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    Default What is this Ex trying to do?

    Hey guys,
    I post once a while ago and got some great opinions. Just curious as to what you think my ex is trying to achieve.
    She broke of our relationship Jan 10. We kept in touch off and on for maybe a couple of mths, only because I was trying to get her back, I decided not be friends with her and that was it. I did no contacted back & forth several times mostly with FB. Deleting her, then adding her, deleting her, then adding her. Just had a f*&*^%ing hard time trying to get over her.

    She is with her ex before me, she has married him & they now have another child. She had an 8 yr old with him , this was well before she met me. Anyway, if you find my last posts you will see the story. Im really well off financially, own my own biz etc. She has been a nurse , with no collage, so maybe shes just making avreage because she has only been a nurse for 2 yrs. So, her man makes really no money & she carries the family unless thats chged, not sure. Amyway, I will say, it is true that I do miss her, the sex was fantastic!!! Her face is really attractive, but since her second child her body is not so much. I did see her from a distance going to a store, so thats how I know.

    So, yes its been over two yrs and I do miss her but will not ever consider going back with of course, not now! But im curious as to what you may think she's up to. She's about 24 yrs younger then me by the way. back when we were first seeing eachother she posted a small "posted note " on Myspace. She that it represented us and she would keep it posted as long as we'er together. Around end of last yr, I saw her car drive past my house several times, this went on for about a month. Nothing after that until around this past March. She keeps her MYspace page up, but its just got old pics of her from around the time we were together and some time before that. So, I decided to check it out in Jan 12 this yr. I saw that the posted note of "ours" that she said was ours had reappeared. Then a few days after that I noticed her car driving past my house, on regular bases. Her car was going past my home about 2-3 times a week which I thought was unusual. Then I began to see it on saturdays! Athough I have not seen it recently within the last 3 weeks.
    The facts are, I live in an area where there are very few homes and its kind of a counrty road. You can drive to one end which take you to a road that will take you to a highway or the other end which takes you to shopping centers. She lives about 20 miles from me in an really poor development. Now she does go to a gym which is near me. I know this because her living & gym circumstances have not changed. I know her car and her tag#, her glass is dark tho, so I cannot see that its her, maybe him , who knows, but I doubt that. She was over my house a lot! She knows where I live which is a corner lot rt on the road. She can easly see my home just driving by.

    So, seeing her car & seeing the posted note up on her Myspace. I texed her "hello". No reply. I texed her again after I saw her car going past my home, "shouldn't drive so fast, you'll hurt yourself" , with no reply back at all. I waited about a week then emailed her saying, Hi, just wanted to see how you're doing. Hope things are good". No reply back at all. This all took place about a month ago.

    Then I did somthing I guess was really stupid!, not sure. It was completely innocent tho. I saw her sister in a club last yr and said hello and we had a friendly talk. hadn't seen her since. So, about 3 weeks ago her sister name and pic came up when I was inputting someone elses name in FB. So, I clicked on her page, I emailed her and said: Hi, your name just came up on my Fb. remember me? Just wanted to say hello. So, last week I got to thinking, this bs! Why am I in this again, not sure what this girl is thinking but I should be kicking myself in the head for allowing myself to sucked into all this agiain. So, I deleted all of her friends, inother words I blocked them all. I blocked her, unless she gets a fake page she cant see me at all. But, dont ask me why, I didn't block her sister.

    I went onto her sisters page last ngith and apparently she blocked me. Big deal, I dont care, but I just dont want her sister to think im stalking her. It really was meant to just be a friendly email. I got rid of her emails from 2 yrs ago, all th pics are gone , ebverything.

    But yet, that stupid posted note is still up on her website! So, is she crazy, is she hinting with the drive bys, what is it guys, what do u think is going on?

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    Default Re: What is this Ex trying to do?

    [quote=snake49;41058]Hey guys,
    I post once a while ago and got some great opinions. Just curious as to what you think my ex is trying to achieve.
    She broke of our relationship Jan 10. We kept in touch off and on for maybe a couple of mths, only because I was trying to get her back, I decided not be friends with her and that was it. I did no contacted back & forth several times mostly with FB. Deleting her, then adding her, deleting her, then adding her. Just had a f*&*^%ing hard time trying to get over her.

    She is with her ex before me, she has married him & they now have another child. She had an 8 yr old with him , this was well before she met me. Anyway, if you find my last posts you will see the story. Im really well off financially, own my own biz etc. She has been a nurse , with no collage, so maybe shes just making avreage because she has only been a nurse for 2 yrs. So, her man makes really no money & she carries the family unless thats chged, not sure. Amyway, I will say, it is true that I do miss her, the sex was fantastic!!! Her face is really attractive, but since her second child her body is not so much. I did see her from a distance going to a store, so thats how I know.

    So, yes its been over two yrs and I do miss her but will not ever consider going back with of course, not now! But im curious as to what you may think she's up to. She's about 24 yrs younger then me by the way. back when we were first seeing eachother she posted a small "posted note " on Myspace. She that it represented us and she would keep it posted as long as we'er together. Around end of last yr, I saw her car drive past my house several times, this went on for about a month. Nothing after that until around this past March. She keeps her MYspace page up, but its just got old pics of her from around the time we were together and some time before that. So, I decided to check it out in Jan 12 this yr. I saw that the posted note of "ours" that she said was ours had reappeared. Then a few days after that I noticed her car driving past my house, on regular bases. Her car was going past my home about 2-3 times a week which I thought was unusual. Then I began to see it on saturdays! Athough I have not seen it recently within the last 3 weeks.
    The facts are, I live in an area where there are very few homes and its kind of a counrty road. You can drive to one end which take you to a road that will take you to a highway or the other end which takes you to shopping centers. She lives about 20 miles from me in an really poor development. Now she does go to a gym which is near me. I know this because her living & gym circumstances have not changed. I know her car and her tag#, her glass is dark tho, so I cannot see that its her, maybe him , who knows, but I doubt that. She was over my house a lot! She knows where I live which is a corner lot rt on the road. She can easly see my home just driving by.

    So, seeing her car & seeing the posted note up on her Myspace. I texed her "hello". No reply. I texed her again after I saw her car going past my home, "shouldn't drive so fast, you'll hurt yourself" , with no reply back at all. I waited about a week then emailed her saying, Hi, just wanted to see how you're doing. Hope things are good". No reply back at all. This all took place about a month ago.

    Then I did somthing I guess was really stupid!, not sure. It was completely innocent tho. I saw her sister in a club last yr and said hello and we had a friendly talk. hadn't seen her since. So, about 3 weeks ago her sister name and pic came up when I was inputting someone elses name in FB. So, I clicked on her page, I emailed her and said: Hi, your name just came up on my Fb. remember me? Just wanted to say hello. So, last week I got to thinking, this bs! Why am I in this again, not sure what this girl is thinking but I should be kicking myself in the head for allowing myself to sucked into all this agiain. So, I deleted all of her friends, inother words I blocked them all. I blocked her, unless she gets a fake page she cant see me at all. But, dont ask me why, I didn't block her sister.

    I went onto her sisters page last ngith and apparently she blocked me. Big deal, I dont care, but I just dont want her sister to think im stalking her. It really was meant to just be a friendly email. I got rid of her emails from 2 yrs ago, all th pics are gone , ebverything.

    But yet, that stupid posted note is still up on her website! So, is she crazy, is she hinting with the drive bys, what is it guys, what do u think is going on? Fyi, the posted note was removed by her about 2 mths after we split. She said she had a tough time w it because it reminded her of us. Now it has reappeared like I said.

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    Default Re: What is this Ex trying to do?

    Who cares what she is up to. Move on with your life. It will only hold you back getting sentimental or playing detective. If you're well off financially you will find another better girl who has a beautiful face, is good in bed and still has a youthful body. No u-turns, keep spiralling upwards in life. She u-turned to her ex. But it's like an amplifier: If you keep fueling your past you will get a nasty feedback loop.

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    Default Re: What is this Ex trying to do?

    I'm going to try and be delicate with this because I have been there. The next thing I say you have to accept as absolute truth.......... And that is "whatever you put your focus/ attention on, you give it power." Alot of men will analyze all the little things (myself included) and can get too caught up in the details and lose sight of the "big picture." Two years is a long time and she will not be the last woman you have great sex with, trust me. So by you putting all your energy and effort trying to understand your exes mixed signals is only sucking you in just like you mentioned. You have to come to a point where you have to let it all go. And one of the easiest waysto do this is to just date other women. It's a great distraction and it will remind you that you are a man of value and deserve much better. On another note, it seems your ex wears her emotions on her sleeve. She is the type of woman that will love someone and then love another in two weeks. It is very possible that she misses you at times. But I'm sure that if her husband did something romantic, those feelings for you would be gone in a heartbeat. They are superficial and will always come and go, but never stay. These women can be very fun because of their passion, but should NEVER be taken as a serious candidate for a healthy relationship. So first things first, just go out and meet other women and do your best to let this go and keep her out of your mind.

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    Default Re: What is this Ex trying to do?

    Don't contact her. Delete her phone number, delete any texts you sent her, delete and texts you may have of hers. Don't read into some car driving by. I know it is difficult, I have been there myself recently. But let her go. She is now married. If she was interested she would have responded o your texts. As for the post it note on MySPace, she probably doesn't use my space anymore. Who does?

    Just block her from facebook, don't add her, block any family of hers, not cuz you hate them, but so you won't be tempted to look at status updates and photos. out of sight, out of mind.

    You need to meet someone else. Start dating, you don't have to fall in love with the first person you meet, but get out and meet people. Females, males, join a swim club, take up a hobbie.

    Keep moving forward.

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    Default Re: What is this Ex trying to do?

    You know guys, I guess I should come clean. You are all correct & I thank you for your advise. I actually have been doing everything that u have mentioned in your comments. Ever since I began seeing her car driving by, I've been revisiting her Myspace pics, looking at her pics on my emails, texting her as I said, thinking every hang up ony cell is her! I just can't understand why in hell I still have these feelings for her!!! And I thought I was over her!

    I actually did her a favor..as the story goes. I broke up with her or tried to about 7, maybe 8 mths before she ended it. She was in nursing school, she cried like crazy. She called me that night & begged me back, she asked me to promise her that I wouldn't break up with her while she was in school, said she would flunk out if I did. So, I stayed. Then she just turned on the charm, saw me alot more, sent me love texts all the time like every day. Told me she wanted to take the next step & move in to0gether once she graduates. Then all of a sudden when I least expected it, she sent me an email. She explained that her ex has always been by her side, and she loved him a little more then me.

    At first I was relieved, but then after a day or so, I found myself trying to figure out what just happened. And then, she shut me down, basicly. Every time I would ask her why, what was it that did it, she would shut me down and say, "I dont want to talk about it". Anyway, not to relive all this again, I've followed your advise, blocked her, her friends, etc. Got rid of & deleted all her pics, the works, it's all gone!

    I just cannot figure out why seeing her car drive by and the posted not back up on Myspace, why im all of a sudden back feeling for her again! I even emailed her & asked her to remove the posted note from her Myspace, and of course "no reply".


    Thanks guys

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    Default Re: What is this Ex trying to do?

    One if the toughest things is to have someone be really cold and does not give you a reason why. Sometimes you will never get that closure you desire. Just a simple fact that some people suck and good people do sucky things sometimes. And there probably is no logical reason for it, which is why i mentioned your ex being led by her emotions. You just have to let go and move on just like you are now.


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