OK - Need some advice on a girl I've hung out with a couple times.

So a girl who is a friend of a friends hang out together occasionally. She does like me and I've blown it 3 times with her. Once she punches me on my arm and tells me she's leaving the get-together. Another she made it a point to walk beside me for a little while on a group walk and I did not say anything to her, and the other night we were out and about and she gets up close to me, plays with her hair and I did not close her.

The reason I'm not isn't as much anxiety (although, it's there) as much as my friend is sweet on her and I'm not much into asking out the girls that my friend is sweet on. The problems is my friend is not over and still seeing into his ex, and everyone knows this.

Do I write her a little not saying "Hey, I have not been asking out out when you've made it clear to me because I have a policy of not going out with girls that my friend is sweet on?" or something to that effect? I want to phrase it to not sound like a wuss, that I'm doing it out of character. It would probably be written and not said in person.

I know shes about ready to not see him anymore, period, even as a friend I suspect. I don't know if I'll see her again.

Your friends already has a girl. Don't let him ruin your game. Be the alpha and take what you want!

He isn't showing you the same respect so you are letting him be the alpha. Take it back.

tcomea i totally agree.

you are showing your friend too much respect. he has a girl so just take this one. just throw game at her and forget about it. the only time i dont hit on a girl with a friend is if he has already been gaming her, if they have a girl, or if he has a bunch and i just feel like gaming her. the last one i always tell them, im like dude you have a lot, im going to game this chick. the only time ill stop if he is like "dude i want to date her". other than that man, just game her. dont use the Opener you were using. just game from now on.

comp dont take this personal cause im going to tear you a new one.

are you dumb? wtf is wrong with you? the girl puts herself into a platter for you to dine in and you farking blew it? you are being so beta is not even funny. next time your friend will say hes "sweet"(wtf? pussiest word ive read all week) for all the girls in the world you are going to lie down and take it in the ass.

dude a farking note? notes are for pansies and sh1t shaggers(beerfest reference lol) be a farking man stand up for yourself and take whatever the fark you want. talk to people face to face. Men like us(you not included in the us yet) like things being said to our faces. we like the hard cold truth, wording things to make it sound harmless is for bitches and pussies. are you so beta you are scared of him beating you into a pulp over a girl thats not his partner?

you want to set boundaries? a reasonable boundary is his ex. that girl might be untouchable.

tough love my friend. learn from it and grow up.

PRJAV is right, you need to man up and take what you want. This girl is obviously in to you, and is you don't make a move soon you are going to lose your chance. How many times can you reject her (and yes, when she makes a pass at you, and you ignore her, you are rejecting her) before she gets insulted to the point where you are going to be left at home to play with yourself?

Tough sh1t if your friend is in to her; grow a pair, put down the note pad and get your d1ck wet.

ok well since you have had some tough love ill say it properly. everytime she puts herself out there and showing interest and you dont act. you r rejecting her. she wants to know you guys have mutual interest. even though your friend is feeling this girl doesnt mean you cant go for her. he has a girl and is just being greedy. he should have the same mutual respect for you. your not dating somebody and you r feeling her. so just give up the respect for now cause its not right for the situation and just pick her up. you guys are boys, im sure he wont care cause there are a million more pretty faces out there.

good luck bro, next time up the game like crazy and keno tons. she has already shown to keno you. return the favor. and escalate to show her that mutual interest since you have ignored her for a while

Got it!.. Thank you for the wake up call. I need it.

I like Direct Game, so I have no problmes telling her straight up (phrased to make me look good though, not like a pansy but as someone with respect for others) I know that was very beta. It's not all about my friend I don't think, but also about anxiety. Most of the reason behind the note is that I dont know if I will see her again. I'll ask her out next time I see her. I need to have a plan. I'll think of one.

We hugged when we left, mine was weak. I said "wait, come back here" and hugged her again firmly and picked her up. She complied. I don't know if that was good or bad, but it is what I did.