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    BigJoeTrucking is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Ex contacted me. I NEED ADVICE!!

    After four months, she dumped me hardcore for a new guy and just wants to be friends. It's so painful when she talks about this other guy and she used to say she loved me everyday and I was the greatest boyfriend ever.

    I took advice from this board and did the "no contact" rule with her. 7 days have gone by and she unblocked me on Facebook. Then she called me today (I did not answer) and right after she sent me a text saying she has a DVD of mine and if I want it back.

    I can't take getting hurt again. What does this mean? What do I do next? If she doesn't want to get back together, hearing her voice is only going to hurt me. What do I do now?

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    Default Re: Ex contacted me. I NEED ADVICE!!

    Dude i know where you're coming from I'm currently in an ex gf situation right now myself with no idea what to do next. One piece of advice I can give you is if she comes just to give you the dvd take it say thanks and don't show ANY emotion. dont be rude to her but dont be too friendly either. the thought of you being completely fine without her will eat her up inside and you might just be able to twist things around a bit. women want a man who seems invincible not one who's obviously upset. GOOD LUCK AND GODSPEED

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    BigJoeTrucking is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Ex contacted me. I NEED ADVICE!!

    I am doing the "no contact" rule from this board. I am trying to get better everyday. I think seeing her will only cause mental problems in my brain. I can't stop thinking about her 24/7 or our relationship, and I don't want to, because I am being destroyed by the break-up right now.

    I really don't know what to do. She has two motives.

    1.Trying to be friends with me because she's upset she hurt me hardcore

    2.Wants to get back together and still has feelings.

    If I allow her contact and she doesn't want to get back together. I am only going to put myself in a deeper hole that I have ever been in before. This is the problem at hand. My heart is already shattered.

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    bobat6 is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
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    Default Re: Ex contacted me. I NEED ADVICE!!

    listen bro.. i think you came on this forum to learn how to pickup other girls, right? well thats what you should do.. she treated you like sh1t b4, so don't think about getting back with her.. if she comes with the DVD just take say thanks and cya..

    go out, meet new people, pickup other girls, and have fun.. dont waste your life thinking about someone who didn't care less about you when she broke up..

    PLUS, the relationship you had was only 4months m8..
    The Worst thing I can be is the same as everybody else. I'd Hate that!

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    Default Re: Ex contacted me. I NEED ADVICE!!

    look bro, if you want real advice, this is what you do. keep in mind its only a 4 month relationship, so most of the advice given here wont apply.. 4 months you should still be in the honey moon stage.. if she dumped you for another guy, you probably were showing strong signs of beta. DO NOT CONTACT HER regardless of what she says.. i just went through this 2 months ago, and am still going through it.. the first 7 days I was a wreck too, thought the world was over.. guess what? she contacted me today to hang out..it just takes time, but heres the advice: just dont even acknowledge the dvd, unless she keeps pushing for it, just say you can drop it by or something, no emotion, no ioi nothing.. you have to show her you are better without her.. show her that she lost, not you.. act like you are relieved.. im telling you, you do this, and it will be easier, you want her back?? stay the course no matter what.

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    BigJoeTrucking is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Ex contacted me. I NEED ADVICE!!

    Thanks, guys. I appreciate your advice and I will continue to take it. I took advice already from this board and talked to 3 girls at the bar on Wednesday and danced with another, who put my hat on her head. So, I'm trying to get back in the game. I have no idea about the ex. Just have to take one day at time. Thanks for the advice!


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