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    Question Ex contacts me after 3 months of NC, how do I get her back?

    Hi everyone! Let me get started by explaining what happened with the relationship. My ex and I dated for a little over a year and everything was perfect up until about 2-3 months before the break up. She started to lose attraction; not physical, but emotional attraction. At the time, I had no idea why this was happening and thought I had done nothing wrong. I treated her the best way I knew how and gave her everything I had. I couldn't understand why she was pulling away. The more I realized she was pulling away, the more I pushed, resulting in her pulling more. Well, it took me about 2 months, but I finally figured out what I did to kill the relationship. I have been doing a lot of research and have found that insecurity, jealousy, and "clinginess" are some of the biggest relationship killers out there, and sure enough I was guilty of all three. The timing of when I became guilty of these things and when she started pulling away matches perfectly.

    Anyways, she broke up with me and I was completely devastated. It didn't help when I found out that she started dating another guy only 3 weeks after the break up. Throughout their relationship, we had no contact whatsoever. It was extremely hard to do, but I managed to stay away from her the whole time. Luckily for me, it just so happens that they recently broke up (he broke it off). Now she is the devastated one.

    A few days ago, she texted me with a little inside joke from back when we were dating. We texted here and there for a couple days and then I ended the conversation, thinking it was best to keep her wanting more. Now, I want to try and get her back, but I don't know how to go about doing this. I have learned that I will probably need a disqualifier to make her think she can't have me, but what can I use besides saying I have a girlfriend? Also, should I ask her to meet up for lunch or coffee or something? If so, what kind of conversation and body language should I be using?

    Anything helps!

    Thanks

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    Default Re: Ex contacts me after 3 months of NC, how do I get her back?

    two words:

    Act Busy

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    Men, we need to value our time more then we value women. This isn't to say women are not valuable. But who are we to believe in something so illogical, as men we should realize that without our time(life), we would not even be able to pursue women, but only our mother who gave us life. Why do we think we should prioritize them over our time(life) unless she is the one who gives me/my children life. Man is Sovereignty.

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    ashlars is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Ex contacts me after 3 months of NC, how do I get her back?

    Come on guys, it only takes a few seconds to reply. I really need some help with this!

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    Default Re: Ex contacts me after 3 months of NC, how do I get her back?

    what you need to do is to get her chasing you now,takes you off the rebound list and makes it genuine, so when she text, delay your reply. Keep it short and to not embrace, be a little self cented at first until she is hooked in. If she wants to meet you on saturday say your busy but sunday night should be fine(that says your going out, and sunday day your busy too). this should get her hooked in, she may act or flirty by saying" awwww i really want to see you" or something like that, your reply should be " sunday it is then." when you arrange a meeting, post up on here and we will teach you how to be alpha in an meeting experience.

    What you need to do is make her chase while showing your alpha male. She need to know men wont serve her unless she earns it.

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    Men, we need to value our time more then we value women. This isn't to say women are not valuable. But who are we to believe in something so illogical, as men we should realize that without our time(life), we would not even be able to pursue women, but only our mother who gave us life. Why do we think we should prioritize them over our time(life) unless she is the one who gives me/my children life. Man is Sovereignty.

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    Default Re: Ex contacts me after 3 months of NC, how do I get her back?

    in addition to that last post: whether she or you broach the topic of getting together again, tell her you still have conflicting feelings and you need some time to think about it - that you want to do it right and take it slow. don't act busy, get busy. find things to do. let her work a little to win back that time in your life. you don't need to lie or tell her you're busy if you're not. honesty is the best policy. you just have to find a way to present it in the light that shows you're caring and have the best intentions in mind. remember, you set the pace for the reconciliation. don't let her rush you and don't feel rushed, yourself. this is not pick-up advice, by the way.


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