Okay, so Iíll give you guyís a rundown of the situation here. I got my ex back a little over a week ago. Very common story--she put me on a break, found out there was another guy within two days so I broke up with her and became missing from her life. I went lc, nc, and got her back after a little over three weeks. She has agreed to date me again and be exclusive with one another while we figure things out. She has said that she doesnít want to just get back together right away because it might confuse our son, which I agreed to. However, she doesnít really want me to leave her house and Iíve been with her the whole time. Every time I talk about leaving she starts giving me signals that she wants me to stay.
This whole week, she has been throwing a ton of sh1t tests. She continues to talk about a future either with me in it or out of it. She wants to go to counseling with me so we can work on our problems and figure out whether we should stay together or not. Iím not a big fan of the counseling idea because obviously I canít be absolutely truthfulóthings just donít work that way and we all know that. I have to continue to be alpha and play her attraction switchesóacting all beta in counseling would destroy all that Iíve worked for so far. Our first appointment is tomorrow. Whatís really bugging me is that guyís number is still in her phone. Should I confront her and tell her I want her to erase it or should I continue to act unaffected by it? Also, I made the mistake the other night of pushing her a little too hard because of business decisions that need to be made.
I canít continue to live in limbo here. I saw what I was doing and quickly reeled it back in telling her that Iím going to just live my life and make the moves that I have to, with or without her. That was extremely affective! The problem here is that she hasnít been concrete about getting back together. Everything I know about women tells me that I should give her space until she gives me a definite answer but itís so damn hard when you have kids together. Any advice would be really appreciated.