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    Default Re: break up after 2.5years; want suggestions

    hmm, interesting, im at the like 2 month mark almost since it happened, there never really was NC, in fact in my original thread you can see my whole story.. it started me begging and her totally rejecting to coming around to talking to hanging, to me implementing NC on monday of this week.. its really a tough course, im sitting here wanting to text her badly, especially since she called me this morning and id idnt answer.. lol..

    i hope you get her back if thats what you want bro. good luck

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    Default Re: break up after 2.5years; want suggestions

    If she texts you at midnight, I wouldn't text her back right away or maybe not even at all. Wait until she gets worried. She will probably contact you in a couple days asking if your ok or where have you been? I would then say I've been really busy. I would take anything she says as a grain of salt. Try to notice what she isn't saying instead of what she is saying. She isn't saying she misses you and that she made a mistake. I would keep her chasing until you know that she has interest in getting back together with you.

    I'm at about two months right now since my ex dumped me and I am pretty much over it (I give credit to the no contact rule). We are now facebook friends again cuz I requested it. I have chosen to hide her off my wall and not creep through her facebook at all. I know if I just keep the high road and stay indifferent towards her, I can get through this.

    Probably some of the best advice I have heard is to avoid doing things that are intended for her. If you are going to post a pic on facebook make sure it is just cuz you want to do it, not to show her or tell her something. Do the unexpected. She expects you to chase, don't chase.

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    Default Re: break up after 2.5years; want suggestions

    Obviously I haven't replied yet.

    You're right. I wasn't sure if I can call this 'chasing'. Probably not. She's just keeping in touch I guess.

    Really not sure what to do now.

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    Default Re: break up after 2.5years; want suggestions

    Keep her curious. You have a really good opportunity right now. Only reply back when it is convenient for you, as in don't stop everything your doing to reply back. I would wait until she gets worried about why you aren't responding, then just say you have been busy.

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    Default Re: break up after 2.5years; want suggestions

    Ok so her text yesterday said ''How are you?''

    I replied with I'm good! You? yadayada 1 sentence about some university sh1t.

    She texted back with a bunch of small talk and ''Are you going out at all?''

    I said ''Of course. Not today, I'm busy'' [a rather cold response I think and I'm starting to regret it]

    So it looks like she still hasn't changed her mind about the situation (not that I'm sitting here waiting for her). But it's definitely getting harder for her not to keep in contact with me. (Probably).

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    Default Re: break up after 2.5years; want suggestions

    You're in a good spot right now but you're response was boring and didn't keeping the convo going. Every time she texts you, use it as an opportunity to be playful and mysterious. You have to start engaging her on an emotional level. Make her feel a wide range of emotions.This is how I would respond to her text because it would have almost demanded a response. Then you build slowly from there.
    Her: "Are you going out at all?"
    Me: "Too much lately. I gotta slow down!"

    This opens the convo up because now she is going to be curious about exactly what you have been up to and with who. Her asking if you have been going out lately really translates into: "Have you met anyone?" This is a really good spot to be in but I would suggest you start learning text game--and fast!
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    Default Re: break up after 2.5years; want suggestions

    Thanks. I didn't want to keep the convo going since I was Freezing Her Out. If I understand you correctly you're saying it's time to start pulling cos there's been enough pushing.

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    Default Re: break up after 2.5years; want suggestions

    Yeah, I think she is definitely interested. Otherwise, she wouldn't be asking you questions about what you're up to and initiating contact. Just build it up slowly with her and seduce her man! You got this!!!
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    Default Re: break up after 2.5years; want suggestions

    Ok so just before I went to bed I texted her. I had an excuse of 'having listened to music she likes' for initiating contact, and told her good night. She was very responsive: she texted back immediately, she was clearly happy to hear from me and although I'd hate to over-analyse this stuff she ended this text with kisses (lol, am I 5?)

    I responded back: 1. with a silly joke about what she said, and 2. an opportunity for her to respond without me actually asking a question. She replied (after some 10 minutes) laughing at the joke and taking the opportunity to respond to no. 2. So I'd say I'm in a good position.

    The only challenge here is that she always knew she wanted to remain friends. This is why she is so happy to hear from me, however I'm not offering her friendship. I'll go with no contact for a while to let her miss me again.

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    Default Re: break up after 2.5years; want suggestions

    steps you are lucky bro, i would give anything for my x to text me wth kisses and be responsive like that, anything..good job whatever you are doing, im still in NC and it is killing me !! I even had a dream I contacted her . lame right? i know


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