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    samitos is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default No Contact in the Same School

    We broke up with my girlfriend after 3 and a half months 4 weeks ago. She lost my interest towards me 'because she is stressful and wants to concentrate on her exams' (the exams are in May and June). The period after our breakup was like some contact every 4 or 5 days, a bit of chit-chat. She was usually the one who came to me or texted me.

    The difficulty: we go to the same school, but not the same class. We see each other 2-3 times in school every day.

    After 3 weeks of limited contact, I decided to tell her that I felt rejected and I don't enjoy this kind of restricted, empty relatinship with her, I need some space and let's not talk, just smile and say hello when we meet.

    Maybe should I have continued limited contact or what? Was it a sensible thing to tell her that I don't enjoy this limited relationship?

    If it was a bad idea, what should I dp? Should I wait until she contacts me, or should I tell her that I'm ready to talk again?

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    Default Re: No Contact in the Same School

    Telling her you feel rejected was the wrong move. You are giving her control over how you feel. What you should have told her is that she was right breaking up was the best thing for you and you couldn't be happier.

    The concept of No Contact to get an ex back is not that you don't have contact and pout in the corner until they take you back like a wounded puppy. use the time to improve yourself and become the man she or another girl will want.

    The idea is that you actually take the time and get your sh*t together. Other than sitting their waiting for her to come back to you what have you done to work on yourself since you broke up? Some common advice start working out, upgrade your wardrobe, get a cool new haircut, go out and meet new women, work on your social life.

    What will happen is that you will have a lot of fun and enjoy yourself and be happy whether she does or does not come back. When she does come back you will be in a position to decide if you want to take her back or that you have found you have moved beyond her.

    You can not end no contact. Only she can. The idea is that she has to want to contact you and then has to earn your attention. You are the prize she has to earn.

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    samitos is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: No Contact in the Same School

    I did not handle this so that she believes she is in control. I have the upper hand already, I am doing quite well since the breakup - probably even better than her - she even told me that why am I handling this so easily cause this was not the way we broke up.

    I have been working out since then more actively than before, it helps a lot. Thanks for the advice anyway. I'm also meeting new people. There has not been a weekend when I didn't have active social life since the breakup.

    After 3 weeks of this pattern, I told her that I don't want to talk cause she no more has the kind of interest what I would have liked from her. She was kind of shocked when I told her that I need time and space, she told that she doesn't understand, she was just sitting next to me totally shocked. Then I said that let's go and 'do our own business', I stood up, we said goodbye and that's it.

    I think this is also a part of the story, cause I'm not a wounded puppy dog anymore. I feel good and powerful. I feel I have the upper hand.

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    Default Re: No Contact in the Same School

    Alright, a week has just passed since NC and she doesn't seem to be enjoying herself too much. She is trying a bit hard to earn appreciation on facebook, checks in regularly when she is supposed to be having fun and has just set a new profile picture, she picked one of her model photos, which she told me she would never share on facebook (she said this earlier when we were together)

    She seems to be just a bit angry with me. We haven't talked since, but I have a feeling that she is looking at me when she sees me (but only when I don't notice her; this is just a FEELING), when we see each other she says hello but looks a bit nervous and resentful.

    Opinions? Are these good signs or not? I'm on emotional rollercoaster now, 8 times out of ten I don't miss her that much, but there are times when this can't go out of my head.

    What do you think? I have no other choice but stick to NC but still, I'm interested.


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