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    euzebije is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Broke up without real explanation




    Ok, i ll try to explain my situation. My gf went for a season job, and we agreed that she ll stay there for a month and then we go to vacation together. We heard on a phone regulary and it was all fine (kisses, love,missing each other etc.).4 days before date we agreed that i come and pick her up she suddenly stopped answering my texts. So, after 2 days on no contact i sat in car and went to see her.

    On half way there i recived text from her that she is sorry but she need some time alone and she will stay there for another month. i went to her anyway and we had short conversation where she told me that she need break to decide about her life, feeling, relationship and everything.I was emotionaly devastated but didnt do anything stupid.

    I decided to NC her so she can get her space. I stayed for 2 days in town nearby still in hope. 2nd day she texted me if i want her to meet on coffie and i politely declined. 3rd day she sent text that she feels like piece of ****. I responded that i feel same and feeling confused and betrayed by her, and that now i need some time and space either.

    But what i feel was mistake, that i sent another message where i explained that i still love her and that i m going to take some trip for couple of weeks and so. She just said, ok, have a safe trip.

    Now i think that i should have stick to NC and just answer: sorry you feel that way, without explaining my emotions and plans, so she can just sit and wondering what is happening with me.

    So i would like to hear some opinions did i make a mistake, and what to do next? She really acted like **** towards me, but i really love her and want to get her back, but not in the way like it was till now where she had dominance over relationship. (which i belive might be just a reason she dumped me)


    Background info: We were best friends for years before relationship, i was her emotional and financial support, we get along very well with each others families.

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    Alexander Nicoles Advice is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Broke up without real explanation

    You didnt make a mistake although it would have helped if you two met over coffee to hear what was on her mind. She may be going through a phase in her life when she may be re-evaluating her priorities and future. Thats where you need to talk to her seriously and see whether you fit into her life anymore.

    you must realize that although she stopped communicating to you when she was away, the problem didnt start from there. Even when you were together there was always something on her mind. Its a good thing that you are in good terms with the family. Try and get them involved, find out what could be the problem with your gf from close friends or parents.

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    Default Re: Broke up without real explanation

    isn't it clear what went wrong, you showed too much interest. it seems like your a little too needy with her. do you even ever tease her? you have neglected to do the neccisary maintenance to keep her interested romantically in you, its a problem most guys get into with LTR's, they want the relationship but they get lax with their flirting. you need to take her on a date somewhere and flirt with her the whole time, recreate that attraction you once had and take her back. if that doesn't work you should move on and go nc


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