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    englishman99 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default UPDATE- GF might be cheating, TOO LATE for FREEZEOUT...

    Hi guys,

    i just saw a pic of my gf on fb on her friends page of her kissing that guy. Not a peck either.

    i got message from her 2 days ago that she would be in contact with me when she gets back stateside. she is visiting her family for a couple days there.

    i just updated my status on fb with "a picture is worth a thousand words"...

    i feel like tagging her and all her friends, family, parents on that pic....

    she is coming home in 6 days.

    not sure what the hell to do...she has cheated....for me i am basically done...i want to somehow let her know that i know and make her wonder what the hell i am thinking and doing and freeze her out....

    suggestions?

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    Default Re: UPDATE- GF might be cheating, TOO LATE for FREEZEOUT...

    Yes freeze her out but rise above revengeful thinking. It's much better to talk in person than play games on FB using status updates and tagging. You are better than that and there may even be a logical explanation. She said she will be in contact, see if she's truthful about that and if it comes up in conversation try not to act jealous or phased but if it's true quietly and confidently move on. Her loss.

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    Default Re: UPDATE- GF might be cheating, TOO LATE for FREEZEOUT...

    ya...i agree. i love her too much to hurt her even though she has broken my heart into a million pieces...

    the best revenge is to live well and have them regret it. story of my life unfortunately. i just removed my photo and cover from fb as well. not sure what good the Freeze Out will do at this point.

    a friend suggested i email her the pic? thoughts?

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    Default Re: UPDATE- GF might be cheating, TOO LATE for FREEZEOUT...

    not sure what the logical explanation for a kiss like that could be. i can see his tongue in my gf's mouth....

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    Default Re: UPDATE- GF might be cheating, TOO LATE for FREEZEOUT...

    the picture is proof that it was not a normal kiss.

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    Default Re: UPDATE- GF might be cheating, TOO LATE for FREEZEOUT...

    How long have you been dating? Bringing it up face to face will reveal at least if it was a 'misdemeanor' or 'felony' if you know what I mean... Her feelings for you will be revealed by her level of guilt. We're all free individuals, unless married, so if you two are young she just may not want to be tied down right now. But if she does this now you can't really trust her again so I would be enjoying playing around with new girls. Maybe a Freeze Out won't do anything. Confront her and move on. If she apologizes and begs to come back you're at least in control and can decide to shut her down or give her a second chance. Eitherway you don't need to do anything right now (which is sort of a freeze out) - sending her photos or deleting your profiles is an attack back on her, whereas the more efficient mature way forward is to ignore it until you speak next. Your not a guy who messes around and won't tolerate it but at the same time are restrained and intellectual enough to accept it and use it as fuel to find someone better.

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    Default Re: UPDATE- GF might be cheating, TOO LATE for FREEZEOUT...

    Yep, move on. Would you want to stay with someone who does this kind of stuff? You feel sad not because you feel you lost her, but because you lost the person you were dating. You realized she was not the person you liked, so you feel like you lost something.

    Anyway, that sucks man, sorry :/

    You can try to confront her, but do it as a man. She is not a woman who broke your heart, she is a woman who did bullsh1t and lied to you. Would you start crying and yelling in front of your little 8 years old nice who told you she would be nice and all, and then messed your car / with the oven, whatever? No, you would be pissed off, but in control. You would ask explanations, and listen to them, but then explain why you are pissed off, and why that's wrong.

    It might just be a test, she might just be testing you to see when you lose your sh!t. So stay cool and in control. But again, well... Better to move on, man :/

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    Default Re: UPDATE- GF might be cheating, TOO LATE for FREEZEOUT...

    we have been living together 2 years. just got a house together.

    not sure if i can ever trust her again after this. just so many lies....

    that pic is tough to look at....

    should i send her the pic and say "nice pic" then not answer if she calls or just wait til she returns and see how she reacts to me?

    misdemeanor or felony....this sure feels like bullet through the chest.

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    Default Re: UPDATE- GF might be cheating, TOO LATE for FREEZEOUT...

    You have to confront as soon as you can so you're no longer in limbo. 2 years and a house - that does suck, sorry. If it's any concelation a friend if mine had same thing happen. She was cheating, broke his heart but 2 weeks later he met the girl of his dreams and they got married several years later. Think of this as an opportunity rather than a loss. Better now than later. But honestly just keep cool and talk it out face to face rather than play games. Be real strong and prepared to shut her down completely with no remorse. It's not your destiny, you deserve better and kharma will bite her on the arse in the fullness of time. What goes around comes around.

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    Default Re: UPDATE- GF might be cheating, TOO LATE for FREEZEOUT...

    thanks whitedragon...she won't be home for 6 days. not sure if i should confront her on the phone or online at this point or how to do it or even what to say to her. trying to stay positive....if she is like this maybe its a blessing in disguise.


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