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Old 06-20-2010, 08:11 AM
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Default Met a girl in Chicago....but messed up

Visited my dad in IL this weekend. Went to best buy to help him buy a comp. the girl working there was an easily an 8. I practiced EC, and body language she seemed very interested. I wanted to talk to her more, but my dad always reversed the convo his way. anyway...I was beating myself up all night, then it clicked! He used HER cell phone to call his roommate about the comp from best buy, so i looked in his phone and got her number. I am back in IN now but wouldnt mind texting her and getting to know her better....perhaps meet for coffee sometime in the next month, and see.

What do I say in the text? I dont wanna seem creepy stalker, yet not wimpy needy. I was really into her, and having her number was a sign! LOL
I waas thinking of texting "hey..I beleive my dad used your cell to make a call from best buy the other day. wanted to say you did a great job! Do you have a myspace? (or) "would you like to get together sometime? " (and just leave the myspace crap out)


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Old 06-20-2010, 09:36 AM
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lol wow that text is actually kind of creeper status. oh yeah my dad used ur phone and then i stole ur number out of it and im now trying to text you. lol i would try and actually make a joke out of the situation. maybe something like " ok well a guy doesnt usually text a girl without the girl first giving him her number. So in actuality this is me NOT contacting you ". she will obviously ask who is this and you need to try and keep it light, playful, funny, and different. so when she says who is this just put something like stuff like:

“Your Prince Charming…duh!”
“You didn’t save my #?!!! I’m so hurt…sniff sniff..lol”
“{your name}. the ridiculously unattractive guy who was boring…haha ”
“Your future ex husband of course ”

by doing this your making the interaction less creepy, you allowing yourself to transition very easily, your setting yourself up for some roleplaying later if she plays along with the text and then you just being different, memorable and getting her attracted to you. Well i hope this helps and personally thats the way i would take it.

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Old 06-20-2010, 10:15 AM
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lol wow that text is actually kind of creeper status. oh yeah my dad used ur phone and then i stole ur number out of it and im now trying to text you. lol i would try and actually make a joke out of the situation. maybe something like " ok well a guy doesnt usually text a girl without the girl first giving him her number. So in actuality this is me NOT contacting you ". she will obviously ask who is this and you need to try and keep it light, playful, funny, and different. so when she says who is this just put something like stuff like:

“Your Prince Charming…duh!”
“You didn’t save my #?!!! I’m so hurt…sniff sniff..lol”
“{your name}. the ridiculously unattractive guy who was boring…haha ”
“Your future ex husband of course ”

by doing this your making the interaction less creepy, you allowing yourself to transition very easily, your setting yourself up for some roleplaying later if she plays along with the text and then you just being different, memorable and getting her attracted to you. Well i hope this helps and personally thats the way i would take it.
LOL, wow thats some good stuff! I'm going to use that for sure, thank you. One more question, is it best to text a girl at night when they are stressfree and relaxed, or should I not wait and just friggn text her whenever?


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lol well since you want to make it light and playful you dont want her thinking a lot about you being wierd so you want a time when she can basically talk so you can get as many texts in so you can have a strong frame through text and destroy that creepy guy frame. haha and your welcome i hope that works just try to make your first goal to get rid of the creepy vibe and have her just be comfortable with you that your a normal and funny playful guy. haha well good luck i hope it works

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Old 06-20-2010, 10:26 AM
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lol well since you want to make it light and playful you dont want her thinking a lot about you being wierd so you want a time when she can basically talk so you can get as many texts in so you can have a strong frame through text and destroy that creepy guy frame. haha and your welcome i hope that works just try to make your first goal to get rid of the creepy vibe and have her just be comfortable with you that your a normal and funny playful guy. haha well good luck i hope it works
yea thats true. Im at work right now, so I will wait until Im home...6-7ish. thanks a lot!


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lol well on her job she will probably be home around the same time. thats perfect, it after she get home but before she goes out, if she goes out at all. so that will be perfect. and when texting try mirroring her actions. if she puts lol at the beginning do the same and copy the length of her text. it will make her feel more comfortable with you and build natural rapport. good luck!!

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Old 06-20-2010, 11:05 AM
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thats perfect. it will more than likely be around the same time she gets off and she will have a little time to talk if she is going out, and is she isnt going out you will have the evening to get her attracted to you and step towards that meet up. first off i want to give you some of my text game secrets. lol if you have read a couple of the posts online you know that i excel in my text game and damn proud of it. haha finally lots of texting pays off. one thing i like to do is mirror the girl im talking to. you have noticed that when you talk to someone and you see stuff like you in them you feel naturally comfortable around them. i took the same idea to text. you start mirroring their actions in hope to make them feel comfortable around you and build rapport. if she starts putting lol at the beginning of every text obviously she is happy to talk to you. its not that every text has her laughing out loud, its just that she is smiling and in a good mood. so if she puts lol at the beginning of like every text. start mirroring her but not to the extreme. leave a few out.
another good thing to mirror is length of text and time taken to reply, this will show you are in sync with how much she wants to talk and the importance of her text to you and vice versa. funny thing is i gave you that text line cause i stole it from a movie cause it was naturally good, and then used it myself and it worked beautifully. ill try to remember to the best of my knowledge how the text went.

Me: ok well a guy doesnt usually text a girl without the girl first giving him her number. So in actuality this is me NOT contacting you
her: oh really..lol and who might this be
Me: your Prince charming...lol didnt you know ?!?
Her: lol ok well if your my prince charming why arent you with me?
Me: lol well because the story is still continuing until we cross each others paths!
Her: lol ok well if you truly are my prince charming maybe we can cross paths a little sooner than scheduled!
Me: come on...you know it cant work that way. you cant break the rules!
Her: lol breaking the rules once in a while isnt a bad thing
(notice i have already gotten rid of the creepy vibe and she is already starting to use sexual innuendos and being playful. but i cant just go with it, i need to make her know that i have standards. good moment for a false fisqualifier!)
Me: LOL omg i cant believe your one of those girls!!! :O
Her: lol what do u mean?!?
(notice her shield is done and she is somewhat curious why and seems a little disappointed so bring her back in as a joke"
Me: lol cause i cant date rule breakers!! maybe im not your prince charming after all
Her: lol its not bad to break them every once in a while.
(notice i made her qualify herself and jump through my hoop and live to my standards. i have control of them frame and the interaction time to take it for a ride...roleplaying anybody?)
Me: lol ok wifey i will let it slide one time but in the future i might have to text divorce you if you break to many rules!!

ok well thats good enough i cant give you all my secrets now...but the entire idea is too get rid of the creepy vibe, take control of the interaction, create a strong frame and then just be fun, different, playful and def. tease. but make sure you know your TEXT-LISH or TEXTANESE when you tease so it doesnt come off wrong. maybe some :P will suffice when your teasing.

good luck hope this helped.

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Old 06-20-2010, 12:00 PM
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^--- too many lol`s in those txts. Its outrageous hahaha.

Mike before begining to text her. CALM DOWN. Wow you`re so over-exited with her, I can feel you wanting to fark her over the computer.
Tell yourself this girl was not that interesting, you`re there for fun. Maight as well have fun with her.
Keep telling yourself you don`t give a sh1t and theres nothing she can do to make you fall in love with you or w.e

Then just plan on having fun. Worst thing to start working on a chick is when you start sounding over desperate. Control your thoughts.


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lol wow dude u totally hit this forum hard today. but the lol's was to mirror her to make her feel natural rapport. there no problem with being anxious or wanting to see her and long as he controls his frame and thats not shown. mike just stick to what we talked about. first eliminate the crepper frame and vibe and then go in trying to build rapport, attraction, Sexual Tension, and then Comfort so then she is a lot less likely to Flake when you try to setup a meet

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Old 06-20-2010, 07:21 PM
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Thank you. I am using that text example right now as I type...I am awaiting a response.

Thanks guys. Im new to this PUA so the old me is still a bit nervous,lol


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