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    Default Re: Help, dont know where to go from here on getting back X

    striker, thanks bro, its good to be reassured from other bros. lol, this has been a wild ride for me.. so once she does contact me again, be it text/call, just keep it short and brief? act like im disinterested?

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    Default Re: Help, dont know where to go from here on getting back X

    I wouldnt reply like i said if she wants to gte back with you she will let you know just start to alpha up be nice and polite. Have you thought about maybe telling her you need some space?

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    Default Re: Help, dont know where to go from here on getting back X

    I'm no expert but here's my take on your situation.

    I would say it's a good thing she's calling. You're obviously on her mind and she wants you in her life. I cannot tell what her intentions are but to be honest, her intentions don't matter that much. Ask yourself what you want out of this and then ask for advice. I assume you want her back, and that's fine but like I replied before, you need some space. I believe it is also healthy to ask yourself WHY you want her back. Is it because you're still grieving? Because you have a mentality of scarcity about women? Are you afraid you won't meet anyone? These are not good reasons I think. Give yourself time and do not contact her first. I have been doing this as well and like you said, it works like a charm. (I haven't contacted my ex and as soon as she saw I was active on fb she wanted to chat! She was very curious about what I am doing and expressed sadness that we're not talking.)

    Use this time to learn, like you are doing. Get out there and try meeting new people, including girls. I am doing this. I'm not looking for 'the one' when I go out. Sh1t I'm not even looking to get laid. I'm looking to have fun and learn more about social interactions which in turn, teach me a lot about myself. I don't know if your situation warrants you telling her to back off (politely) but if it does, go ahead and do it. I got a lot of advice in my own thread about doing this. I didn't do it because I don't have to. I had no problem not contacting her, at all, and when she did I kept it short. So examine your situation, the reason for the break up and even how you broke up (if you had one big emotional outburst it makes sense for you to tell her that you need your space). In my case we just talked (by texting pff!) so I just cut her off and that's it.

    Like I said, in the meantime improve on yourself. Not for her but for you. You owe yourself the best in life so go ahead and grab the best for yourself. Make it about yourself. All the politically correct crap about being kind and polite in your community is still valid, but make it about yourself. Respect yourself first and foremost. (We wouldn't even be here if we reminded ourselves about this a few weeks ago!)

    I believe that if you go back to what you had with this girl, it MUST be because you are both better persons after this. Let her call you and then text her back that you're busy. If you decide that you really need the space just tell her something like 'Hey, I'm glad you're ok but I can't be your friend right now. I'm busy with ..... so I'll catch you later..' but do it in your own words.

    I hope this helps you.

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    Default Re: Help, dont know where to go from here on getting back X

    Don't act like you're indifferent. Don't act busy.

    Become indifferent. Be busy.

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    Default Re: Help, dont know where to go from here on getting back X

    thanks striker, thanks steps.. sobering thoughts.. i am sure I want her back, yes, but the reasons are because of who she is, but also some of what you asked does play on my mind, i mean lets be honest, it does.

    will do guys, thanks for the continued advice, i will post updates as they come.

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    Default Re: Help, dont know where to go from here on getting back X

    You just need to start moving on. If she comes back then great. If not then great . You cannot predict the future so live your life and start having fun things will sort themselves out that's one thing for certain

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    Default Re: Help, dont know where to go from here on getting back X

    Ok so as you guys may remember, I implemented no contact after I got all of my stuff out of the apartment, which has now been about a month and a half.

    We had a good friendly conversation last week on our email accounts which I initiated and ended. We are now friends on facebook. I am forcing myself not to creep thru her profile and I have also taken her off my news feed. I just wanted to show that I am ok with it.

    There have been no signs that she wants me back although it does seem like she tries to get me to react to things, sh1t tests, which I have completely been ignoring.

    My gf and I had a competitive type of relationship and that seems to be carrying over for her. After the break up I could tell that she was trying to show that she was over it. Constantly changing her cover photo/profile picture which she is still doing.

    I am at a good place now though, thanks to no contact. I am finally feeling indifferent towards her. I am ok with the fact that we probably won't reconcile. I have made mistakes in the relationship and understand the problems that we have had. Right now it does make sense that we are apart to me. I truly want her to be happy and if its not with me then so be it. From the little contact we have had I do sense that she is confused about who she is and what she wants. I am just going to focus on myself now and I am done wasting time on her. I am starting to find myself again. A more care free, down to earth, good sense of humor type of person.

    My advice to you guys is do everything for yourself. Don't change who you are for her. I don't think there can be any reconciliation until you are truly indifferent towards her.

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    Default Re: Help, dont know where to go from here on getting back X

    goodluck bro, glad you're ok.. you are stronger than me for being able to just be indifferent about the whole thing. i am still struggling after 48 hours of NC, especially since she tried contact with me.. so good job bro,

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    Default Re: Help, dont know where to go from here on getting back X

    Quote Originally Posted by Victory37 View Post
    goodluck bro, glad you're ok.. you are stronger than me for being able to just be indifferent about the whole thing. i am still struggling after 48 hours of NC, especially since she tried contact with me.. so good job bro,
    Stay strong me first week is the worst!

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    Default Re: Help, dont know where to go from here on getting back X

    yeah , you aint lying, what is going to be even more sweet, is september 11 i have my porcelain veneers put on my teeth. which if you don't know what that is, its a pricey cosmetic procedure that makes your teeth like hollywood style. point being, once i have that done I should be even more irresistable ( lol ) , i hope I do not see her till then.


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