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    Default Opinions and experiences men will return after a breakup

    This Thread is not, i repeat not to get each others hopes up that we will eventually be in control of the ex and get them back, that is most cases left us. Its just to share each others opinions and experiences whether they be good or bad.

    Anyway....Over the last few weeks ive been doing a fair amount of reading about the game and female psychology in general. I looked at what i had and looked and used the internet to aid by looking on forums.

    In breakups most women will not return but men are more likely to return. There is no scientific research done into this just wondering what you think. Because tbh with you when I think about breakups it is normally the man (my friends) who goes running back when they left there gf and the ones who have been dumped their ex's never return.

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    Default Re: Opinions and experiences

    I think it's more social conditioning that men are more likely to chase an ex than the female. History and the media (and even nature) has the men as the chasers and the women the chasees. Is that a word? Anyways...it is possible for the ex to run back to the man because it's happen to me. I've been on both sides of the fence of begging and being begged to. Not the proudest moment lol.

    It's just that most men don't know how to set the roles as the man as the chasee while the woman chases and KEEP it that way. Once in a relationship they feel the "game" is over and they slack. They lose attraction and start to nag the man. This is a more common scenario.

    I think if you play your cards right and have a certain amount of rapport with the woman, then she is more likely to try and get you back if you dump her.

    This is why inner game is so important than any technique you learn. Inner game is what is going to carry you through a relationship and aid you into staying the same attractive fun guy you were in the beginning.

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    Default Re: Opinions and experiences

    Women find it easier to move on because they always have a lot of men willing to keep them company. Most men, on the other hand, go to their grave never learning anything about female psychology.

    What BatMan said about relationships is true. Men slack off. I'm guilty of that.. hence my presence in this forum.. sigh..

    I am getting back on track though

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    Default Re: Opinions and experiences

    Yep, I slacked. Gave her shit all the time about stupid stuff. I am almost to the realization that my ex won't come back. It's amazing on how quickly they can get over you. I actually think they check out long before the break up, even though I didn't see much of any signs of it. It just doesn't seem fair though. After experiencing this, I am now a heavy believer in Karma. She thinks she can just dump me for some other guy and be on her marry way. It does not make sense to me. But I am going to stay on the high road and just do what I do. Hopefully one day she will at least realize that she made a mistake. That's all I am hoping for at this point. I am keeping my dignity through this entire process though, not throwing it away on some girl.

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    Default Re: Opinions and experiences

    I am also guilty of slacking. Things change when all of a sudden your focus is on one woman rather than several. After a while even your self-esteem could be affected if not careful. Especially as PUAs we are good about picking up on stuff and calibrating to that. So if all those techniques are used on one woman to maintain the relationship it can get pretty crazy.

    This is why it is so important to:

    A. Have a life outside of your partner. (And I don't mean do something you like to do and bring her along. I mean doing things you like without her, even if she wants to. Tell her that it's something you like to do yourself and she should respect that. As should she do things without you.)

    B. Having a strong inner game. Understanding that you are a man who deserves to be treated with a certain amount of respect just like her...otherwise, you are gone. (don't verbalize this lol) Understanding that you won't like everything about her so some things you have to choose whether you are willing to accept. Understand that she WILL get pissed at you at some point. So what! She will get over it so don't put so much focus on trying to change her mind about it and just move on. (Unless you cheated or hit her. That's different.) Understand that it is perfectly fine to agree to disagree. You are allowed your own point of view on anything so you won't agree on everything and that's ok. I know couples that have been married for over a decade and they have this flow. If they disagree on something then it's just a brush off like "Ok fine. Whatever" unless it's something more serious then they understand they have to either compromise or allow someone to get their way for that instance. It's called investment equilbrium. Very powerful concept.

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    Default Re: Opinions and experiences men will return after a breakup

    well, i pretty much came to the conclusion today that my ex probably has another guy in the scenario at this point. I mean how in the world do you go from living with someone sharing everything for so long and talking to them all the time about your problems etc, to nothing? There has to be another guy absorbing this. Probably a guy who will eventually win her over. This is the worst part for me. My plan is to study the game, while bettering myself, and then getting a hotter, more likable girl to be with, and hopefully my ex learns what she lost at that point. Until then I wait for her to come back, if she doesn't its a hard pill to swallow.

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    Default Re: Opinions and experiences men will return after a breakup

    That is true. I know there Is another guy in my ex gfs life. I have come the realization that it is over. This is the best way tO get Over slash get her back. Just dOnt pay attention tI her bs. I'm done with it.

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    Default Re: Opinions and experiences men will return after a breakup

    it depends if you change or potray you've changed, like if you became beta in the relationship and remain beta, good luck lol. if you become alpha, then she should chase, thats if she dumps you. if you dump her then we'll she will still try to make it work., thats my experience, the thing is a woman will never change her habbits, insecurity for you, but we do it for them.
    Men, we need to value our time more then we value women. This isn't to say women are not valuable. But who are we to believe in something so illogical, as men we should realize that without our time(life), we would not even be able to pursue women, but only our mother who gave us life. Why do we think we should prioritize them over our time(life) unless she is the one who gives me/my children life. Man is Sovereignty.

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    Default Re: Opinions and experiences men will return after a breakup

    Tyrone: I am in that situation. Picked her up - had a relationship - became beta - broke up. We're still on good terms. Are you giving me hope with that post of yours? :P

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    Default Re: Opinions and experiences men will return after a breakup

    man, become alpha, and everything is possible, if you dont get her back you will probably at least get better than her
    Men, we need to value our time more then we value women. This isn't to say women are not valuable. But who are we to believe in something so illogical, as men we should realize that without our time(life), we would not even be able to pursue women, but only our mother who gave us life. Why do we think we should prioritize them over our time(life) unless she is the one who gives me/my children life. Man is Sovereignty.


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