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    Default Re: Please Help Guys Seriously Need Help With Ex GF

    Guys, I txted he last night just simply saying "We need to talk, lets meet up". - my phone was then on silent and i rolled over as i was tired. Next thing i know she has txted and called. So I Called back.

    We had a long in depth convo and I told her how the time apart has helped me evaluate the situation and that i was far more positive in myself. She mentioned that I seemed like i was enjoying myself by the pictures she had seen. Also she commented that she was desperate to call me all week, but just resisted. I said that I was back to my old self from when I met her.

    She was crying alot, but i stayed strong and I explained that I accepted her decision and that she will find someone really nice. I listed all the attributes of myself and said you will find someone with understanding, helps you in your career, Good with your family. She said stop describing yourself. I said I wasnt.

    In the end i said maybe we should meet up in two weeks or so, she said that would be good.

    I think this went well. The only thing is there was a lac of clarity surrounding the breakup. e.g. single or on a break, she cleared this up. We are fully split up!. This annoyed me a little bit.

    Other than that its all i can do i think.

    Thanks for the help so far, it has worked as best as it could.

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    Default Re: Please Help Guys Seriously Need Help With Ex GF

    Sounds good Urban, you got yourself in a position where it sounds like you can work on you, which is all you can really do. It sounds selfish, but it really is the best thing. Do not wait around for her, but like you said, call her up in 2 weeks and see where things are at. Leave expectations of what might or might not be out of the picture and go in with things being completely new and I think you will amaze yourself.

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    Default Re: Please Help Guys Seriously Need Help With Ex GF

    Quote Originally Posted by nik's chik View Post
    All of your actions are saying to her that you don't care that she broke up with you, which reinforces to her that she made the right decision. Do you want to get her back or have the upper hand to prove you have "higher value"? Women are pretty easy. Tell her you know you messed up with the gambling and lies and show her she's important to you. If, after 5 years, you don't even miss her why would she invest more time in you?
    As soon as I started reading what you said I knew you was a girl. What he is doing is right. Someone else told me to do what you did when I had just broke up with my girl and it failed. He does miss her as he had repeatedly said its hard and he's worrying etc.

    Quote Originally Posted by urbanhero View Post
    Guys, I txted he last night just simply saying "We need to talk, lets meet up". - my phone was then on silent and i rolled over as i was tired. Next thing i know she has txted and called. So I Called back.

    We had a long in depth convo and I told her how the time apart has helped me evaluate the situation and that i was far more positive in myself. She mentioned that I seemed like i was enjoying myself by the pictures she had seen. Also she commented that she was desperate to call me all week, but just resisted. I said that I was back to my old self from when I met her.

    She was crying alot, but i stayed strong and I explained that I accepted her decision and that she will find someone really nice. I listed all the attributes of myself and said you will find someone with understanding, helps you in your career, Good with your family. She said stop describing yourself. I said I wasnt.

    In the end i said maybe we should meet up in two weeks or so, she said that would be good.

    I think this went well. The only thing is there was a lac of clarity surrounding the breakup. e.g. single or on a break, she cleared this up. We are fully split up!. This annoyed me a little bit.

    Other than that its all i can do i think.

    Thanks for the help so far, it has worked as best as it could.
    Sorry I haven't been about I've been in wales.

    Good stuff just keep playing the no contact thing only contact her if its necessary, like to confirm your meeting and just carry on doing exactly what you have been like going out etc.

    Keep having an amazing time. I know it helps you too forget about her for a few minutes right? Keep it up.

    NT

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    Default Re: Please Help Guys Seriously Need Help With Ex GF

    Interesting I will let you know the exact txt she sent me today.

    "Hey, hope u had a nice day! Nice pic u sent last night.. Im sorry for messing our relationship up - im so glad ur finally happy again! X"

    Wow amazing txt.

    What the hell do i do now?? By the way the pic refered in the message, was a txt i sent of me having fun with a funny fake moustache on. I said "i know you like facial hair, keep smiling" in the txt.

    Im confused

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    Default Re: Please Help Guys Seriously Need Help With Ex GF

    Quote Originally Posted by urbanhero View Post
    Interesting I will let you know the exact txt she sent me today.

    "Hey, hope u had a nice day! Nice pic u sent last night.. Im sorry for messing our relationship up - im so glad ur finally happy again! X"

    Wow amazing txt.

    What the hell do i do now?? By the way the pic refered in the message, was a txt i sent of me having fun with a funny fake moustache on. I said "i know you like facial hair, keep smiling" in the txt.

    Im confused
    Sounds like a bit of a Sh1t Test. You know why she ended it due to the gambling etc. You know it wasn't her fault. But now she wants you back and is blaming her self.

    Be like "well maybe next time it might not be your fault "
    Or something along those lines

    NT

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    Default Re: Please Help Guys Seriously Need Help With Ex GF

    Great Reply No Touch.

    I actually replied that exact txt message. Classic.

    It seems she kinda wants me back but is scared to say anything. But i dont wanna bulldozer in, only for her to reject me! I think she is playing mind games to be fair.

    Cheers for the help.

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    Default Re: Please Help Guys Seriously Need Help With Ex GF

    Quote Originally Posted by urbanhero View Post
    Great Reply No Touch.

    I actually replied that exact txt message. Classic.

    It seems she kinda wants me back but is scared to say anything. But i dont wanna bulldozer in, only for her to reject me! I think she is playing mind games to be fair.

    Cheers for the help.
    Yeah I sort of guessed you would be at that stage, I see what you mean about not wanting to bulldoze in. Don't ask her back out until your with her face to face.

    Maybe arrange to meet sooner say in a few days time and say its because you might have to do x on that day and you cant reschedule it.

    When you meet just be casual like how are things going etc? then say I was thinking maybe we should take things slow and start again. You don't really have to take things slow its just something you say you don't actually have to take it slow.

    Check your inbox btw

    NT

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    Default Re: Please Help Guys Seriously Need Help With Ex GF

    I would say do something that you wouldn't normally do... To show that your a new guy.

    Chicks like an old dog with new tricks. Pick up surfing or something.. Tell her its made you completely forget about gambling.

    Her: have you gambled?
    You: what's gambling? Lol I picked up "______" and I haven't even thought about it since.

    Or maybe guitar or some $hit. Something cool you know. Good luck

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    Default Re: Please Help Guys Seriously Need Help With Ex GF

    Wow interesting stuff.

    she replied "If after 5yrs of bf and my best friend and our convo the other night u can send a txt like that then it just reassures me that i made the right decision! So nearly asked u for a drink tonite.. Quite clearly 5yr meant nothing to u, so dont know why im so bothered. I broke up with u as I was unhappy, not coz i dont love u. Remember theat nxt time ur so cold."

    So i replied " OMG wow have you lost your sense of humour as well? It was clearly mianly my fault therefore a joke. And if u do ask me for a drink, do u think i will come?"

    Then she called crying on the phone, I was strong again. We had a great convo. I was running the game, like "oh so you wanted to take me for a drink" lol. and it went amazingly. I thought we were on to something.

    It then went wrong!!

    My wing and I were supposed to be hitting the town. He bombed me off, thus leaving me on my own. I sat looking at 4 walls and cracked. I rand her at 8.30pm. ---no reply.

    Then to dick it up even more i txt her this morning "Can we talk? Dort wori if busy."

    Im FUMMING with myself by the way. Dont know what to do now PLEASE PLEASE HELP>

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    Default Re: Please Help Guys Seriously Need Help With Ex GF

    Everytime she does the oh after 5 years or makes a fuss about you not paying her much attention its because she wants just that, attention. Don't text her again, if she replies reply back with why its a good idea to meet say you have things to talk about and that its better to do them in person then over the phone, when you want a women to do something you need to make it clear why its good that they do it don't just say its because i want to get back with you or so we can sort things out.

    if she doesn't reply keep no contact going. Wait for her to contact you again.

    NT


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