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    Default Am I losing a 9.5 HB? Playing "hard to get" was a mistake?

    I’m a good looking dude, muscular and ripped, brazilian, got a good job, a masters degree from a top university, adventurous… I am getting a bit older (34) and the looks don’t help as much. I still date the hottest girls I ever wished.

    I met this girl online. We exchanged a few txt messages and a few pictures. We talked on the phone once. She finally calls me back after 3 days on a Friday inviting me to grab some food in Santa Monica, CA where she lives (40 minutes away from Long Beach where I live)

    me: “I am going out in LA tonight. I think I can stop by on my way to see you”

    She looked stunning, much better than the pictures. 25yo worth a 9.5 score. She is a successful independent woman, classy, smart and intelligent. We went food hoping (changing venues) in a busy street. At the last bar she introduced me to a few of her guy friends and she gave me all the IOIs I needed.

    We sat for a glass of wine for almost 2 hours (yes I paid for everything). I made her laugh, played the cube, kill/shag/marry and other psychological games, read her hand and told some good stories about myself. Then I explained one of the psychology game and threw a Ross Jeffries script with it. I was able to arouse her within a few minutes even though I am still developing my NLP skills At this point, she would have goose bumps every time I talked closer to her skin.

    I dropped her home but… guess what???

    MISTAKE 1: I did not try to kiss her. For some reason I felt that I should not push for a kiss. I knew she was not going to invite me in or have sex with her.

    Next morning she sends me a txt early in the morning.

    she: “I had a great time with you last night. Hope to hang out again soon”

    (Yessss!)

    me: “I will be straight with you. I don’t play games. If you don’t have any plans, I would like to see you”

    she: “I have plans today, but you could stop by sometime, or tomorrow we can hang out at the beach by my beach house”

    me: “I was talking about tomorrow silly. I will see you around noon then”

    she: “ok”

    MISTAKE 2: For some reason I felt that I should play hard to get. She is a 9 and I did not want to be the traditional guy. Still I caused a good impression but I did not have sex with her yet or kissed her. A few hours later I sent her a txt:

    me: “Sorry babe, something came up and I wont be able to see you tomorrow. Lets reschedule and meet some other time

    she: (no response)

    I called her once next day and she did not pick up. She didn’t reply until the next day afternoon. When she sent

    she: “I hope you are having a fun weekend”

    (Awesome! She was kind of mad at me)

    I sent a few playful messages. Including a picture with a hot girl friend of mine. But, until today (3 days after) she replies single line messages, 2 to 4 hours apart from my original message. Today she txted 8am:

    she: “I will call you later in the evening”

    I don’t think it went flawlessly because (I think) I made mistakes. I still got a good chance. Now, she is playing (I guess) hard to get and I want to break this cycle.

    Any suggestions? Any thoughts?

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    Default Re: Am I losing a 9.5 HB? Playing "hard to get" was a mistake?

    when you make plans do try to keep them girls will think you are flaky.
    im on a different level

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    Default Re: Am I losing a 9.5 HB? Playing "hard to get" was a mistake?

    I think you created mass amounts of attraction....probab ly too much. It is possible to over game. If you didn't reach a REAL level with her after all of that then it just ends up going backwards and you lose emotional momentum. Your attraction game is great my friend, but she may be already tired of the games and is waiting for you to "chill out" and get real with her.

    This is of course assuming you haven't, but my guess is that you and her haven't developed a real connection yet. Building comfort is one thing, but building rapport is another.

    Rapport is simply a sympathic relationship. Its the place where you show your vulnerable side, where you show her you understand her world and she understands yours. Its where all the sh1t you hear about in romance novels and movies comes to life. That really creates some great intimacy. Of course you still sprinkle in attraction material like teasing, but it just cuts down alot.

    You still have a great chance with her, I would just suggest to relax and show her a real side. Cheesy I know....but if there's anything I know for sure...its how to create a connection with a woman so strong they will never forget you.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: Am I losing a 9.5 HB? Playing "hard to get" was a mistake?

    Cool. Thanks batman.

    I did create rapport to some degree too, but can definitely be increased.

    Let's see what happens on the phone today.

    I will be chill like you said and not ask her out, but makes plans if she brings that up

    I hope she will want to hang out so I can close the deal... And if she is that great indeed.. Start a relationship :-)

    By the way this thread is in the wrong place "how to get your ex back"
    How can I change it?

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    Default Re: Am I losing a 9.5 HB? Playing "hard to get" was a mistake?

    ^ It's ok to keep it here - just make sure you post in the right forum next time.


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