Ultimate Flirting Tips

Follow this <a href="http://www.puaforums.com">P UA</a> flirting advice and you'll crush it in your interactions with women.

What To Do:
Eliminate any need for acceptance or approval - these are your enemies to success in the art of flirting.
Eye contact is king when flirting - look at her.
Invade her space slightly (e.g.) poke her in the ribs / tickle. (body language is key in these flirting techniques.)
Touch her on upper arm when you both find something funny - releases oxytocin (love chemical).
Calibrate your energy level - meet high energy with high, and low energy with low.
Lead the conversation, control the frame. You are the man, you are in charge. If she wants it, she?s got a *big time* battle on her hands (and more the better for the Sexual Tension).
Don't break the tension - don't apologise, say "just kidding", etc.
Look at her like she is up to no good.
Do the cheeky smile. Nonverbal communication is extremely powerful at generating attraction in women.

What NOT To Do:
Lean in to her ear. Speak Louder. She can hear you. She will lean into you if she can't.
Follow her around the bar/club.
Care if she walks away from you.
Look for her if she goes to the toilet and doesn't come straight back to you.
Anything else that conveys neediness or desperation. This is one of the biggest tips on flirting *of all time*.
Piss her off by being genuinely obnoxious or offensive. Remain playful at all times. Her throwing a drink at you is not one of the flirting signs we are looking for here.

What To Say:
Fake like she is annoying you.
Role-play together.
Comment on people or couples around you. Try to guess their story.
Dodge her questions that are boring.
Re-frame her tests.
Make out something she did disgusted you a little bit, "Gross, you just spat on me when you said that" The hotter the girl, the better it works.
Compliment her on something non-physical. E.g. "You seem pretty confident, it's refreshing"
Tell her what to do. Examples: "Hold this a sec", "Come here", "Look at this", "Let's go over there, c'mon", "Check this out" and so on. You are leading her subtly, and by following what you say, she is accepting the frame. Compliance is her subtly acknowledging you as the leader, the dominant one.
Any time she displays even a hint of some kind of incompetence, exaggerate it, to *the max*. If she can't type on her phone, say something like, "My 6 year old cousin can txt better than you" If she mumbles or makes a mistake when talking, say something like, "I didn't know it was special needs night tonight." Smile when you say these things.

What NOT to say: - tired, boring, unoriginal, predictable crap?
Do you come here often?
What's your sign?
Can I buy you a drink?
I love you.
Will you be my girlfriend / go out with me?
Would you like to dance?


A coward dies a thousand deaths in his mind. A hero dies only once.
-Ancient Proverb

GREAT LIST! REP+++++

BP

Great list man!

I don't man, I'm kinda confused. There's this point about having to lead the convo. I've seen here where people say it is ok that the girl leads the conversation and now I'm seeing this as something negative?

Which one is the right answer?

No, you always lead the convo. That doesn't mean you do all the talking. If she wants to talk, let her, but you can still gear the conversation to where you want it to be. If she wants to talk about work (example) and , just look her dead in the eye and say "Ah, work's boring. I'm here to have fun. What's the last fun thing you did?" and then let her talk again.

Just wanted to throw out a cool calibration test that goes along with this. Naturally, people who are enjoying themselves like to maintain the same distance from each other throughout the conversation. If you ever think a girl's into you, try to lean back a little. If she leans forward to compensate, you're doing well.

Thanks for the clarification. I haven't been able to do this today not understanding this point very well. I've let her lead me on the convos again. I've had a few times when I tried to lead the convo and I was able to do that. However, it didn't seem too interesting to her (she looked bored out).

I wasn't nervous or anything, it's just that I can't seem to stir up something interesting to talk about. I manage to do it once in a blue moon when I get lucky but other times, I just can't seem to click in.

Any tips on how I can practice or work on this aspect?

Complimenting a girl over something non-physical is a great tip. Whether a girl is a babe or not, physical comments tend to trigger insecurities and put them on the defensive because it's not something they really have control over (save for plastic surgery). Plus, girls already know how hot (or not) they are. But acknowledging their commendable qualities also get them looking for yours, and someone who felt validated over just flattered is more likely to be open and generous.

How to flirt with a girl who is just not so receptive to common flirting?

We'll maybe you need to exert more effort in flirting with her. Or maybe she is not just interested in flirting with you. Try to be more attractive and maybe she will flirt back.