I understand your position. Addiction can take over your psyche. It doesn't have to be drugs, it could be chocolate, it could be anything.
But I disagree with you on avoiding the subject of your addiction at all costs. If you do, you're just going to the other extreme by over-compensating and the object is still controlling your psyche. It's the extremes between love and hate. Black and white. You're giving it power by making the huge effort to avoid it.
What I want to get at is being unaffected in the presence of what used to be an addiction. Indifference. Gray.
I will go to the party. It's unlikely that she'll be there but if she is, so what? I acknowledge our past, accept the present and look forward to the future. That's all. We will have fun. Really, I'm fed up with pushing buttons and pulling levers for her.
I seduced her on Saturday but she's still convinced about needing to find herself. Fine. I'll allow her all the space she needs. She knows that what we had was amazing. I think that's why she cried so much when she saw me and I hugged her. The best I can do for myself is work on myself. And in addition everyone in my life will benefit from this. Because of how we left things I have a slight suspicion that she will be in my future in some weeks or months but that is not even close to being a priority.
Oh and if anyone was wondering, I'm almost 24.