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    Default Srsly confusing stuff- need help with ex who doesn't know what she wanta

    Hey guys,

    My gf broke up with me about a month, and after begging for her back we went on no contact for 2 weeks. I ended up texting her and we exchanged pleasantries, and the next day I saw her at the gym and we ended up talking and she said how she missed me and thinks about me everyday. I said the same thing and we said we would meet up soon. I called her drunk on Friday and we met up and hooked up, it was nice but she said she's still very hurt by me and wasn't ready for anything.

    On Saturday I saw her at the club and we got into a fight and didn't really talk. I ended up calling her quite a few times after the club and we argued on the phone.

    The next day we met up, and I said i still loved her and she still loved me but she's unsure of what she wants. We hooked up again and said that we would talk soon, but she needed more space.

    Is my only option here to go no contact here and see what happens or should none more forward with it. She's confused as to what she wants, I want her back.

    Any ideas?

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    Default Re: Srsly confusing stuff- need help with ex who doesn't know what she want

    bro I am in a situation myself, so I won't give any advice on how to win her back. I am trying to figure that out myself, however I will tell you, stop HOOKING up with her! You have to understand that devalues your relationship each time it happens outside of being committed. If you don't love her and look at her as a piece of ass, then go ahead, but if you love her, wait for it, and when she and you are back together, your intimacy will be through the roof. You are giving her yourself without any commitment, come on man, be better! I know its hard, but if you ever want her back, you have to show her that sex is not high priority, and also it is a privilege for her to be able to sleep with you, do not just give it away. good luck

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    Default Re: Srsly confusing stuff- need help with ex who doesn't know what she want

    i lost my ex cause i did all wrong! do NC, she must feel how is it without you, go and hang with friends, live your life, show her that you can do without her and she will realize that she might lose you ...

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    Default Re: Srsly confusing stuff- need help with ex who doesn't know what she want

    baltazar knows whats up.

    Go no contact. She needs to understand that you won't always be there for whenever she wants you back. Don't be a doormat. Maintain your dignity and go into no contact. Try to do it for yourself. Show her that you don't need her, you just want her.

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    Default Re: Srsly confusing stuff- need help with ex who doesn't know what she want

    Imagine a woman who to you is physically a 10. You find out more about her and find out you like the same things and even have the same exact sense of humor. She is open about her interest in you and even wants to plan a future together if possible.

    Now think of your ex....

    How does she compare?

    What if she wanted you back while you were trying to see if things work with this new woman? How would you behave towards her? Provably like an annoying fly. Except you don't want to hurt her feelings since that would only bring drama and you are more focused on your new woman.

    THIS is how you should behave towards her. With indifference.

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    Default Re: Srsly confusing stuff- need help with ex who doesn't know what she want

    no no no no! Drunken hokups and fighting isn't helping anything. This is why she is confused, where is the positive emotions she felt when you two first met? If anything man, it's tearing you two further apart.

    What you need to do is do NC. text here and there but NEVER drunk. Let her come to you.

    She needs time to figure out what she wants and you need time to figure your emotions out as well. Take the time for both of you two heal and get a broader perspective.

    Trust me dude, i'm on week 3 of NC. We have text a few times and hung out only once. My friends keep telling me how she is starting to miss me. Plus, all of the emotions that used to cloud my judgement have vanished. I am looking at my situation with a new set of eyes. You need to do the same.


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