Re: Worst Flake Ever?
1. Were you more concerned with avoiding her or the guy that out-gamed you?
Originally Posted by Charrua89
2. Not a terrible idea, if done properly*. However, confrontation is not what I'm after.
3. This would not fit under "properly".
4. Women don't generally hold physical attraction as a high priority like men. While a factor, most women will eagerly sustitute other attributes for physical attractiveness.
*When I approach or engage a woman who previously shot me down, whether it be from me asking her out or after we "dated" some, I have a goal in mind. That goal, for the most part, is to make her wish she was still around me and help her to see she made a mistake. Whether or not I would take her back is irrelevant. I make her feel a loss while being congenial. I want to leave her better than I found her, for her to know I do that to her, and for her to yearn for it.
A bonus is: she'll tell her friends.
Don't burn bridges unnecessarily.
Example: The woman I dated in May screwed up. Even though she pulled bitch toward the end, I still speak to her when I see her out (or try to). I don't bother her, but I say, "hi" and ask her how she is doing. Until the last time I saw her out, she would literally lift her nose at me, scoff, and walk away without saying a word. Last time I saw her out, she stopped and we caught up for a bit. She mentioned she had seen me with a couple of different women. I read some jealousy in her exhibitions. A week later, I saw a vehicle that looked just like hers on the side of the Interstate. I texted her asking if she was on the Interstate. She responded back that she was. I called her and asked if she was okay and if she needed help. She was taken aback. She could hardly believe a guy she treated like sh1t would still care enough about her to call; let alone come to where she was and physically help her. Turns out, it wasn't her pulled over on the side.
This is different than being a suckup or a pushover. When I saw her and her current boyfriend having problems, I didn't offer solace. If she really needed help, that's different. I'm not available to her for emotional comfort or routine assistance, right now or in the forseeable future. We aren't friends, nor are we enemies.
I have failed more than most men have tried.
Every woman you pass up is a woman you will never have.