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    Default Lost girlfriend to a PUA - long distance relationship

    Hi,

    So my girlfriend broke up with me after 1.5 years because she hooked up with a PUA. I did some reading and found out that he used preselection techinque on her. She told me that this guy can have any girl he wants, and that he needs her as much as she needs him. They went out for about 2 weeks before she broke it off with me. I'm sure he used a lot of Kino and negging. She told me that she still loved me and that she wanted to work it out. Then that night we spoke and she said we were done. I guess she spoke with him again and he covinced her. One of her friends mentioned something about him being a player and that he told her that he wanted to stop to be with her.

    She said that we weren't talking as much the last few weeks (duh, she was out with this guy) and that she didn't know that I had a future planned out for us. She did say she wished someone had stopped her from hanging out with this guy and that she wished she knew about our future plans.

    It's been about 1.5 months. Talked to her a few times, a few texts. She is still talking to me, although somewhat guarded, cold. She seems happy, she told this friend that they have problems but they listen to each other.

    Is there anything I can do to get her back? I haven't really done anything toward getting her back, but I would like to have a chance to discuss everything. It won't be easy with what she had done, but I want a second chance. The long distance was the killer. I can't think about what else to post, let me know if any more information will help.

    Thanks,

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    Default Re: Lost girlfriend to a PUA - long distance relationship

    Dude, just let her go. You might just be chasing her away by chasing her. If you were a high status man you'd not care if she left because you have women lined up. Learn to be an alpha, work on your inner game and you will instintively know what to do to get her back. We dont work magic here, the guy as you said had preselection and played the badboy/not interested vibe on her, and he showed her enough interest for her to decide to chase him and it worked out for him.
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    Default Re: Lost girlfriend to a PUA - long distance relationship

    I understand it can be difficult when a woman leaves you for another man. It hits the ego big time. Whether you are able to get back with her will be a bit of a mystery. There are many variables we won't be able to take into account to ensure you get her back. All we can do is help you increase your chances.

    It may feel like you have "lost" since he is with her and you are not, but you know her bad habits and know what he is going to have to deal with. So take some solice with that thought. Also understand that you are an alpha male already, you just may be rusty. You already know that you deserve better and you can easily find someone that will treat you as such. Most of the time when you finally realize this, date a few women and actually make a connection with one, by the time your ex comes back into your life you won't even want her back. You will just be reminded of all the negative feelings and stress she brought into YOUR life. It's your life so you can choose who gets to enjoy it with you. This is not a failure my friend, this is a chance to make a change for the better and you will love yourself for it and not look back.

    While the other man is having to deal with your exes faults, and she may eventually be confused about him and leave him the same way she did with you, (possibly even come back to you) you will have been passed all of it by then and dating multiple women that make you feel like a king. Hope this helps and good luck.

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    Default Re: Lost girlfriend to a PUA - long distance relationship

    Thanks for the comments and advice. I just want to say that I am not a PUA. I only found this site when I was talking to some people at work and they pointed out some things that made sense and said I should look up some things on PUAs. I will start doing a lot of reading, but we were friends for about two years before we made the plunge.

    I actually felt like we had a connection, and she did struggle with some personal and self esteem issues. I was not really aware of the PUA scene until recently. I've heard a few things but never paid much attention. It is just difficult, I want to talk to her about this stuff and see if she even knows what happened, she told me she felt kind of crazy so he did a good number on her. Is there a way I can approach a conversation with her, point out these things, and not push her furthur away and into this guy's arms.

    Is remaining friends a good idea? I've been hanging out with friends and talking to other woman, but my thoughts still go back to my EX. Sure we had issues, but what couple doesn't?

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    Default Re: Lost girlfriend to a PUA - long distance relationship

    Hi Berglynt,

    I agree with the other advice here. However there is pua methodology to get your ex back. the common wisdom says keep away from her for at least a month. Because it was long distance you probably should take even longer.In the time away you commit to working on yourself.

    This generally means:
    workout physically
    workout emotionally - read lots of pua material. look up a dude name pook and read his material. Read lots of self-help stuff.
    Develop an alpha Mindset - you may not even want your ex back.
    Bill preston, who owns this forum has a product to get your ex back.
    If you don't have get yourself a cool hobby.
    Start looking seriously at dating other girls.

    after you have alpha'ed up, meet up with her. show her the man you have come, without showing (kinda like the sound of one hand clapping)

    Hope this helps
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    Default Re: Lost girlfriend to a PUA - long distance relationship

    Hi rs5096,

    I did cut off contact for about 3 weeks, but she contacted me because a friend I ranted to about the situation told her that I felt like she cheated on me so she wanted to talk. I spoke with her again, but haven't really had any conversations with her other than her thanking me for a birthday card. I had no plans to contact her for at least a few more weeks, so I will stay away for a while.

    I have been working out again, the renewed energy is great.
    I am going to start reading some stuff to protect my relationships from this in the future.
    I know I do not need my ex back, I just want her back because of our history. As for the alpha Mindset, I will work on that.
    I messaged Bill about his product, I wanted to know if it works long distance and would help my situation, I know he has a 60 day guarantee, but I thought to ask first so I won't ask for a refund if nothing in my situation will be affected by his program.
    I have started up some old hobbies, I never realized how much time a gf takes, lol. Not complaining though.
    I have spoke with other girls, some are interested in me, and I am trying.

    I do want to meet up with her again someday, but we are 1000s of miles apart and it is hard to see how I can get her to meet up with me or vice versa, but one step at a time right?

    Thanks, it does help.

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    Default Re: Lost girlfriend to a PUA - long distance relationship

    In the community we talk about simply getting the women, but not to much on keeping her. Read the 3% man winning the hearts of women. Its gold.
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    Default Re: Lost girlfriend to a PUA - long distance relationship

    Quote Originally Posted by 0Rooster0 View Post
    In the community we talk about simply getting the women, but not to much on keeping her. Read the 3% man winning the hearts of women. Its gold.
    I'll give it a read, think I will be doing lot of reading in the next few weeks.

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    Default Re: Lost girlfriend to a PUA - long distance relationship

    So she texted me and said that I would make a lucky girl very happy in the future. I guess she had a talk with our mutual friend again. Should I respond to this? What should I say?

    I am still reading a lot of things, but I'm not sure how to respond to this. Tell her I am fine and leave it at that? Do nothing? Say something along the lines of I am fine, I put two and two together and now I know what really happened? I guess the last part is not something I should type huh? It doesn't sound like alpha or high status. Is it ever going to be ok to mention something like that?

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    Hey Berglynt,

    Don't respond.

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