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    Revivia Guest

    Default New to the pick up scene. Please help.

    Hey, I have recently started studying pick up strategies, skils, etc, and watched David Deangelo's Man Transformation and Mode One to start off. I have a dilemna and I would really appreciate all of the people who take the time to read my post and give me feedback, suggestions, advice, etc. It is greatly appreciated.

    There is this girl I met about 2 weeks ago at a college party that I am currently interested in. I am 22 yrs old and she is 19 yrs old if that makes any difference. Since that time I have made it known to her that I am interested in her, so as to not be placed into the infamous "friend zone" that we all hate. I have walked her home from her work late at night a couple times, and just recently spent the night at her place 2 times, each time consisting of watching a movie, cuddling, hand holding and me giving her a quick massage, her resting her head on my chest, that type of stuff. We have also texted a lot back and forth during this time.

    The issue at hand is that I still haven't kissed the girl yet, or made any other moves besides just cuddling, etc. My question is do you think she is interested in me, and what should I do to take this to the next level? I invited her to a concert with her tonight, so I feel this would be the perfect experience to make my move. Thanks for the help. If you want any more details, please ask.

    Update: I just texted her about 5 mins ago and she wants to pregame while I chill at her place for a bit before we hit up the concert. I'm leaving in a couple hours.

  2. #2
    Raven Guest

    Default Re: New to the pick up scene. Please help.

    She probably is interested if she's cuddling with you. Anyway bro, try this:

    Start staring at her lips when she talks. Then look into her eyes. Then at her lips for a moment, then at her eyes, then grab her above the hips and bring her in, and kiss her. The girl will sometimes go for you first in this case. Also, you could like, just kiss her while you're cuddling. One way I ALWAYS get a kiss is to bet a girl while playing pool or whatever. If I win, she has to kiss me, if she wins, I'll do what she wants in the bet (often times a girl will pick a message, a kiss too, whatevs). This gets the kissing thing going.

  3. #3
    chulin Guest

    Default Re: New to the pick up scene. Please help.

    escalate the sexual Tension bro ..she already feels comfortable wit u ..u need to go for the kiss if shes cool wit u 2 cuddlin n bein close u only a step from kiss closin ..u can do the gazin at her lips then her eyes then lips n go for it or u can tell her im tryin so hard not to kiss u rite now she will tell u wats stoppin u n go for it [if u stay where u at now for too long ..u mite get stuck in the friend zone or she mite lose interest]

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    BadMedicine Guest

    Default Re: New to the pick up scene. Please help.

    Its a mans role to escalate. if they don't say no it means yes. always escalate, slowly, steadily, progress. touch her hand, touch her hair, brush her leg, brush hair off her face, hold her, kiss her, always escalate. be polite, listen to them if they say no, but escalate if not.

  5. #5
    Revivia Guest

    Default Re: New to the pick up scene. Please help.

    Thanks for the replies guys!

    I recently came back from the concert, so here's an update. While walking to the parking garage to the concert, I held out my hand for her to hold, to increase Kino. She just stood there doing nothing, so I told her in a alpha male way to hold my hand, but she refused. When I asked why she told me that she considers any type of physical contact a sign of intimacy and should be reserved only for couples (e.g. bf/gf). I told her that I've never heard a girl tell me that before and she told me she grew up very religious and her mom is old school and raised her up as such. Even a friendly arm around the back she viewed as uncomfortable. She said I was trying to move way too fast, even though it was only light kino such as trying to hold hands, etc.

    She told me she recently broke up from a 3 yr long relationship about a couple months ago, and she was still in the process of recovering from that relationship and that she didn't want any kind of relationship at the moment. She said in the future she would be down for seeing people, and left it at that. It was next to impossible to establish any type of kino, and trust me I tried almost every damn way possible. Its so weird because before she let me massage her, cuddle with her, hold her hand, etc, and know she is getting all sketched out by this.

    When I dropped her off at her house after the concert, I gave her a kiss on the cheek and forehead which she didn't mind, but didn't go for a kiss on the lips because I wanted to be respectful. I texted her saying I would've kissed her on the lips if it wasn't for the fact of her current situation. She laughed at that and told me she would've slapped me in the face if I did that, wtf. I repllied with a text asking if she was serious and she said "haha maybe". I didn't know what to make of this. That about sums up the end of the night. Where should I go from here? Advice, tips, suggestions,etc would help out a lot. I feel it ended badly but it wasn't for lack of initiative and trying by my part *sighs*

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    Gaara Guest

    Default Re: New to the pick up scene. Please help.

    you can only give her the opportunity man but when she sent that text "haha maybe" you could respond with "only one way to find out haha " well thats what i would do.. does she seem to be the kind of girl thats a follwer?

  7. #7
    Revivia Guest

    Default Re: New to the pick up scene. Please help.

    She's definately the follower type. Thanks for the reply. I'd love to hear other people's opinion on this too. Thanks in advance.

    I realized also after reflecting on last night and rereading my post that I didn't really apply what the author suggests throughout the book for "Mode One" about being very upfront and honest with her about my intentions and escalating sexually through my verbals and Kino , so its time I go and reread the book again and better apply the suggestions for the future. I am new to all of this and learning a lot from all of your replies and realize that I have made some mistakes along the way, and I accept and learn from them. Addtional replies and suggestions would be awesome. Thanks in advance. I figure she is just playing games with me and I am not the type of guy that stands for being used. I'll probably at least freeze her out and see what happens and let her initiate the next conversation.
    Last edited by Revivia; 12-10-2010 at 10:00 AM.

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    Raven Guest

    Default Re: New to the pick up scene. Please help.

    So she will cuddle with you but not hold your hand?

    Freeze her out. She also sounds high maintenance. I am pretty religious, and I know plenty of religious girls - she is tooling with you bro. If it were me, and I wanted an LTR, I would ignore her and move on. She isn't attracted. Maybe you want to put her into your very own friend zone and be legit friends with her, at least for now.

  9. #9
    Revivia Guest

    Default Re: New to the pick up scene. Please help.

    Thanks for the reply Raven. I am thinking the same thing that she is probably interested in me and somewhat attracted but she still needs time to be comfortable starting with a new relationship. I am not the type of guy to just be by her side and wait until she is ready. I'll continue talking to and seeing other girls in the meantime, and just have me and her be friends for now as you suggested. Should I actually say, "lets just be friends for now until you're ready for something more.", or just put her in my own friends zone without actually telling her?
    Last edited by Revivia; 12-11-2010 at 08:12 AM.

  10. #10
    Raven Guest

    Default Re: New to the pick up scene. Please help.

    Put her in your own friend zone without actually telling her. Chances are good if she is somewhat attracted now, which she probably is, that jealousy will arise out of seeing you do well with other women, and spur her to action. It is good to see you have not developed any kind of one-ism - you will do well.


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