Ok, first of all Hello. I know a fair bit about PUA, read up on it years ago. Not bad with women, pretty confident generally etc.
Anway. I started seeing this girl at work. Shes 7 years older than me but Im very mature for my age (24) and we got along amazingly. Relationship was one big thing after another. After about 7 months we went to India for 5 weeks togther. It was incredible. 2 weeks after it ended. Said there was 'something missing' and that she just didnt feel the same way anymore. So we were together for 8 months, we were very close during the whole time. Im sure it was me being needy and her losing attraction. It probably happended just before we went to India which would have been fine because we were really close there and I was stronger than her there but I was needy again when we got back.
At first I was upset and showed it. Didnt text her much, was just miserable at work. After a few weeks I started reading PUA stuff again and decided to act like it didnt affect me. She started seeing someone else and posting about how happy she was on facebook and telling or mutal friends about her new man. I didnt react at all. I started dating other women, took up yoga, changed my workout, grew another epic beard, making knives again etc.
We split up 10 weeks or so ago. The first 6 or 7 weeks were akward. She was distant and cold. After I really didnt care about what she did (blocked her FB posts so I couldnt see anyway) she started acting nicer. A few weeks ago I was away from work and didnt see her. When I got back she was working the same night as me even though she doesnt normally work that night. She was really nice, friendly, touchy, talkative. We even talked about our time in India. It was the same the next day. She was play fighting, teasing, talking about past times.
Now I could be missreading it. She is still seeing this guy. Its just a bit of a dramatic shift from not caring to being my friend. It also happened after a work mate said 'you seeing that girl tonight?' infront of her and 'what girl' slipped out of her mouth before she walked away.
How do I approach this? Keep being myself, flirting, teasing and talking about past experiances until we are friends and work from there? It seems to be getting better with her. I feel like we are firting almost like we did when we were courting. I dont have her number anymore so I cant text her but would an indirect message help?
Sorry this is so long but we shared so much togther and we were so happy im gutted it wa over so soon.
Thanks for your help.