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    thefastestafc is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default help me get the love of my life back, and help the community

    Hi guys I'm going to try and be as clear as possible through this story. So I met this girl and she was absolutely breathtaking hottest girl i've ever been with by far.
    reasons for intial attraction in me: confidence, leadership qualities, physique, college athlete, ambitious, hard working, caring but not a doormat or a push over, intelligent
    these were the initial reasons for attraction that got us together and dating in the first place. One night during some dark times in my life the two of us got into a huge argument that ended in both of us crying and feeling terribly and unfortunately enough I dropped the L word (forgive me i was still blind to the world of proper game just a lost AFC)

    from that day forth she would find reasons left and right to start fights and I would basically just be a push over and agree with her because i was afraid she would leave me it turned into a bully-victim relationship with her being the bully. She then dumped me 3 days before going to florida to "hangout" with her ex boyfriend. I proceeded to try and continue contact before stumbling upon this forum, 1 thing I did do correctly prior to learning anything was show no emotion and seem indifferent.

    So now as for where i am now. I initiated no contact. only speaking to her when she went out of her way to speak to me. 2 times now since that she has hit me up randomly in the middle of the night to speak. one time I was at a party and simply ignored it. and last night she hit me up i answered but was at the bar. she heard the girls i was with in the background and proceeded to continuously call me "party boy" and refused to tell me what she had actually called for. she texted me later to say that she feels old and what not (she's graduated and 1 year older than me) She kinda convinced me in a round about way to invite her to a bbq i'm hosting this weekend and i asked her if she was still coming and she didnt answer. moments after our conversation last night had ended. she decided to go and change her profile pic and cover photo on facebook to some modeling pictures she did a few weeks ago. to garner some attention. she even put her friend up to comment on the picture like 5-6 times assumably to raise her value a bit. now she hasnt hit me back up all day and I need to decide what the next step is. I have established that I can live without her too her and she has shown some level of interest even if its only curiousity and a tad bit of jealousy. This seems to be the point many puas are stuck at what happens after you shake a response into you're ex?! please help any advice is greatly appreciated and sorry for the long post thanks

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    thefastestafc is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: help me get the love of my life back, and help the community

    also i'm looking for a more complete response then nc. all up and down this forum all you here and seee is nc and while that is a wonderful and powerful tool there has to be more too it than that. if one of the more experienced members could give us a step by step process or something i feel that everyone would see progress and we'd have alot of success

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    Default Re: help me get the love of my life back, and help the community

    Nc is very powerful.

    step by step:

    1. NC.
    2. Work on yourself. (self-improvement)
    3. Work on your life. (get your great life in order)
    4. Show her your new self.

    During steps 1 to 3 you need to get over her. The process entails working on yourself, which means that you get your power back. She is no longer the centre of your life or your purpose. This, in turn, makes you attractive again. Your are not ready for no.4 if you're not over her because if not, you will sooner or later give her too much power and you'll break up again.

    Working on yourself means getting your inner game together, meeting new people especially girls, having fun with friends, having fun doing things you enjoy, and working on whatever it is you do in life: music, sports, martial arts or knitting or whatever it is...

    Never, ever discuss the relationship with her unless she brings it up. This is important. If you discuss it, it will engage her reason. You need to eventually have her emotions engaged - ie. trigger attraction (which is beyond logic or reason).

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    thefastestafc is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: help me get the love of my life back, and help the community

    thank you so much for the response steps thats exactly the kind of response i needed and i;m sure anybody else looking for this information appreciates it as well. 1 question do I trigger attraction through the usual methods like confidence dhv and maybe some methods like Push Pull etc. Or is there a specific technique i should implore after i've gotten past steps 1-3 that is likely to build attraction?

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    thefastestafc is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: help me get the love of my life back, and help the community

    drunkenly called my ex and we spoke about pretty much everything about our nights in 5 minutes and then gave up and went to bed cuz we were both hammered and exhausted

    she's coming tomorrow how do i play this? just act as if i have been nc with her escalate attraction or restart nc despite the fact that she;s gonna be there?

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    Default Re: help me get the love of my life back, and help the community

    I get that "No contact" isn't what you want to do. Surely there's some other action you should be taking, right?

    I initiated no contact. [...] 2 times now since that she has hit me up
    Oh wait. Except it worked for you already.

    [...] she heard the girls i was with in the background [...] She kinda convinced me in a round about way to invite her to a bbq i'm hosting
    Textbook. Just saying.

    i asked her if she was still coming and she didnt answer.
    I don't want to be mean, but contacting this girl (however you're doing it) is NOT eliciting the response you want.

    drunkenly called my ex
    Oh man. Just 7 hours of admitting 1000stepss was right. Jeez.

    she's coming tomorrow how do i play this? just act as if i have been nc with her escalate attraction or restart nc despite the fact that she;s gonna be there?
    IF she shows up, be busy entertaining your guests, introduce her to someone the same way you'd introduce a coworker ("Ted, this is Linda, she does Blah Blah Blah at BlahBlah Inc. Linda, this is Ted, he's a student at U of Blah") and from the sound of things, she'll make moves on you SIMPLY BECAUSE you're NOT making moves on her.


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