Has anyone been in a situation where you were attempting to re-connect with an ex, yet during the process she tells you she's talking with and possibly connecting with another ex-boyfriend from about 3 years back, who apparently had infidelity issues and was emotionally abusive.

Should no contact be re-initiated? or should the standard ex-retrieval process still go on as normal, regardless of another ex BF trying to do the same thing with her simultaneously?

I don't think it should ever come to a guy chasing her like she's some kind of prize.