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    Default She says she wants me but don't want to hang out

    Hi



    My Question about this girl:
    She was my girlfriend for 1,5 year until we broke up in august last year.

    March this year we began seeing each other again, and I was was in the state "I can get better than her now".. I felt my standards had become higher.
    She called me everyday and asked if I wanted to come over. So I basically went out talking to girls every night and crashed at her place like 3-5 in the morning, had sex and the next morning she went to work.

    I actually started to like her really much again. She treated me really good, I could do my thing and get all the sex and love I wanted from her. She called me everyday.
    And she did say that it would be nice also to do things together in the daytime.

    (Saturday)
    Then one night, about 2 weeks ago she was frustrated and wanted the "Why don't you want me to be your girlfriend" - talk. She tried to make me jealous by saying she had sex another guy yesterday (even though yesterday, she texted me that she was with her girls, and hung up when I called)

    Then I became jealous and mad, and later send her some angry messages, because -
    - why did she use that jealousy trick? Not fair
    - she lied to me yesterday about what she was doing
    - if she wanted to be my girfriend, then why the heck is she farking another guy while I'm sending sweet messages, for once?

    (Sunday)
    The next day I showed up at her job - she finished and we talked a bit. Then we went to her place and had sex again.

    (Monday)
    The nex day I texted her "Lets hang out later" - no answer.

    (Wednesday night)
    I texted her "Come to *KulÝr bar. I miss you" - no answer. *a club in my city

    (Thursday and friday)
    I showed up at her job and said something like "Whats up", "busy day huh?", let's hang out when you finish work" and stuff like that, in a non needy, happy way. But she rejected me saying "I'm not sure" and "I don't think so" with confidence in her voice.
    I was thinking "what is the problem? She wanted me as her boyfriend, and now when I show signals that I WANT her, she suddenly like ignore me?"

    (Friday and saturday)
    Whe discussed a bit via Facebook about our situation. Apparently she was mad about my behaviour towards her last saturday. I said "sorry", but didn't give in to her idea, that I "owed her an apology". I mean, I was jealous and showed some vulnerability and sended her 2 mad text messages while I was drunk...
    But saturday next morning she asked "Where are you now?"
    Later that day I came to her place and we talked a bit. She was closen up, but I managed to open her up, hugged and kissed. She said she wanted to "think about things".

    (Monday)
    I met her radomly on the street. We were hugging, smalltalking.. she asked "Did you think about it?". "What did you find out?".
    But SHE just told me 2 days ago that SHE wanted to "Think".. so I don't understand what she is communicating.
    No doubt she was happy to see me, but not happy enough.

    Note: since saturday I have been non needy and in a good mood the two times we met. Like "I want her but don't NEED her"


    My question: IS she really doubting wether or not she wanna see me
    OR
    does she want me to continually show her that I really want her (in a non needy way), because she feels hurt?

    What do you think?

    Thank you

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    Default Re: She says she wants me but don't want to hang out

    if she wanted to be my girfriend, then why the heck is she farking another guy while I'm sending sweet messages, for once?

    say that too her.

    Play her at her own game, use her words against you, she playing you. play her back

    it sounds like she used one simpl game on you and you reacted, now your chasing her and she is loosing attraction, simply because you went from alpha to beta and nowshe alpha, i suggest you start talking to other women where she notices, via facebook or what ever, photos and it will come across as she isnt the only one,she did the texas switch, ou do the duble texas switch.
    Men, we need to value our time more then we value women. This isn't to say women are not valuable. But who are we to believe in something so illogical, as men we should realize that without our time(life), we would not even be able to pursue women, but only our mother who gave us life. Why do we think we should prioritize them over our time(life) unless she is the one who gives me/my children life. Man is Sovereignty.

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    Default Re: She says she wants me but don't want to hang out

    Hi Tyrone1991 and thanks.

    The girl and I are not friends on Facebook and don't have any close mutual friends.

    So I guess I should just talk to other women and forget about her for now
    - and when she one day contacts me, I should let her miss me and just be awesome?
    - And make her feel like I'm out of her reach again, so SHE will want ME more than I want her?

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    Default Re: She says she wants me but don't want to hang out

    exactly, if she calls you to hang out say i cant that night i got a date. create false triangles bro
    Men, we need to value our time more then we value women. This isn't to say women are not valuable. But who are we to believe in something so illogical, as men we should realize that without our time(life), we would not even be able to pursue women, but only our mother who gave us life. Why do we think we should prioritize them over our time(life) unless she is the one who gives me/my children life. Man is Sovereignty.

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    Men, we need to value our time more then we value women. This isn't to say women are not valuable. But who are we to believe in something so illogical, as men we should realize that without our time(life), we would not even be able to pursue women, but only our mother who gave us life. Why do we think we should prioritize them over our time(life) unless she is the one who gives me/my children life. Man is Sovereignty.

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    Default Re: She says she wants me but don't want to hang out

    Thanks, I really appreciate your answers.

    This saturday when I went to her place and talked, she kissed me and told me that I could "get a little at a time" (don't know if it's correct grammar, I'm not american.)
    With that said - it must mean she is into something, right? Even though I still have to turn it around and give HER "a little at a time."


    Sunday morning she did Facebook me and asked "Where are you?" - and if I were in the area, I'm SURE that she wanted to meet up)

    = attraction.

    Right?


    Anyways, I think the move that she made when she fucked that guy and told me, says alot.

    Either;
    - she was sad cause she didn't feel appreciated by me, so she got some validation from the other guy, or
    - she is playing games with me


    I'm still confused and I feel helpless, so I will do my best to move forward.
    If she contacts me soon, I will say "I can't, have plans with somebody else" (she will probably think it's a girl)

    And then I will be that cool and FREE man, that I was, back when she became massively attracted to me a couple of months ago.


    Even though I'm confused, I still understand:

    I had an apiffany tonight when I was out clubbing.
    I suddenly FELT the same way as I did a couple of months ago, back when she became attracted to me - abundance.
    And I realized how my energy and exitement about life had slowly disappeared in a downward spiral WITHOUT ME EVEN BEING CONSCIOUS about it... I totally lost my feeling of abundance.

    But tonight I felt it.

    And god damn it felt good. There is only one way now - to grow and to live life to the fullest.

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    Default Re: She says she wants me but don't want to hang out

    i have a few simple words for you, you live by this you make every girl you encounter attracted to you.

    "DO NOT MAKE WOMAN A PRIORTY" unless your going to marry her.
    Men, we need to value our time more then we value women. This isn't to say women are not valuable. But who are we to believe in something so illogical, as men we should realize that without our time(life), we would not even be able to pursue women, but only our mother who gave us life. Why do we think we should prioritize them over our time(life) unless she is the one who gives me/my children life. Man is Sovereignty.

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    Default Re: She says she wants me but don't want to hang out

    Cool.

    I just met her two times this week.

    First time daytime in a mall. We just walked and chatted. When she hugged goodbye, she holded on to me.

    Second time was nighttime yesterday, saturday. We chatted and had fun for a little while, until i went to another club.

    So far, I've been totally non-needy.

    I send her a message on Facebook this morning
    Me "Hi stiffmeister. I'm going to the park today! Message me if u wanna join"
    Her "I'm hanging out with Melanie today but send you number?"
    ...A couple of hours later...
    Me "3905059" (I "forgot" the ast letter on purpose)

    now she is going to askfor the missing number. And I'll let her wait for that untill tomorrow.

    so far..


    Please write a comment if I'm doing things wrong, or if I should do something specific when she replies.

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    Default Re: She says she wants me but don't want to hang out

    She seems like the type of woman that completely feeds off of drama and reaction seeking. That she soley wants to be validated by who and how many men are chasing her and if just ONE important one isn't (that's you) then she will do/say almost anything to get that reaction out of you to reassure herself that she still has a hold on you. Reminds me of my ex lol.

    Not sure what your intentions are with her. I'm sure if you wanted her back you would've done so by now. To keep it where it is now, where she is basically a booty call, then keep doing what you were doing before with being non-needy and non-reactive to her head games. These types of women aren't healthy for an LTR if you haven't realized it by now.

    The last FB message may seem a bit chasing, but the result from it will tell you if you did too much if she tries to get that last digit or not.

    If she doesn't try to get that last digit then it simply means she just put up to HOOP of you sending your number (she could've simply left her own number in the message) and since you sort of did, this gives her the validation of you chasing her.

    Or she may fall right for it and ask for that last digit. It's Cat String Theory! So keep us updated, but something tells me she is similar to my ex who is great at getting guys to chase her. We're friends now and tells me on a regular basis of the crazy things she does to get guys so frustrated over her. Quite hilarious. It's my own personal Jersey Shore.

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    Default Re: She says she wants me but don't want to hang out

    Cool thanks Batman!

    She did not message me back after that last digit.

    But yesterday, after a week or two with no contact, she texted a buddy of mine - she wanted him to tell me to call her on this and this number


    Is this validation seeking, or is she hoping to meet the "cool me" again?


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