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    Default Strange break up has me dazed and confused

    Edit: We've been dating for 2.5 years

    I was at a party and my friends girlfriend brought her dad, who knows why. He's just some fat guy but eventually he got a little close to my girl, like hand on her leg kind of close. I watched them for a bit wondering what the F is going on and he was some what insulting me about a convo we had earlier.

    Now in this situation I felt like knocking his head off, but I felt since she was so cool with it she can go home with him, and proceeded to tell her i'll call her a cab at the end of the night and shes not staying at my house.

    After learning she wasn't talking to me because of how upset she was at the party, I became annoyed and when she asked to meet to talk I agreed and began to grill her about why that was happening and how I am upset she put me in that situation.

    Long story short because I feel this is a novel, these are the points she brought up to me: She feels she did nothing wrong. She felt it became creepy at one point because of things he was saying to her. She was cold and he was keeping her warm. Part of her though I would go and save her.

    She said I was manipulative and jealous blah blah blah and while crying started her car. I told her if she drives away the relationship is over, well she drove away lol and I told her fine and drove off.

    This is very unlike her, amd she truly keeps her innocence to the situation. She is in fact a very jealous and need to know where I am type of girl, not me. I don't know if our rocky relationship is salvageable or if this NO-CONTACT rule applies to contacting her again in this situation because I am not really sure this was a true breakup...

    I am in this fresh breakup venting mode so I figure I'd let out my emotions here and try and get some insight. Id like to mend things but I am unsure on the next move. Thanks everyone!

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    Default Re: Strange break up has me dazed and confused

    You don't want to ever let your girlfriend catch you being jealous. It's a beta trait and it automatically shut's down female attraction switches, which is why she went cold immediately and told you that you were being manipulative and jealous.

    Are you wrong for feeling that way? Absolutely not. Women are farking nuts man. They think everything that they do is absolutely fine but if you do the same to them they go crazy. I'm sure I would feel the same way that you felt in that situation and your girlfriend wouldn't be to happy either if the tables were turned and it was you cozying up to some chick to keep warm. That's logic and it makes perfect sense to us but women don't think logically alot of times--at least not as much as men do.

    My advice in that situation is to get flirty with other women(in front of her)really fast, but don't do it in a way that would make her think you're trying to make her jealous! If that didn't correct her behavior then you don't have a conversation about it afterwards, you just give her the cold shoulder.

    It sounds to me like you've been beta-backsliding which is why she's been stepping out of line. Stay strong and stick to nc. Hopefully it will respark her interest and she will see the error of her ways.
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    Default Re: Strange break up has me dazed and confused

    Root em boot em.................. ...

    Give it some time - she'll crawl back. If she doesn't you know she has already moved on. A relationship shouldnt crash like this so consider how you deal with the situation as 'protector'.

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    Default Re: Strange break up has me dazed and confused

    Beta backslide huh, that's new to me but I was definitely a beta for a LONG time before realizing the error of my ways and amping my game up.

    I know that contacting her a week later has always worked with this sort of thing but this is sort of an explosion in a series of relationship mini-meltdowns.

    I feel like I should truly wait though and then if she comes back alter my game because I didn't see what I was doing wrong until now.

    Its too bad her sister hates me and her friends think she needs someone better. These things make me believe its going to be a long wait.

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    Default Re: Strange break up has me dazed and confused

    Work on gaining rapport with her friends and family then. A LTR is kinda doomed if your not the knight in shining armor to friends and family


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