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    ErrandW is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Should I try to get her back...?

    So I broke up with my g/f of six months two weeks ago. It really was my choice but I gave the whole, maybe we should be friends thing. She had just withdrawn and was always depressed. Instead of feeling like the most important person in her life, she made me feel like the least. Everyone else seemed to come first and there was never time for me. Prior to the depression, she was incredible. One of the best relationships I've ever been in.

    She came over this past weekend to hang out, brew beer and watch tv. She seems to be back to the girl I originally fell for and now I want her back. I know she's at least marginally interested in me still because she'll send me random texts during the day, "just wanted to say hi!" type things. Most time I try not to respond.

    She's incredibly hot and we really do click well. I just needed more attention from her. I don't think she was cheating on me. And honestly she really was busy over the past month with school, work, etc... But I wanted to be included in her life not excluded from it.

    The more I write, the more ridiculous I think this sounds... So what say you, salvage or move on?

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    Default Re: Should I try to get her back...?

    It's really up to you and how you feel about it. If you want her back, go for it. If you don't, then don't. If you decide to get back into a relationship with her, talk about why you broke up with her in the first place so there's a smaller chance of it happening again.

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    Default Re: Should I try to get her back...?

    In that situation i'd stay well away from her a second time.
    Dating a girl more than once usually goes one of two ways.

    1) The same deal as the first time you dated (remember, they're an ex for a reason)
    2) Basically fuckbuddies (this works out well, but if not controlled, can lead to those feelings and then back to step 1).

    GL!

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    ErrandW is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Should I try to get her back...?

    We ended up hanging out on Sunday. I think she wants me back but is afraid of exactly what you said, ending up the same way we were.

    I'd be happy with FWB relationship but I really do want more.

    I'm trying to keep an open mind about things though. I broke up with her for a reason and if the reason is still there what am I doing back with her.

    So I'm trying to hang out with a lot of my female friends and show that I can live without her in my life. If she wants to step up to the plate, I will give it another shot though.

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    Default Re: Should I try to get her back...?

    Quote Originally Posted by ErrandW View Post
    If she wants to step up to the plate, I will give it another shot though.
    Is she an Alpha Female? Odds are slim, and even if she is most Alpha Females want to be "dominated."
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    Default Re: Should I try to get her back...?

    I am going through a similar situation bro.And I am all ears too. its not like you/I can find another chick but if you found a good one you like to hang out with or what ever why not keep her?
    I do believe its an inner game thing because the chick is hot so we try to please her and need more attention. correct me if i'm wrong

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    ErrandW is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Should I try to get her back...?

    So I know I'm not supposed to initiate contact but when she's sending me little nothing texts, "Have a good day at work," at the beginning of the day and "Good night," at the end do I respond?

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    Default Re: Should I try to get her back...?

    Listen to kingbeau. There are no u-turns in life - you spiral upwards like a galactic supercluster or you blow up like a supernova. Have a bit of post break up sex if you want but all you're really feeling is sentimentality. People used to say to me 'don't have have break up sex' but I did, it was good but I moved on fast and it only re-confirmed why I broke up in the first place. You will never have her as a fark buddy. It doesn't work that way. To be good at picking up girls you have to be good at breaking up too. That's respecting women. Full circle.

    All she will do is hold you back and you will end up breaking it off again. Freeze her out and get on with your life. It will let her get on with hers.

    Check mate not stalemate.


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