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    Crispy is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Exclamation Need Advice: HB just broke up with bf, now interested in me...

    Okay guys Funny Story True Story, I am a senior about to grab my undergrad and have been going over to my friend's fiance's house every other week or so to have drinks and dinner, or watch a movie ....whatever, you get the gest. Well, at that house there are 4 girls that live there and they are all fun.
    As far as my game is concerned I feel comfortable with it at the bar scene. However, this scenario is different and I'll explain...
    While going over to my friend's fiance's house, we'll call her house "the house" for the time being. we would go over to the house to drink, dance and what not... but up until this past month this girl, we'll call her "H" hasn't been allowed to socialize by her boyfriend. Well, "H" got rid of her boyfriend this past month and my friend says that she is interested in me. So over the past two or three weeks we have hung out in a group setting, and things seem like they are going well.
    The problem lays within the fact that we haven't ever had time to talk one on one. We text back and forth and engage in small chit chat, but the majority of our time together consist of sitting around a room playing a game or talking amongst 8-10 people.
    Like I said my short-term game is on point, but "H" isn't that type of girl, she is something special....a long-term special. So I'm trying to take this slow but my slow-game is that of a highschooler. I get nervous, though in a group setting I'm very confident and funny, generally dictating the conversation while trying to get her involved.
    I want to ask her out for something rather informal, like lunch, or hitting up some trails in my jeep, which I think she will be down for. The thing that concerns me is not only the awkward moments or lulls in conversation. Also, how to tie in serious conversation with meaningless jokes and ranting.
    Any and all comments will be welcomed and if you need anymore info on this situation please say so.
    I really would like some advice and trust you guys on this forum, please make me proud. haha.

    -Crispy

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    Default Re: Need Advice: HB just broke up with bf, now interested in me...

    First off, I think you should consider that she JUST broke up with her ex... Do you really want to be a rebound now? I'm sure she's a great girl and you a great guy but maybe you should just wait till the water calms down a lil. This guy sounds like a jealous controlling guy but that doesn't mean she didn't have feelings for him. She's looking to fill that void for now and you my friend are the target (no pun intended). BUT, if you're serious about this girl then test the waters with her to get The Vibe that she might be serious with you as well. Hope everything works out!!

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    Default Re: Need Advice: HB just broke up with bf, now interested in me...

    I originally thought the same thing with the fresh break-up myself. My friend who is dating "H" 's roommate has been talking to H a lot and from what he has been telling me is that she is interested in seeing where this goes and that she is done and over with her ex....in fact he is moving back home from school at the end of the semester.
    So just like it sounds, it is a huge cluster-farck

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    Default Re: Need Advice: HB just broke up with bf, now interested in me...

    56 views and 1 reply? ...you guys on this site aren't what I thought you were. It seems to me you just want to plug some products. :\

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    Default Re: Need Advice: HB just broke up with bf, now interested in me...

    I defiantly get the situation you are in bro correct me if I'm wrong but it sounds like with this girl you want more than just a hookup like long term and all that

    Seeing as she just got out of a relationship she wouldn't want to begin one again that quickly (woman are weird that way) so I reckon the informal setting hanging out with friends is a good way to start off. What I would do is always look for a couple of IOIs because how it was with me in past situations if I solely just concentrated on the friend telling me she liked me it subconsciously made me pit her up on a petastoul which is the worst thing in a situation like this and defiantly a recipe for disaster

    Once you've gotten some IOIs id go in with the question do you MAYBE wanna do something later

    I used maybe in this scenerio because she just got out of a relationship she wouldn't want things being forced on her but since she showed IOIs she's bound to say yes

    From there on suggest something you know she likes ( look at her fb or something) but say it off hand like ahh I havent been____ in ages

    I prefer it when the place in more of an open setting with more people because it relaxes the situation ( if you tell me what type of girl she is then maybe I can help come up with some places)

    From then on id think of her as a friend because if you glorify her in your head it will make stumble in situations and defiantly make you a bit nervous

    Maybe throw in a little cocky funny and end of the night with a let's do this again sometime?

    Hope I was able to help

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    Default Re: Need Advice: HB just broke up with bf, now interested in me...

    Well bro, that is a super tricky situation to Isolate. Try texting her while everyone else is around and make her laugh a little, it's exciting like her own private little thought bubble It's a good ioi if you say something over them to make her just flat out cheese, or she smiles every time she gets your text/goes to read it.

    Depending on your situation, you could make your move to escalate physically or keep things smooth/slow. If she just broke off that serious of a relationship, I would take her now and but let her know you aren't looking for a relationship with her at the moment because she just got out of one and wait it out, but once you have had a woman its easier to get her later imo. Plus this should also aid in keeping you out of the friend zone.

    Text isolation works great here, while your texting her if she is digging it, tell her to follow you. Wait for her to check the text then just walk off somewhere and don't even acknowledge here, if she doesn't follow its oh well, if she does then get that kiss man.


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