3 Consistent Problems in New Relationships
I keep getting a few consistent issues when pursuing new relationships. These plague me hard and I can't seem to find the answers within myself, so I figured I would ask for an outside opinion. I will number the questions.
Background: I don't have much issue getting the girls I like to hang out with me. We always seem to have a great time, and I'm not really pushy on sleeping with them. If I feel it I go for it. I'm great at building attraction and flirting both in text and real life, and just about every woman I go out with is into me.
1. When we have been seeing each other a couple weeks they tend to start loosing attraction. How can I keep this going? Even dating multiple women I seem to loose their interest. As soon as they start talking with another guy they get pretty cold. I have even had a couple that I thought things were going great with and BOOM in a relationship with another guy. [ I feel here I need to be more of a challenge but I'm not sure how. I'm very direct and straight forward, and tend to not waste time playing stupid games. ]
2. I always get this speech about "I can see myself getting married to you and being so happy, I'm just not ready for that. I have a career, I know what I want out of life and where I'm going, and I want someone to take that journey with me, but I won't accept just anyone.
3. I also get called "perfect" a lot. They tell me out sweet I am, and how they love my honesty. I make sure to let them know I don't put up with any shit, but every girl seems to test me on this in a way in which I feel like I have to walk away, and I do. I also tell them off the bat that they just feel this way now and not to put me on a pedestal because I'm just a person and I'm not going to accept someone just waiting for me to "fuck up and ruin things" because I'm only human and will eventually say or do the wrong thing.
I also tend to get this "I don't want to hurt you" speech, which I usually tell them either not to worry about me and go have fun OR if I'm into them I just let them know that I won't give them the chance then and we should go our separate ways. This has been a pattern with about 15 different women ages 18-32 now and I'm not really sure what I'm doing wrong here. I mean yea, I am kind by nature and I have no desire to change that, but I'm also assertive and show that.
I do tend to start falling for them I guess. When they start calling me Babe and Boo, or referring to me as their man, and shit like that they would call their boyfriend I often start evaluating if I want more with them than just something casual. I'm learning my lesson on this, though.
KISS - Keep it Stupid Simple