I got with my first real girlfriend at 20 before I knew anything about PUA. She was really hot for me but I wasn't as into her. I can remember her crying in a club when we first got to-gather because she had been dancing with me and she thought I didn't fancy her. I found her and kissed her and she instantly stopped crying. At the end of the night I walked her half way home because I still wasn't sure about her. In the end long story short, I started going out with her but at first I wasn't very keen to call her my girlfriend. After a while, like two weeks or so I stopped contacting her. I wanted us just to drift apart. This was really stupid of me because it gave her the chance to dump me first. I can remember on valentines day her getting very upset because I said I wasn't sure if I loved her yet(this was when we were still going out). I made it up the next day though with flowers. I got on ok with her family but there wasn't a fantastic connection due to me being quite a quiet person. I think she also realised I wasn't very socially connected which was a bit of a turn off for her. I kind of turned her off me, myself on purpose as well. Anyway when we broke up. I asked her not to hate me and not to kiss anyone else I front of me. which she later did.
I told her a few home truths but I remained friends with her even when she got a new boyfriend. I never deleted her from my Facebook which now I'm thinking may have been a big mistake. I spoke to her recently after not having spoken to her for a year or so. I did this through Facebook. I picked my time carefully and contacted her the day after my birthday so she would see all the messages my friends had left on my wall making me look popular. The message i sent her was 'how have you been?' in her reply she called me babe which pissed me off and she didn't exscalate the number of x's from her 1 to the 2 I put down. So I didn't reply to her last post. I think she lost respect for me when I didn't freeze her out of my life as soon as we broke up ages ago. I never used to dream about her while or before we were going out but after we broke up she haunted me in my sleep. She is single now but meets up with another ex-boyfriend occasionally. She has never done that with me maybe I should just cut off contact with her. Maybe her attraction to me was only sexual. I friend with her brother and sister on Facebook and have never deleted anyone and I always except friend requests from people I know because I think it's mean not to. What is a good course of action?