At least your getting replies Saund :P... I am on day 11 no contact
At least your getting replies Saund :P... I am on day 11 no contact
I had a plan to wait for her to contact me and then I text her. I didn't have much going on tonight and I just started to think too much. I wanted to see where she was at with all of this. I just gave up some of that power. She didn't just casually say "pal" she meant to say it to piss me off in which it did. Well I didn't react to it towards her. Its probably a good thing she's doing that shit, but man does it tick me off.
I went into no contact for a month and a half. I've been there man.
A month and a half?! eeesh, did she finally get a hold of you or did you reach out after that break
After the break up she continued to contact me so I had to tell her to back off. I told her I couldn't be friends with her right now. So yeah then I initiated contact a month in a half later when I knew I was ready. We are starting at the same college and will be seeing each around. Plus we are in a wedding together this weekend. So that should be interesting.
saund, that sucks man..at least you get the wedding to show her whats up.. if you have alphad up, you have a perfect stage for it right there.. i am jealous of that..and yeah i had the good day of news, but i still can't get emotional over my ex or show any kind of interest of any sort, why? because you can't trust them!!
i'll be updating as the saga continues, trust me bros.. my plan is to be on here before the new year with a pic of us both reunited, praising how we got back together.. pray that day comes for me, i want it !! goodluck to ya too bro..
Hi guys, i'm a new member and I need some advice, related to this subject, I have posted this on a site too but I just need to hear some words of wisdom. I know I've been a wuss!
I started seeing this girl a few months ago, who was introduced through a friend and it was amazing; the dates went brilliantly she was really getting into it and she came back to mine after the second date. She was adamant that she didn't want to do anything though and only cam back because she couldn't get home; so we didn't.
In addition to this I knew she'd been on some terrible internet dates with another guy and said how bad he'd been on them, i didn't think anything of it at the time.
We then went on a two more dates before the inevitable happened and she came back to mine again and we finally had sex. She text me after and said she had an amazing time and was sorry she had to leave early the next day. We went on a few more dates, but the final time she wouldn't come back with me. After that she then texted me and said 'I think we should just be friends, I'm not feeling the spark' even though we get on amazingly. I didn't reply at first and then she sent another text saying 'please don't hate me.'
I stupidly replied and we started texting each other again and this went on for another month - but she said she couldn't meet up because of work (she works in tv production so it was always difficult to see her anyway).
Finally we met up again a week ago and it was great just like old times, we had an awesome date and everything was going really well, so i kissed her towards the end of the night. At first she pulled away but then when I went in again, we really got going and she was enjoying it. She then said she was really confused and started going on about how she didn't know what she wanted and how she hasn't been in a relationship for 8 years and is scared. I started saying what have we got to lose and when don't we just give it a go (another mistake I know)? We went our seperate ways that evening and kissed again before we parted. I waited for a few days before sending her a message asking whether she wanted to meet up at the weekend and got no response. i wanted for a bit longer before sending another one saying that i didn't want to give up unless she wanted me to because i really thought there could be something there.
She then replied with a really cold message just saying that she still wanted to be friends and didn't know what she was doing. She then said she was now seeing someone else and she didn't know whether she had made the right decision but felt she had to go with it. I stupidly got stressed and wrote back an angry response saying why had she kissed me then and got me to meet up with her, and also i hoped it wasn't the guy from the dates (again a mistake)! I regreted it but it was how I was feeling at the time. I sent another message saying how i thought she was just running away from stuff and how great we were. And then a final message just apologising and saying I never meant to be mean but I can't just be friends. (I know for a fact through our mutual friend that she is seeing that guy from the dates, but it is very early days and my friend seems to think it might not last -she was taking the piss out of him regularly when they spoke).
I then cut it off; deleted her number and Facebook profile and have not been in contact since (over a week). I've also had no replies.
I realise in hindsight that i never should have texted back when she initially said about being friends, at least i would be over it by now if nothing else.
But is it too late now, am I forever in the friendzone with this girl, or is it completely over? Do you think by cutting myself off now she may become curious and get in contact later. I want to give it another go but i realise that i have made myself seem too needy and it might not ever happen now.
Any advice would be great guys, she's really torn me up.
bro, you should move your post to your own thread, you just hijacked mine.. i will then give you advice and so will the rest of the bros here..
did not mean to hijack - Have started my own thread
Thanks for any help
well boys, she called me today, we talked, told me she was just relaxing..then I said i was at work and that I would call later.. well? she texts me a few minutes later asking if I want to go play cards tonight.. remember my previous post about her playing cards without me that one night and telling me?? yeah well this time she invited me to go with just her..
that being said we are going to the casino tonight, which is both of our favorite forms of entertainment.. since I agreed she has been texting me on and off every hour or so on how she cant wait to do certain things there, which we have a lot of memories in casinos together.. so this is good.. she also called me when she was hooking up her Wii and couldn't figure it out on the TV, also good, lets me know Im the guy she's calling for stuff like that, just reassurance no other guy is in the picture..
anyways, I will probably be going to her new house tonight too and then go to the casino from there, my questions are, any thoughts on how to handle this situation? Those that have been following my thread know whats up.. I pretty much have a game plan, but anything extra you all can throw in will help.. thanks bros!
That's so good to hear. I'm happy for you. Just don't be too eager about her and don't expect anything. Be cool. For the long run it would be much healthier if tonight you leave when you're both feeling good. Oh how I wish this happens to me too! Good luck Victory.