02-11-2009, 10:58 AM
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| | Are You Flirting With Sexual Tension
When you flirt with women does it lack Sexual Tension, and border on a job interview?
When you flirt with women do you wish you had the flirting power that some of the actor?s have in movies?
When you flirt with women do you wonder why some guys have girls hanging off them, and some struggle?
When you flirt with women are you TOO cocky in conversations, and you can feel it working until you hit a nerve and realize... not again?
Flirting is easily the hardest concept for men to get who struggle with women, dating and relationships. Most men lack the ability to understand it, and then how to work with it. The primary way to influence sexual Tension is to flirt with women.
Sexual tension is essentially when there exists polarity, magnetism or, as we like to call it, Attraction. The largest misnomer that exists is that one can create attraction - this is FALSE.
Do I have your attention now?
Attraction is based on polarity and magnetism, NOT on the external elements you are probably obsessed with right now are what do I say, what should I wear or ow should I stand??
In short, flirting is where we push away with our words, and pull towards with our energy. So, a classic scenario is where the man treats the woman as being slightly beneath him in coolness (I emphasize slightly, as too much comes across as cocky - which signals insecurity).
You might call her a dork, while smiling at her - (the word dork is a playful insult, but the smile is an invitation).
It takes some balls to flirt with women, as it indicates automatically a sexual interest, which is uncomfortable for many men. What you are looking for are opportunities to insult her, point out her flaws (not physical, of course), treat her like a little sister that you don't take seriously. Do all of this though with a SMILE - you don?t want to be taken at face value here. By pushing/pulling all in one we mix brain signals, and engage her emotionally. This is the clearest way to communicate that you are comfortable around her, and that she can be comfortable around you too.
The best flirting comments are created in the moment, based on what she is revealing to you about herself at that moment. Flirting is basically the art of insulting, but doing so with a smile.
Examples of How To Flirt With Women
(If she is asking lots of testy questions) How much will you pay me once I pass the job interview?
(then, if she continues asking questions, refer to her as Sir)
Now, if you struggle when you flirt with women, I suggest this and practicing them on women LIVE. I strongly believe in using the scripts from the seduction community to learn the SKILLS - but then drop the training wheels. So, the above should get you started at least. What you are looking for though is the FEELING of flirting - so, when is there an opportunity to flirt with women?
How does it feel to do it? What are her reactions to the things I say? Am I coming across too harshly? IS SHE HAVING FUN??
Ultimately, if YOU are having fun then you will definitely translate your sense of humor clearly. If you are inexperienced, you are likely to mix the signals. But, guess what, you might have to bomb a time or two in order to clean up your signals - there is no replacement for live experience.
If you can do this a few times, you will start to GET IT and your flirting skills with women will explode.
Become a flirt with women machine, because you'll use it constantly in the interaction. It's an essential step that most guys tend to skip, or FAIL at miserably.