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Thread: Broken Up With After 3 Great Months - How Can I Get Her Back?

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    Default Re: Broken Up With After 3 Great Months - How Can I Get Her Back?

    I can tell you like this lady, and I am not trying to be a full blown proponent of game and some of its manipulative tricks for no reason at all. She needs to learn that you can live with out her. Do not ask her out this week.

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    Default Re: Broken Up With After 3 Great Months - How Can I Get Her Back?

    Quote Originally Posted by PuppetMaster View Post
    I can tell you like this lady, and I am not trying to be a full blown proponent of game and some of its manipulative tricks for no reason at all. She needs to learn that you can live with out her. Do not ask her out this week.
    It seems like people here are pretty confident about the importance of 3 weeks. What would you suggest doing once the 3 weeks were up? Try for a meetup and talk about the causes of what I thought she was feeling, or avoid that altogether and try to keep things light and fun?

    It would probably seem like I was really coming out of nowhere if I did the latter. I'm sure she'd suspect I had a motive (to get her back)...could that approach potentially end up being awkward?

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    Default Re: Broken Up With After 3 Great Months - How Can I Get Her Back?

    Forget about her. Let her go. Only take her if she comes back and proves herself to you. Date some other chick.

    Watch "Swingers" movie. It will help.

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    Default Re: Broken Up With After 3 Great Months - How Can I Get Her Back?

    Just go and get a life...the more involve in your life you appear, the more you will be view as attractive by the ladies. Being needy and clingy scares any girl; the way to reach a girl spirit is true emotional connection, once she has invested in you. Let the girl work for you affection for a change!

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    Default Re: Broken Up With After 3 Great Months - How Can I Get Her Back?

    Quote Originally Posted by Conquistador82 View Post
    Just go and get a life...the more involve in your life you appear, the more you will be view as attractive by the ladies. Being needy and clingy scares any girl; the way to reach a girl spirit is true emotional connection, once she has invested in you. Let the girl work for you affection for a change!
    I get the logic here, and these are generally rules that I pay attention to and play by. It had actually been a few years since a girl ended things with me. I must have done some wrong things somewhere along the way, but I don't think I was overly needy or clingy with this girl, which is why I'm confused by what happened here.

    I've already started actively looking for potential new dates, so it's not like I'm sitting around and basing my life around getting her back - but I do believe that she's absolutely worth the effort if there's anything that can be done.

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    Default Re: Broken Up With After 3 Great Months - How Can I Get Her Back?

    The only thing that can be done will be to let her go and see if she comes back. Anything else you will try to do will push her further away. By the time she comes back the power will be in your hands to take her back or not.

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    Default Re: Broken Up With After 3 Great Months - How Can I Get Her Back?

    It's a bit risky asking her out so soon after the break up. Its much safer to wait out the 3 weeks, but use your best judgment.

    As for trying to convince her of reasons why you didn't connect .....I never like to handle emotional issues by responding logically to them. It would be different if you were trying to figure out how to handle the bills together or coordinate schedules for a vacation. This is something going on internally with her.

    Apologizing for being "guarded" sounds like a sweet gesture, but again its a logical response to an emotional issue. You run the risk of looking weak instead of telling her your standards and expectations of her. And also falling into the frame that's its somehow your fault. What if its hers?

    She basically said it when she told you that she thought you were basically perfect. What shes really saying is that you're a "nice guy." And they really do finish last.

    All you have to do to make a connection with a woman is to show her that you understand her world and have her understand yours. Not TELL her you understand her world. Just SHOW it. That's logical versus emotional communication.

    The foundation of emotional communication is "Focus on changing her mood, not her mind."

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    Default Re: Broken Up With After 3 Great Months - How Can I Get Her Back?

    Quote Originally Posted by BatMan View Post
    It's a bit risky asking her out so soon after the break up. Its much safer to wait out the 3 weeks, but use your best judgment....

    The foundation of emotional communication is "Focus on changing her mood, not her mind."
    Thanks BatMan. My friends are telling me otherwise, but I think at this point it seems like it makes more sense to wait out the 3 weeks (it's only two more from now). I guess it puts me in a better position either way. I'm more likely to have recovered some more, and it makes me look less needy should I choose to reach out.

    So I guess that if I do try getting in touch, I'll just try to go out and focus on having a good time with her rather than convincing her as to why things didn't work out the first time.

    There's obviously the chance that she meets and gets involved with someone else during this time, but given her history, I'd say that it's less likely it happens to her than most other girls. Hopefully she'd experience some frustration during this period and begin to realize how good she had it with me.

    It's really unfortunate that it's come to this, but I guess that's all I can really hope for at this point. In the meantime, I'll stay committed to trying to meet other girls.


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