I fear I have oneitis..need some advice please

pierrot, thanks for your input. You've renewed my hope, I think i'll hang out with her tomorrow, we'll go kayaking then i'll teach her to drive a standard car and have an all around good time. Maybe dinner at my place to...should i attempt a kiss close at the end? or lay low..afterall she does know how I feel about her....probably a big mistake to tell her.

after I told her how I felt she started initiating convo's with me via text and we talked for hours on facebook...grrr going insane lol

I'm gunna go out later tonight potentially and try and game at the bar.

On a side note...what should I do with the BF? stay close with her and get him tense and pissed at her? then be there for support after the sh1t storm?

He left work early at 1 point to pick her up because she was out with me and he began acting like a d1ck...she said no and stayed with me ioi anybody! lol

She said to me at 1 point when I offered her a ride home that her BF wouldn't like that (i've given her quite a few lifts home but he was also on his way)..just recently shes getting more cautious with me.

when he showed up to pick her she hugged our friend a friendly goodbye, then me. She made it a point to not hug me first because he was watching, it was pretty obvious because im usually the first to be hugged and she walked out of her way to hug him.

he's already asked her to move in with him once i was in the picture...they've been together MAYBE a month..

So...thoughts? keep the heat up and make him go insane? or freeze her out (to an extent, she goes to college with me and is in my circle of friends)

I feel evil doing this but to me, this girl is worth the trouble

Need advice before tomorrow, keep it up or ditch her and move on?

I would Flake on her.come up with whatever lie u like but in order to get her attention u can't be there at her every whim. Tell her u met girl the night before and now u have a date. see what she says. what do u have to lose? Pierrot is right just b/c ur friends doesnt mean its the end but it does make it a lot harder.

I'll hang with her today, tell her I met a girl when I was out and Flake out next time she wants to hang out.

My plan is show her a good time and make sure she enjoys herself, do something unique that she will remember...

Then bail out and say I'm going to hang out with the other girl and flake on her after we set up a plan to hang out again.

I think availability is my issue come to think of it, she knows I havnt been hanging out with many other girls at the moment so I think she's holding back, because she thinks she doesn't have to worry about me becoming unavailable.

She asked our friend for advice the other day but never got around to saying what it was about. (he told me secretly) I think she did tell him but he doesn't wanna say anything, he was hinting it was towards her BF...something's gotta be up.

She's also been asking me questions about "how often do you have girls in your car" and other things along those lines.

So it's time to alpha up and pull out the big guns...I'm gunna need a nuclear warhead to destroy this friend zone sh1t!

If she Flakes again today I'm Gunna freeze her out hardcore

Update: she flaked, ima freeze her out and move on, . Started talking to this girl from back in high school, I was to much of an idiot to realize she was REALLY into me, ioi's left right and center yet I never made my move...plus she's got her own place >

So I'll more or less ditch and forget about her and start gaming other girls I could care less if the other chick changes her mind.

Keep it ALPHA gents!

update: shes all mine now, been making out, kissing her neck and nibbling on her ear lobe, rubbing her inner thigh (she really liked that ) Dinner, teaching her how to drive my car (shes learning quick)

(been this way last 3-4 days, and apperently shes had a crush on me from the start, she gave me sh!t for not asking her out sooner.

Oh and the BF, hes gone. Dug himself a hole and buried himself in it. He treated her like crap and always put the blame on her for everything (he never noticed his insecurities and never treated her the way she should be)

we're taking it slow...or atleast trying to, she wants this relationship to last (LTR, just what I was hoping to get out of her!) Kino has exploded thru the roof tho

just wanted to update y'all and to say thank you for your help. I've been looking for a girl exactly like her for a longgg time now.

Thanks again

Streek

I wrote something about it in a thread called "Sometimes, PUAs need to know" in Members' Lounge.

Check it out

Sometimes, PUAs need to know

sorry i was working on my ship and didnt have internet for a long time, im glad that things went well, hopefully this relationship works out