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    liukang75 is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
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    Default Done everything right so far. Please help me so I don't mess it up!

    Alright, I'll get to the point. Me and my girlfriend split up about 3 weeks ago. We were together for almost 4 years and we have a 2 year old son. She put me on a break until I found out about another guy and broke up with her. Now guys, ordinarily I don't make it my business to chase women that try to put me on the back burner but we have a kid together. I should know better honestly but I got lazy with the building and maintaining attraction thing. I love her and I let her go.
    I know a little about the game, that's how I met her. I've done no begging, crying, or pleading. I went lc vs nc with her because we have a kid but I have pretty much iced her down until recently. She was definitely showing signs of buckling during the 3 week lc where we communicated via text. I had to correct her several times and tell her to leave relationship issues out of it. She also tried to see me but I wouldn't let her.
    I arranged all meetings with my son through her sisters and asked that we not see eachother. I broke lc a coulpe of days ago and told her that I was feeling much better about things and that we could see eachother to trade off with my son. The meeting went well, I kept my cool and didn't say anything about the relationship and just had an overall laid back, friendly demeanor. I hugged her once when I saw her and once before we parted ways.

    I sent her a text afterwards saying that it was good to see her and that I missed her and that's why I hugged her. I went on to tell her that I thought that everything happened for the best and that I wanted her to be happy even if it wasn't with me. She immediately texted back saying that she was glad it was so easy for me and that she would rather not talk about this sort of stuff. Within minutes she sent another text saying sorry and that it had been a rough two days for her. I just replied: it's ok like two hours later.

    Today I saw her to drop off my son at our old place. So hard to play it cool there but I pulled it off yet again. She immediately went into a shit test as soon as I got there by saying "I need to talk to you about something". She went on to say ask me if I would be having any girls around our son. She also mentioned that she wasn't dating anyone and hinted to see if I was. Didn't say a word even though I'm not. I started to talk about something else and dodged it. She went on to throw a couple of other shit tests at me but I maneuvered through all of them and left.

    When I got to my truck I realized that she had lighter-jacked me. The meeting had went well so I sent her text calling her a "little thief" for jacking me. She immediately responded back with a smiley face saying "ha! oops, sorry now u know how it feels. I've got her right where I want her. Please help me not to f this up.

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    Default Re: Done everything right so far. Please help me so I don't mess it up!

    Somebody please help. I have no idea what to do next. I'm thinking about telling her that I need to talk to her about something and that we should have a drink. Then I'll keep her waiting a couple of days and resist her when she try's to get it out of me beforehand. If things go badly by telling her that I want to work it out I was thinking about telling her that I might have gotten another girl pregnant. Lol! That would pre-qaulify me and I could always tell her later that it was just a scare later.

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    Default Re: Done everything right so far. Please help me so I don't mess it up!

    I would suggest reading the 3% man winning the hearts of women. A lot of pua material is about getting the girl, but not keeping her. The material in this book should fix your problem. Best of luck to you and make a post saying how it goes.
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    Default Re: Done everything right so far. Please help me so I don't mess it up!

    Quote Originally Posted by 0Rooster0 View Post
    I would suggest reading the 3% man winning the hearts of women. A lot of pua material is about getting the girl, but not keeping her. The material in this book should fix your problem. Best of luck to you and make a post saying how it goes.
    Alright, everybody get your money out. This is a gamble but also, what I love about women--the thrill of the chase... I will post results. My fingers are crossed. Goin in for the kill goose!

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    Default Re: Done everything right so far. Please help me so I don't mess it up!

    Just sent her a text saying "hey can you do me a favor?". I can keep this one going for days to build attraction and mystery...

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    Default Re: Done everything right so far. Please help me so I don't mess it up!

    Hey man,

    You obviously have some background knowledge on the game which is a good stepping point. Here are all the good points I picked up on:

    1) Platonic friend zoned. No one likes to be friend zoned, and by doing that to her, you have created fear of loss. Good going!

    2) Cheeky text at the end. Good. You realised that this was an opportunity and took it. Now you have given a glimpse of the relationship in terms of the fun times you must have had.

    3) Not saying anything when she talks about women in your life. That is superb, also the fact that she isn't dating anyone.

    4) Even though you must miss her and want to be with her, it doesn't seem fully apparent you do in the text above. Meaning, you have a good amount of control within yourself to not let it be too apparent. Which is a great thing. Just watch out, because if she does find another guy - most likely a fling - then you may feel extremely down. Just be prepared in case things go tits up.

    Those things on top of the fact she is asking you about other women is a huge bonus. I think your right on your way to getting her back as long as you carry on the platonic vibe and building up that cheeky cocky behaviour very slowly.

    Also buddy, don't say you might have got another girl pregnant. That would only show how irresponsible you are to get another girl pregnant. But you can hint you are seeing other people. For example, if she texts or calls you, just say "I have to go now, I'm meeting someone in 5 minutes". Even if your not, but hey if you are then fucking ace!

    Finchy x

    P.s. Keep it going man, you seem close
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    Default Re: Done everything right so far. Please help me so I don't mess it up!

    Thanks Finchy, After the text I sent last night she replied back saying, "I don't know... What's the favor?". I didn't respond last night to her text. When she asks again today, I'm going to tell her nevermind, it wasn't that important or something like that. I think I'm going to have to back off a bit. I guess if she pushes I'll tell her that I was hoping that we could always stay friends and that I missed our talks. I guess that would keep her thinking that I'm trying to friendzone her. I'm too freakin needy right now though so I think it's time to get out and start talking to other girls. I think I've played it pretty cool but at least making out with another chick would give me the confidence needed in my future interactions with her. The telling her that I got a girl pregnant idea was stupid! I was a little drunk last night. Oh yeah, to all the other guy's going through similar circumstances out there: go nc or lc immediately. I definitely wouldn't have made it this far if I hadn't have stepped away. Finchy, do you agree with me backing off? I'm just curious what to do next. Should I just let her chase?

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    Default Re: Done everything right so far. Please help me so I don't mess it up!

    One benefit that I can use to my advantage is the fact that we have a kid--so I'll be seeing her all the time. I can slowly re-build attraction with her...

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    Default Re: Done everything right so far. Please help me so I don't mess it up!

    Okay, so an update here: I've definitely made some progress but I'm not sure how to go from here on out. After sending her the "Can you do me a favor text?", I never responded that night and told her the next day that I had changed my mind. Later, when I picked up my son from her, she tried to get it out of me again but I told her maybe that I had changed my mind and that it probably wouldn't be best to tell her. I can tell she's going crazy wondering what I was going to ask. In that same meeting, she commented on my clothes asking me why I never looked this good while we were going out and asking me if these were my new single guy clothes? I responded saying well you know, gotta look good right? I caught her looking off into the distance 5 minutes later--she looked like somebody just killed her dog for a second! This is working... The next afternoon I sent her text telling her that she needed to pick up our son by 8 and that I needed her to be on time because I was meeting a friend at 9. After she picked up our son I was a little bummed out because I expected her to ask about who I was meeting but she just left. Well, at about 9:25 she sent a long text saying how she knew that I was going through alot and that she was worried about me. She went on to tell me that if I ever needed to talk that she was there for me despite us being broken up. My gramps passed away last march of cancer and during the first week of the break-up my dad told me that he is going to probably die within 6 months of heart problems. I sent her a text later saying not to worry about me and that I would be just fine--I was going to start writing country music! She sent a text immediately back saying" ha! that sounds like a plan. About two hours later I sent her a text saying nice attempt on trying to "friend zone" me and called her a sneaky little santa. It was an inside joke. She was coming to bed one night and I was talking in my sleep and called her that... She luaghed hysterically when I did that. She responded back saying playfully how I was a wierdo for remembering that and that she wasn't trying to "friend zone" me. I responded saying, "ha. busted! She then sent another text saying how she was always there for me, blah, blah, blah. I never responded... My hunches tell me that she is buckling still, but that she is trying to keep me as an orbiter. I've def got her to a point now where she is sending smiley faces and sh1t in texts but I'm going to back off and let her chase.
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    Default Re: Done everything right so far. Please help me so I don't mess it up!

    It worked!!! She has agreed to start dating again and has agreed to keep it exclusive while we work things out. Good luck to everyone else and special thanks to finchy! My advice to everyone is to disappear from the girls life until she starts to miss you. If anyone needs advice or help feel free to message me before you f things up worse.


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