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    Default Will ex gf give a 3rd chance? Need expert advice

    Hey guys, me and my ex have been dating for a bit over a year. We had a great relationship with a few minor bumps. 2 months ago we broke up but I managed to get her back by showing her I changed and acting more alpha. We planned a trip to Cuba together and one night we were there I drank way too much and did a load of cocaine, usually I can handle myself but I lost control and ended up play fully pushing her too hard and she fell and when she ran away I grabbed her arm. After this she was very upset and told me to leave so I packedy bags and went back to
    Edmonton. I proceeded to act like a AFC begging for her back and apologizing constanttey. The other day we went for dinner and she said it was the last time she could see me and I agreed and she was very upset when we said goodbye. She says it
    Is over and that she needs space. Obviously no contact has been started but will it make a difference? I know it's much easier to move on but i love her very much, what steps can I take to get her back other than nc? Will she contact me if I don't contact her for a bit and will she feel too stupid to give me a 3rd chance after blowing it in such a good situation. She is clearly very hurt, but i think she still loves me
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    Default Re: Will ex gf give a 3rd chance? Need expert advice

    you physically hurt her man, she will never forget that, but it doesn't mean she won't forgive you.

    give her the space she desires, atleast a couple of weeks she desirves that after the pain you have caused.

    Send her a text in a couple weeks just saying " how are you?

    Use the 2 weeks yourself to realise, repent and get your shit together to make sure you never do it again, if you love her you will make sacrifices, cut out drugs and alcohol and become a better man, if she see's your making a genuine effort. Then just mabie she may give you another chance.

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    Men, we need to value our time more then we value women. This isn't to say women are not valuable. But who are we to believe in something so illogical, as men we should realize that without our time(life), we would not even be able to pursue women, but only our mother who gave us life. Why do we think we should prioritize them over our time(life) unless she is the one who gives me/my children life. Man is Sovereignty.

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    Default Re: Will ex gf give a 3rd chance? Need expert advice

    I feel horrible for what I did, the hardest part is dealing with that, I wake up and wish it never happend. I will continue with nc for a few weeks and see how it goes.... Trying to pick myself up after this. Thx for the help

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    Be honest with yourself. If you were her what would you do?
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    Default Re: Will ex gf give a 3rd chance? Need expert advice

    I'm not sure if I could look over what I did if I was her. I was very drunk and it was clearly a mistake which made me have to leave the vacation spot. I'm hoping she will take it was a drunk night, and one day forgive me, but that's a lot of expect. Has no contact actually worked when a girl is that hurt? How can I show her a change if we aren't talking?

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    Real Talk:

    This isn't about her; this is about you. It sounds like you have some cleaning up to do, but only if you agree with that. If you are fine with your actions and lifestyle then I guess don't worry about it, but if you arent it's time for a change. No Contact isn't for her; it's for you. It's time spent alone so you can work on yourself without any distractions.

    You can admit to yourself that she deserves better, so give her better, even if it's not you. If you really care about her you'll take it upon yourself to do what's best for her, even if that's not what's best for you. Leave her alone, and if you one day think you have finally become what she truly deserves, get back to her.

    But get back to her only to show her that you really have changed, not with the expectation of dating her. Scar tissue runs deep.
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