Eye Contact Flirting

Great flirting requires mastery of eye contact. Here are guidelines for eye contact flirting:

1. When a woman is acting favorably to you, or you have a fun vibe happening, keep solid eye contact. In this way you reward her, and she will do more of what you like.

2. As things progress and you are alone with a woman, stick to the 70 / 30 rule. This states that 70% of the time you should be holding eye contact, and 30% of the time, you should not. This sets the stage to get women comfortable with you and ready for seduction.

3. When you are saying something funny, it's better to not seek eye contact. In this way it doesn't appear that you are looking for approval for your jokes.

4. If you are making a move physically and touching her, do not look where you are touching. This signals to her that you aren't seeking her approval for you Escalation.

5. When approaching a group for the first time, and you are talking, balance eye contact throughout the various men and women in the group. The idea is to get women involved in your conversation, but at the same time you keep your interest on a tenative level. (This disarms the men and shows you are not a threat)

6. Never use your own eye contact in attempt to get women to hold eye contact with you. She should be trying to get eye contact with you more than you are with her. To do this effectively, it shouldn't be something that you focus on too much. Remember, this is flirting, and it should be fun.

Once you have the tenative interest Mindset down, and are good at fliritng, you will set up a really fun vibe between you and the woman. At this point, you want to put up a false barrier to give her something to overcome.

Here are some examples of false barriers. One friend of mine is a DJ, and gets gigs at parties There are plenty of beautiful women at these parties, but he doesn't want to break the professional relationship. He can demonstrate his interest in a responsible way by saying: "Hey. I like you but you're going to get me in trouble! I have a job to do!"

Or, if an attractive woman comes up to request a song he can say something like "At first I thought you were cute, but then you asked me to play X! Can you do any better?" Again, this is flirting, and it should be playful.

In a more general work situation you can say something like: "You know, you are so adorable. Good thing we're co-workers, or else we'd be getting into all kinds of trouble." Then sit back and watch as she works like the devil to plot some 'trouble' for the two of you.

Remember, these are false barriers, and in order for them to work, you must first get women interested through your flirting. When a woman is interested enough, barriers give her just the push she needs to motivate her into making a move. So the key is, get women into your playful vibe with flirting, then playfully throw up the barrier. You'll be surprised just how easy it really is.

This milf/cougar keeps playing the eye contact game with me at the gym. Yet I always find her nestled with the other gym moms and almost unable to approach. When she is on the gym floor she always has head phones in but burns holes through me either via the mirrors in the gym or through close proximity. Here's the kicker I've even seen this lady at the grocery store and when I noticed her looking at me she turned away blushing beet red pushing her kids in the cart. All signs are there I'm lost and/or possibly frightened as to how to take this to the next step and get it done.

thanks in advance

I am always afraid of falling in the wrong relationship. So I am committed to getting out there and making it happen now!

First off make sure she's not married then u should know this cougars like strong men not little boys so Direct Approach deffinatly direct approach if she's ioi ing u first and neg and tease her a lot but not the way u do it normally
e.g.: don't say that's a nice dress i don't like the colour though or u could have done better with the colour
u should day that's an interesting dress,(wait for her reaction no matter what it is even a smile but it shouldn't be thank u normally) then u say and an interesting colour (by here she would be confused which is u're goal if she wasn't at first) she'll ask i don't understand do u like it or not? then take her hand twirl her slowly while looking at her slowly then don't say anything that will kill her
P.S.:Keep in mind if she's hot she's probably seen everything even PUA's
Gd luck cougars are hard but being with them is............ awwwwwwwwwwwwww is the only word i can use to describe it

The PHD of PUA would walk up to her at the gym when she is not around everyone (even if she has her headphones on) put his hand on her shoulder to get her attention and say something like 'hey my name is ___ I have seen you here and at the grocery store how awesome is that? I wanted to introduce myself'. He would not ask for her name (he would wait to see if she offered hers). as a side note (morals aside) he wouldnt be too concerned if she was married there are all kinds of people in this world and if its a deal breaker she will let you know.

now in all fairness, am I am PHD of PUA. no but I am close. Something similart to this approach is on my to-do list

Honest truth is its really the only move there is.

These are some really good tips. Thanks. I never thought about the psychology behind these small gestures, but its true. Solid post!

I especially liked the part about seeking approval for jokes through eye contact. Speaking of which, some girls haven't got the same sense of humor as you, so what would you do in situations like these if youre a sarcastic person and your "AMAZING" (relatively) jokes aren't interpreted? Do you stop jokes altogether?

Hey! i wanna thnk for this thread it is very helpful! I used this few days ago! and get it!!! thnks!

I need to improve my eye contact flirting skills because I have a tendency to drop eye contact first.