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    Default How to go about starting something?

    So I've got a crush on a girl but the thing is I messed it up pretty hard awhile ago. Last year I was fat and an AFC if I was even average. Well she sat at my lunch table and I totally sucked a big one at talking to her and being slick at all. I messaged her over facebook over the summer. Bombed that hard too. Over the summer I lost the weight equal to a small child and my real personality came out(good) Now I stopped liking her over the summer and hadn't talked to her since September, but now its starting to come back because I sit next to her in a new class this semester and actually COMMUNICATE.

    Things working against me are: I bombed the tits out of it last summer. She likes someone else(But I don't see anything ever happening).In the class we have together it's a bunch of girls, my friend(guy) and I. I'm a noob. Can't talk during class because the teacher is a tool shed.

    Things working for me: Same friend cliques, all of her friends are in long term relationships but her, so she must feel left out right?! She likes baseball players (I play for my school).

    So i'm just wondering how do I attract her? I have ideas of what to do from researching but remember I use to be fat and weird as tits, I've never had a girlfriend, so I have no experience!

    I don't know how to act, Really excited to be around her, normal, wild, boring, emo, crazy?! That and should I say something in front of her friends after class or something or try to get her alooone?

    I'm just lost.
    Last edited by Noob; 03-19-2011 at 04:51 PM. Reason: Ideas

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    Default Re: How to go about starting something?

    How to attract her?

    Well, an answer to this question would cover WAY too many subjects to be put in a post on a forum...

    You need to read, man.

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    Default Re: How to go about starting something?

    Alright I am going to pull on stuff that I have learned from different sources that should be able to help you out because I wish I had my knowledge that I have now when I was in High School.

    Cocky+Funny is a good place to start. Just try to be interesting and different from other guys. Point out funny things in class and poke fun at her too. Many guys are just funny but try to be too nice to the girl directly; show her that you are not scared of the outcome...and never apologize for anything you say or do around her.

    The next thing you need to do is show social worth. If you sit near her make friends with everyone around yall, don't always be available, and don't always text her back right away when she sends you a text message.

    Your goal needs to be invite her on a date somewhere. There are two ways I would go about this if I were you...
    1) Plan something fun and interesting with a group of friends and then CALL her, (if she doesn't answer wait 3 hours and then send her a witty text like "Do you like adventures?" or something like that) when you talk to her just simply say "hey, some friends and I are going to do X do you want to come with me?".

    2) Call her and say "I am going to go do this on X night, do you want to come with me?".

    One has friends along with you and the other doesn't. Use both, I don't care. The main thing with these is that you are showing her your life does not revolve around her. If she cannot make it don't make a big deal about it, say something like "Ill let you know how it went, maybe you will get to come next time".

    This is just a place to start, the main thing is be indifferent to outcomes. Talk to other girls in your classes and such too, don't get tied up in this one girl. If it doesn't work out who cares.



    But like Al Said you need to read up on some stuff. There is nothing wrong with reading and seeking help on this topic. Women read about how to seduce men, and get them to do what they want on a weekly basis through Cosmo. You need to be prepared.

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    Default Re: How to go about starting something?

    Ok, so foxy gave something more specific I can go with.

    If you want to tell (not ask) her to come with you somewhere with some friends of yours:

    BEFORE to invite her anywhere. Describe her the next thing you're gonna do with your friends. How exciting and fun it's gonna be... Present it in the best way you can.
    Then, at the end of your 'presentation', tell her something like:
    "No, no... I see the way you're looking at me... I won't invite you to come with me... Maybe next time... If you're nice, we'll see."

    And don't speak about it again till after the 'event'.

    You should then say: (cocky-funny, making fun of her)
    "You should have come, really... We had a lot of fun. Oh, (smiling/teasing) I forgot, I dindn't invite you..."

    "Ok... You have been nice, so next time I'll let you come with me."

    and the next time you can tell her to come and she will feel like thanking you. YOU'll be in charge, in control.

    This works, of course, if she doesn't get invited by one of your common friends.
    If she comes (at the first 'event'), don't act surprised or disappointed. Smile and say something like:
    "I knew you really wanted to come... to be with me..." And keep on playing with her. Like she was into you and you'd make fun of it.

    It'll work (see the "power of suggestion" thread to get an idea of what can induce in her that kind of behavior.)

    Use Kino like using the "claw" for one second saying "Oh it's ok, you don't look that bad. I could make out with you..." And release her smiling.

    Teasing + kino will get you everywhere because it adds comfort implicitely.
    But don't forget to look in her eyes and show some (non-verbal) real attraction from time to time. More and more in fact, till you show her you want her.
    The goal is to unconsciously, step by step, getting her to accept and desire the idea to be with you.

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    Last edited by Alanswer; 03-21-2011 at 10:08 PM.

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    Default Re: How to go about starting something?

    Excellent.

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    Default Re: How to go about starting something?

    Alright I see what you're going for I'll tell you how things go ;D


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