okay so ive posted about this beforebut i need some more help, i broke up with my ex of 5 years she ended it over a phone call didnt really say much about why we broke up didnt really discuss the issues bumped into her a few times one week before my birthday and i dint invite her out just said hi etc. any way on my birthday she text me paranoidly about a post i made on face book, then she gave me a birthday present as well (a film of a book i gave her but she never read)
any way let me get on to this after my birthday i was really angry so i sent this message
thank you for the birthday present and wishes, i didnt get back to you because you were being paranoid about what i ws doing after it was you that ended the relationship. i found that to be a very mixed signal from you, as in your still confused.my birthday wasnt a fare time to do that. like i said when you broke we are not going to be friends and my position on that hasnt changed. if your still confused i am willing to talk about things.
this is where it gets a bit weird, she started texting that night, before replying, one of my best friends who set us up. she had a few texts that he showed me saying things like
- i want to text him back but i dont know what to say
-should i text him, i was going to ask you something else
- oh yes, do you know if hes interested in anyone else? am i boring? i dont know what i want i am ick of talking about it, i dream about it and when i wake up im upset about it.
-the thing is if i see him it will be easy for us to get back together i think the problem is more with me but i dont know
-im just a confused bear i wasnt happy before and i am not happy now ill just get upset if i talk to him
- if we meet face to face i know we will get sucked back in and i wont say what i want i dont want to upset him and ill just cry
okay if you are still with me .....she sent this the next day to me
im sorry i made you feel like that on your birthday, your right it wasnt fare, i didnt want to confuse things, i had just woken up and got upset and sent it without thinking. i did just want you to have a good day, i got you the present because i thought you would like it. i know you dont want us to be friends. i dont know what i would have to say if we talked i would just end up crying and saying i dont know alot.
so after that i resumed no contact again then a few weeks later i changed my number i didnt want her to think it was because of her so i sent her this
dont know if there is much point giving you this but it felt a bit rude changing my number and not letting you know.
she replied back
thank you what happened to your iphone? i hope your okay?
still got it just changed contract
oh okay well thanks for letting me know anyway
i resumed no contact
it then got to a month since the break and i though its time to get closure and discuss what happened etc because we never talked about it so i tried phoning and got no answer then she text me
sorry i was just in bed thats why i dindt answer, are you okay?
i ignored her
then she sent again
i think that message reads like i am in a mood but i was ust saying i was in bed thats why i missed your call text me if you want.
so i waited for a while then sent
we need to go talk about things, we were together for 5 years and it wil be better for both of us, even if its just to make things final, it will be better for both of us because we havent talked about why this happened at all.
i know you are right i just know that when i see you i will get upset and start crying and not say much, but you are right we need to talk because it was 5 years and we didnt talk about things properly. its (female friends name) birthday this weekend, but i am free on monday if you want to meet up?
i said i would text her on monday
Can someone please give me an opinion its a bit nuts i dont know how to approach monday or if i should look at all this positive or not.