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Unread 06-02-2013, 01:20 AM
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Hey guys,

I'm new here, just starting to get into game.

I'm just wondering, what would be the first thing I should be concentrating on when I'm talking to women, to try to build attraction?

For example, eye contact (i'm not very good at this)? OR body language? Or voice tonality? etc etc.

Just looking for some advice when you're first starting out.

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Unread 06-03-2013, 10:10 AM
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All the above things you should pay attention to.think of developing more qualities that are attractive like being humorous(thing cock funny), and working towards getting somewhere in your life as in improving your lifestyle in the long run.as you gain experience your expression as in the way you project and confidence will work itself out


 
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Thanks, I guess that is ultimately what girls are attracted to. A man that is comfortable with himself and his life.


 
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Body language and voice is very important if you ask me.

You can find various threads about building a perfect body language just a simple search away.

I'll add a little insight about voice though. RSD Team breaks down the speaking voice into 3 parts:
Trying rapport (TR)
Neutral Rapport (NR)
Breaking Rapport (BR)

If your voice has a TR effect, it sounds a bit high note than your usual talking. Imagine yourself saying "How old are you?" to a girl. In TR state when you ask that question you end the sentence on a higher note, like a child talking about something exciting. This is an immediate turn off for women, they can instantly sense the weird vibe in your voice and they will brush you off easily. When you are in TR state, it's like you are trying to get the girl's rapport, you become needy.

NR state is when you're talking to your friends. You are cool, composed, every word flows naturally, no awkward ups and downs.

BR state comes up a bit more cocky than NR state, like you are a bit angry when talking. If you get stuck in BR state people will think of you as an asshole. But BR state is good because it shows you are a leader, alpha.

So what you need to do is never ever ever be in TR state, be in NR state and BR state from time to time. Try to balance them.

I hope you'll understand my explanation. Good luck,
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Thanks, I guess that is ultimately what girls are attracted to. A man that is comfortable with himself and his life.
Yep mix it up with attractive qualities too that triggers attraction


 
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I'd say start from getting over your Aproach Anxiety! ( many starters have them). Then you can get to start thinking about talking to the girls lol. ( I'm still a little but new too compared to many of those top notch guys on here

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Non verbals are the biggest killer in my book faking confidence having the best words and all that crap go right out the window if your non verbals suck. They are an immediate lie detector your body is harder to control, it automatically starts to screw you up if you even get the slightest bad vibe. Best building blocks body language, Kino and framing. The rest is all easy to Calibrate after you master your non verbals. If your non verbals suck who cares what you are honestly saying or anything else for that matter.

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Presenting yourself as a sexually viable man.

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Thanks, I guess that is ultimately what girls are attracted to. A man that is comfortable with himself and his life.
I can't stress this enough!! I woman is attracted not only to a man that is himself...but more importantly, his BEST self.

Develop good qualities about yourself by going out and interacting with women AND men. Become comfortable just shooting the sh*t with random people and no matter what, HAVE FUN!

Once you can find some good qualities about yourself and truly believe in them...other people will too.

Good luck bro!

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Ultimately I think its more about knowing who you are, because until then you can't really be comfortable in your own skin. I know since I have started working on myself (working on diet, quit smoking, took back up guitar, pursuing a higher education, etc) in the past 3 months or so and pretty much stopped dating, I'm so much happier. I find that I don't have to work for the attention of women now, they tend to be genuinely interested in me and work for my attention. That being said they rarely get it as a)I'm always busy these days and b)I don't really want distractions at the moment. So yea, I think finding yourself is THE biggest thing because the rest of the stuff tends to base itself on that one fact.

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