what to do when your city sucks on dating locations

So I have the typical rural Illinois county with one major city of 10,000, and that city has very little dating locations; restaruants, bowling alley, mall with movie theater, target/walmart...then that's where the list ends. Not a big selection but I'm curious what other people explore for ideas on a date. I know the movie theater is a bad first date because you can't talk, so a ideal location needs to have a good balance of fun and adventure without too much travel.

It can be anywhere to be honest, even a walk in the park will do as long as your talking and HAVING FUN - thats the main goal of the date to have fun!

I live in a similar small town, and have been thinking a lot about this topic recently. But after looking up the subject enough I realized that the key thing to finding a good date location is to go somewhere that is just different. Outside of the norm. In my "city" there are a few more things to do than the small town I grew up in "which didn't have a mall or any dateworthy restuarants". Where I live now has a few mini-golf places, a small mall, and a few really nice places to eat. However, I still avoid some of these places because I realized that everyone here is bored with them now. So now I've started looking for places that people may have either forgotten about, or just haven't noticed. The last girl I took out to a restuarant that neither of us had been to for years. An upcoming date is going do involve a walk through our downtown area, and when I do visit my hometown, I plan to take a childhood crush to an old park to basically act like little kids again for a while. These eccentric places "as long as they're not freaky" will help you stick out from the other guys, and actually give the girl an experience. She'll remember it way longer than she'll remember the guy who took her to the small town diner "which I was guilty of". For really small towns there aren't always new places you can go to. In that case I would say try to score one out of town to an event of some kind. I'm still working with that option myself. Good luck man.

I am in a similar situation too. But just be creative try a picnic. If you are both dog owners try walking your dogs together. Go out to a lookout spot at night to watch the stars and talk. Movie theaters are bad yes, but try a drive-in movie, so you can talk and enjoy a film. Try a group activity, integrate your friends with her friends.

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Movie theaters are good for later dates, just not early ones. Always follow up a movie with a dinner, drinks or coffee after so you can talk. Don't do the dinner before.

Anyway, this is actually a good problem to have, because if you're rural, it probably means the quality of women you can pick from is higher. City girls have huge bitch shields and are a lot more corrupt. Trust me, I lived in Boston, D.C. and around other cities, and rural chicks are a lot better. You're worrying about a phantom problem, really. As flyguy said, what's important is having fun. If all you have around you is restaurants and a bowling alley, use them. You don't have to go balls to the wall. Heck, I take city girls bowling all the time, or minigolfing. Since I've done it so much I practically have a routine down for both locations that works wonders. When the weather is nice, do hikes (more like nature walks... most girls aren't down to bust ass up a mountain), picnics, go swimming, etc.

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So I actually had a date last night that to be honest was one of the best times I've ever had with a girl. I've seen her once before and, being in Arkansas, I was surprised that we found so much to do. It started with me going over to her house so we could release her pet turtle since she didn't have the right habitate to keep it healthy during the winter time. We literally had NO PLANS to fall back on after that. I didn't figure we would have that much fun, but I noticed that she had a classic lomography camera in the back seat of her car. We then took a full roll of film and took picture of lots of crazy stuff around town. We went to Walmart to have the picture developed and bought 2 small slices of cheese cake which we ate in her car while we talked and decided to use another full roll of film to take pictures of the Christmas lights in town. It was a lot of fun just talking and making crazy pictures. We were actually driving back to Walmart to develope the next set of pictures, but we noticed a Walgreens that still did 1-hour developement. We decided to wait in her car and talk while we waited for the pictures to be developed. She had recently decided to make a bucketlist on her phone like the one on mine, and I was reading through it. She was missing the 100th thing to do, and I decided to fill it in with "Kiss someone in a Walgreens parking lot". She laughed, but sure enough we kissed for a little while and then went to get the film. It was pretty late by this point (7 hours of hanging out) and we got back to her house. We made out some more (2 hours of it), and I thought I was going to need to go to the hospital to have my lower lip reattached. I actually want our relationship to stay as friends, so we decided not to advance past that.

Point of this is that you can go on an amazing date without there being anything to do in your town. We didn't go to a movie, a restaurant, or a club. Yet I would replay that day over and over again.

Good luck man!

where i live its practically the same things.. it depends, you should know a little about her interests so if she likes a BAND a lot, (and they makin a concert or something) thats your place, but if she doesnt likes concerts dont bother askin her.. she will most prob say yeah if she likes you but not have a good time or just ask her like : "Hey, why don't you come to the movies with me this weekend? or any other place you'd like"

what you can do is if you have an apple or android phone there are apps out there that will help u find cool locations.

look up "places" or "where" or "there" on them. i dont know which is for which type of phone but that is both of the names.

it use to help me out from time to time. now i know all the good places

Contrary to what you're thinking, you should be thankful that you've been blessed with few places to go out. This is a great argument to have the date at your place or her place. I've had first dates at the girls house before by talking to her about what she likes to cook and then drooling over one of the options, "OOOHHHH I just can't wait to try your spaghetti and meat ballllss!!" Later that night she was trying my meat balls if you know what I mean

For first date, do dinner and a movie. It's been done to death for a reason. I use dinner to talk to her a lot and get her laughing and familiar with me, then at the movies, that's a break from coming up with witty things to say, and I do kino at the theatre. Touch her hand, stroke her thigh, put her legs on my lap (my favorite) and put my arms around her. After that, I ask her if she wants to go to my place for a drink and my house is chock full of booze of different kinds. Dinner and a movie = ideal first date. Now for later dates, the home date is perfect. I cook fantastically and ask her what she wants to eat (anything) and I can cook it (with a day's prep on some things). Shows off my talent, cheap (yet not too cheap because I use expensive, high quality ingredients but still cheaper than restaurant), and she's already in my apartment so I don't have to ask her if she wants to come up to my apartment after the date! Saved lots of money and had lots of fun with the home date.