Ok I'm sure this is a familiar story to many on this forum. The background is that I had been dating a girl for approx a year, we were friends for ten years prior and got together after her marriage broke down. It was a very fulfilling relationship in all aspects and we had talked about a future together, I got on great with her son too and we were virtually living together. Approx a month ago she asked for a week of space as I became aware her ex husband had been applying pressure on her (not to get back together just nasty messages) and she felt we had rushed into things. She said she was 99% sure we were meant for each other etc but just wanted to be sure. I work away during the week in the military and freaked over the need for space and essentially didn't give her what she asked for culminating in me accussing her of seeing someone else! She was furious and said it was over ... As she didn't want to have a jealousy based relationship. I initiated NC almost immediately at this stage when 5 days in she texted asking to see me for a coffee, I replied a day later and then nothing! We played this delayed replying game for abourmt another week before meeting upfront coffee which became dinner. It was great, much like old times but I got drawn into a conversation about the break up when I got home. I made the mistake of saying it had been a good start to repairing our problems to which she said she missed me alot, we had areal connect but her resentment over the accusation had killed her feelings and did I want to be friends. I said I wasn't sure how I felt as I wouldn't want to go back to our old friendship. I also said that I wouldn't want to be around if she started dating - I asked how she felt if I were to start dating and she was unsure too.
Another two weeks have past and she has added a couple of guys on Facebook I don't know, potential dates but mutual friends have said nothing has happened. In response I have been on a date with an old flame and plan to go away with a group of friends this weekendof which this old flame is one. My ex sent me a late night message over small talk the night she saw I had been out with this girl, I waited till morning to reply but she again has not got back to me! I don't want to play the jealousy card and have followed the M3 system which got results in the initial week after break up but now what? She has been flirting on Facebook with other guys and I'm aware she is checking mine too from comments she made. I'm worried as I deploy for two months later this month so will be kind of out of the picture till my return - she is aware of this which initially forced her to get in touch. So where do I go from here???