in my life, and this includes anyone I've at least once saw a movie with.

    It seems to be harder and harder to not only get a date, but to keep a relationship going. There is a whole art to keeping a girlfriend, but since I've never really had one last past three months, I cant offer an insight into the matter.

    I will say that when I think about it, the reasons are out there, but we get to this point where most of our suffering is really because we aren't sure which reason is the right one, even when our friends give us advice, we are slightly doubting it's efficacy. We need to know the simple and controllable reasons behind why they go from "warm" to becoming "cold" and eventually out of our lives again.

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    Default Re: 3 Consistent Problems in New Relationships

    Seems to me that once you start dating them you forget that you need to continue to game.

    Gaming last forever, even the longest lasting relations are only that way because the couple continues to game each other, don't stop and get content... then they lose interest, consider you as a "sweet, perfect man" which no one really wants (they just say they do)... Keep reading and absorbing the game and keep using it throughout your relationships and I guarantee they will find more longevity in the future.


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