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Thread: Are You Flirting With Sexual Tension

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    Default Are You Flirting With Sexual Tension

    When you flirt with women does it lack sexual Tension, and border on a job interview?

    When you flirt with women do you wish you had the flirting power that some of the actor?s have in movies?

    When you flirt with women do you wonder why some guys have girls hanging off them, and some struggle?

    When you flirt with women are you TOO cocky in conversations, and you can feel it working until you hit a nerve and realize... not again?

    Flirting is easily the hardest concept for men to get who struggle with women, dating and relationships. Most men lack the ability to understand it, and then how to work with it. The primary way to influence sexual tension is to flirt with women.

    Sexual tension is essentially when there exists polarity, magnetism or, as we like to call it, Attraction. The largest misnomer that exists is that one can create attraction - this is FALSE.

    Do I have your attention now?

    Attraction is based on polarity and magnetism, NOT on the external elements you are probably obsessed with right now are what do I say, what should I wear or ow should I stand??

    In short, flirting is where we push away with our words, and pull towards with our energy. So, a classic scenario is where the man treats the woman as being slightly beneath him in coolness (I emphasize slightly, as too much comes across as cocky - which signals insecurity).

    You might call her a dork, while smiling at her - (the word dork is a playful insult, but the smile is an invitation).

    It takes some balls to flirt with women, as it indicates automatically a sexual interest, which is uncomfortable for many men. What you are looking for are opportunities to insult her, point out her flaws (not physical, of course), treat her like a little sister that you don't take seriously. Do all of this though with a SMILE - you don?t want to be taken at face value here. By pushing/pulling all in one we mix brain signals, and engage her emotionally. This is the clearest way to communicate that you are comfortable around her, and that she can be comfortable around you too.

    The best flirting comments are created in the moment, based on what she is revealing to you about herself at that moment. Flirting is basically the art of insulting, but doing so with a smile.

    Examples of How To Flirt With Women

    (If she is asking lots of testy questions) How much will you pay me once I pass the job interview?
    (then, if she continues asking questions, refer to her as Sir)

    Now, if you struggle when you flirt with women, I suggest this and practicing them on women LIVE. I strongly believe in using the scripts from the seduction community to learn the SKILLS - but then drop the training wheels. So, the above should get you started at least. What you are looking for though is the FEELING of flirting - so, when is there an opportunity to flirt with women?

    How does it feel to do it? What are her reactions to the things I say? Am I coming across too harshly? IS SHE HAVING FUN??

    Ultimately, if YOU are having fun then you will definitely translate your sense of humor clearly. If you are inexperienced, you are likely to mix the signals. But, guess what, you might have to bomb a time or two in order to clean up your signals - there is no replacement for live experience.

    If you can do this a few times, you will start to GET IT and your flirting skills with women will explode.

    Become a flirt with women machine, because you'll use it constantly in the interaction. It's an essential step that most guys tend to skip, or FAIL at miserably.

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    Sexual Tension is HUGE when it comes to meeting women. I would say that sexual tension is the number one thing that most guys don't do well and if mastered, would catapult their game to the next level.

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    I've definitely been working on sexual Tension. I used to really just go for the close ASAP - but now I try to get close and ride that fine line between ripping each others clothes off and pushing her away. It is amazing how powerful it can be when you both know that you are going to sleep with each other.. but you as the alpha man are making her wait.

    Super Powerful Stuff...

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    Default Re: Are You Flirting With Sexual Tension

    Usually tricking myself into seeming cool and confident when trying to pick up girls, I go for the cocky funny routine. Yet somehow it works and it doesn't. There is some attraction build up but I find it difficult to close. Still, I'de rather seem overly cocky than nervous and intimidated. Having been raised with impecable manners has in the long run lead me to be too polite and gentleman-like with women; a trait that has definitely held me down when picking up. Any advice on how to loose respect and chivalry towards women and how not to come across as a jerk?

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    Default Re: Are You Flirting With Sexual Tension

    Quote Originally Posted by sebastiena View Post
    Usually tricking myself into seeming cool and confident when trying to pick up girls, I go for the cocky funny routine. Yet somehow it works and it doesn't. There is some attraction build up but I find it difficult to close. Still, I'de rather seem overly cocky than nervous and intimidated. Having been raised with impecable manners has in the long run lead me to be too polite and gentleman-like with women; a trait that has definitely held me down when picking up. Any advice on how to loose respect and chivalry towards women and how not to come across as a jerk?
    That's exactly my situation also. I've been told I'm "TOO kind" and I get the feeling this affects my pick ups a lot.

    However I don't think we need to "loose respect" for them exactly. We just need to find the right balance. Can anyone help us with that?
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    Default Re: Are You Flirting With Sexual Tension

    Quote Originally Posted by Splitting The Atom View Post
    That's exactly my situation also. I've been told I'm "TOO kind" and I get the feeling this affects my pick ups a lot.

    However I don't think we need to "loose respect" for them exactly. We just need to find the right balance. Can anyone help us with that?
    Yup.

    Respect but not reverence. Respect is something you give someone AFTER they've EARNED it - this is why PUA's neg until they've qualified themselves. Reverence is something GIVEN because they DESERVE it - this is why AFC's put the p**sy on the pedestal.
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    Default Re: Are You Flirting With Sexual Tension

    Quote Originally Posted by Autismus View Post
    Yup.

    Respect but not reverence. Respect is something you give someone AFTER they've EARNED it - this is why PUA's neg until they've qualified themselves. Reverence is something GIVEN because they DESERVE it - this is why AFC's put the p**sy on the pedestal.
    Exactly, a lot of people think that being nice and always trying to make everyone feel happy is key to getting what you want, in reality it will make you a nice guy and they really don't get anything they want because of this philosophy. It will halt you from gaining your full potential because you don't break peoples expectations of you.

    The thing you want to do is to literally be yourself (and not the nice 'be yourself' because no one truly knows what that is), it's in terms of freeing your mind from filters that don't allow you to certain things. One of these is flirting, women love an honest man but in some sense be consideration, you don't need to say something overly nice but you don't need to be harsh, just tell it like it is. When a woman see's a man who speaks for himself and thinks for himself then she will have met a rare thing in modern society: an actual man.
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    Default Re: Are You Flirting With Sexual Tension

    You have to calibrate...it depends on the personality of the girl! If she is extremely shy, then you better connect with her emotionally. But if the girl is more outgoing...she will enjoy flirting with you! Then you can create sexual Tension without running the risk of alliterating her!


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