Letting women know about others?

06-21-2010, 08:02 AM

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06-21-2010, 09:30 AM

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Originally Posted by detektive7

Okay so this is something that happened to me tonight. There is a girl at work that is pretty decent. I haven't really been trying to pick her up but I certainly wouldn't say no to the idea. Anyways, While we were chatting I got a text message from someone (it was another girl, but that's irrelevent). After I wrote back to the text she said to me half jokingly "oh so was that a booty call".
I didn't know what to say. Do I try and make myself out to be the nice straight guy and say that it was just a friend? Do I tell her that it was a girl but I'm not sure what the go is (the truth), or do I exagerate and tell her that it is another girl who I've been messaging a bit lately and she wants to catch up soon. The third option could work or could make me seem like a bit of a sleeze if I have a few other girls on the go and it might put her off.
Now I want to stress, I'm not working game on this girl, just a bit of casual flirting. She isn't "the one for me" or anything like that. But I'm not closed off to the idea of hooking up with her at some point.
I wasn't sure what to do so I thought I'd ask the masters (you lads) and see.

i dont lie. i dont volunteer too much either. i let them know one way or another that she is not special and there are others. we can talk about it. she comes to see that she gets treated the same as others and there are things she and i share as i share things with others.

she may want to exercise her freedom and see other guys and she will find she is free to discuss anything with me. i am alpha male.

any woman can be replaced. fairly psychopathic in a sense and i guess i have my Art. my lovers inspire me for my art. i don't like lying and i spose i get around that by treating them all as well as each other. i read something good once about a PUA who would treat all the waitresses in the restaurant the same and he was sleeping with a few of them and had with a few others. they didnt question his reality as it was consistent.

dont know if this helps any, cos i am by no means a master of it, but in that type of situation i do let them know i am an active sexual being

06-21-2010, 03:35 PM

^--- lmao that sounded so "I`m fkn awesome, praise me"

I tend to lean towards the game of treating the ugly one like shes the most awesome and HB are like wtf and tend to compete for my attention. Its alot more fun. Hard to play, but fun.

Don`t let her know. Just let her know you`re exploring you`re oportunites cause you`re tired of boring cases. Then she will instinctivly try to prove shes not boring. Don`t let her know shes special until you got the lay.

06-22-2010, 12:13 AM

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Originally Posted by SomeBoodee

^--- lmao that sounded so "I`m fkn awesome, praise me"

I tend to lean towards the game of treating the ugly one like shes the most awesome and HB are like wtf and tend to compete for my attention. Its alot more fun. Hard to play, but fun.

Don`t let her know. Just let her know you`re exploring you`re oportunites cause you`re tired of boring cases. Then she will instinctivly try to prove shes not boring. Don`t let her know shes special until you got the lay.

I think I could pull this one off a lot easier than the other. I'd just end up offending the other girls if I tried the first option I think. But if you can pull it off well, then congrats.

I like the idea of playing it down and saying "Yeah it's a girl who is keen and keeps messaging me. I'm just over meeting really boring girls lately who aren't a lot of fun". That was it creates the element of competition (I'm meeting other women, I must be worth flirting with) and it will make her try and validate herself somewhat. Cheers for the advice boys.

Anymore advice welcome!

07-18-2010, 09:26 AM

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Originally Posted by detektive7

Okay so this is something that happened to me tonight. There is a girl at work that is pretty decent. I haven't really been trying to pick her up but I certainly wouldn't say no to the idea. Anyways, While we were chatting I got a text message from someone (it was another girl, but that's irrelevent). After I wrote back to the text she said to me half jokingly "oh so was that a booty call".
I didn't know what to say. Do I try and make myself out to be the nice straight guy and say that it was just a friend? Do I tell her that it was a girl but I'm not sure what the go is (the truth), or do I exagerate and tell her that it is another girl who I've been messaging a bit lately and she wants to catch up soon. The third option could work or could make me seem like a bit of a sleeze if I have a few other girls on the go and it might put her off.
Now I want to stress, I'm not working game on this girl, just a bit of casual flirting. She isn't "the one for me" or anything like that. But I'm not closed off to the idea of hooking up with her at some point.
I wasn't sure what to do so I thought I'd ask the masters (you lads) and see.

sometimes mate, you say nothing

don't let guilt steer you into spilling the beans if she isnt asking. if she asks then we gotta make our own minds up and do what we believe is right but if she aint asking she doesnt want to know. be open and loose and ready for whatever she may ask.... i dont like deception but not telling her is not always deception. she may hang it on you after as part of her anti slut mechanism and women have more to lose for sleeping around than we do.... they need something attached to it... some things are not our responsibility either and when we dont deceive them and dont volunteer everything about ourselves and they still want to as much as us or more than us...

07-19-2010, 10:43 AM

Hell, the way I see it as is that she isn't your girlfriend. So you have every right to have other women and not be out of line. If you guys have went to a point where things are progressing towards a relationship and you two are getting emotionally intimate it would be bad to have other girls and/or tell her about them.

BMQ · 07-19-2010, 06:16 PM

Ok man, i read this last night and check out what happend to me today... I think it totally ties in:

I'm telling a coworker today at work that I had a date the night before and its going well and blablabla.
So my BOSS over hears it and says:

-You should meet my niece.

Then she starts qualifying her to me with all the stuff she does etc.etc.

So what I'm drawing from this example, is simply that you DO want to seem pre-selected.
I would never say your'e dating someone.
Say something like..."well i sort of am"... along those lines.
This way shell accept it innately, and socially.
(innately: "pre-selection...If you follow Mystery's method) (Socially: does not have a girlfriend)

07-19-2010, 09:23 PM

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Originally Posted by BMQ

Ok man, i read this last night and check out what happend to me today... I think it totally ties in:

I'm telling a coworker today at work that I had a date the night before and its going well and blablabla.
So my BOSS over hears it and says:

-You should meet my niece.

Then she starts qualifying her to me with all the stuff she does etc.etc.

So what I'm drawing from this example, is simply that you DO want to seem pre-selected.
I would never say your'e dating someone.
Say something like..."well i sort of am"... along those lines.
This way shell accept it innately, and socially.
(innately: "pre-selection...If you follow Mystery's method) (Socially: does not have a girlfriend)

I have had an experience where a chick came up to me introduced herself and wanted to know if I was single. I told her kinda lol I said I had recently met someone that I was having dates with but didn't think was gonna go anywhere. She then decided she wasn't interested! At the time I wasnt involved in this community so I may have handled it differently now, but in the end all I have is my experiences!

07-20-2010, 06:28 AM

i got one on the radar now that i reckon may be a straight sorta girl. i have a Pivot that i am close with and another one who is fairly free... this straight one might not like the other one around, but i reckon i gotta ride this one in and not try and pre empt it. i dont know which way it is gonna break and i wanna do both these chicks

07-20-2010, 01:22 PM

^^^^ a coyote! Dont we all? haha love it! ^^^

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