Conquistador is right. I'm going through the same right now after a 5 year relationship. Its been almost 11 months since the breakup. Around 5 months after the breakup she mentioned how some guys tried talking to her and how they had really bad approach skills. Hearing this, that she was out and guys were talking to her while I was feeling like shit, it made me click one night i was hanging out with friends. I said fuck it and after that day I've been having a great time with women. (Though at times I feel I wasn't ready but it was a necessary push. )She sees it; it makes her jealous and regret that she broke up with me. But I dont think there is any going back now. I think talking to women has helped me with my relationship with her. I feel its improved things and now I think we can be friends in the future.