been reading the forums for last month or so and tried to use a lot of what i have read but i now need some help/advice.
am 34 but am studying at university and back in January i met a girl in the uni bar, hit it off n went back my place. Kept it casual for just over a month with us spending a nite or 2 together each week until she asked me to go out with her one nite in march. I said yes straight away as was falling for this girl even though she was 18 at the time.
We was a couple for 5 months (but together for 6 1/2 months) got engaged in that time, talked bout our future but also had some arguments n mini breakups along the way till 5 weeks ago she came to see me for the week (i had exams n see wanted to help me) n things where rocky to say the least resulting in her saying after my last exam 'we need to talk' she told me she didnt trust me (i messed up at easter n nearly slept with a girl) n that thought i was controlling (i cant deny i was very possessive) so i told her cant be with someone who thinks of me like that n ended the relationship n walked out.
We continued talking for a week but then i cut contact telling her i needed time to move on. She broke contact a few times texting me asking me little things like when am i back in university, and if i was still coaching the team she was going to join at university. Then last Thursday am out with my friends and she calls me when she is wasted and says she dont know whats gong on before her friend takes the phone from her and says she is putting her to bed and shes ok. I get a text the next day from her saying sorry for the call and can we talk when i get back to campus later that day, i agree but later had to cancel as something came up and she said its fine don't need talk now. I left it at that but when i got to campus she texts saying someone told her i was back so we text a bit but she says we cant try again (she brought it up not me).
I go the bar with my friends the next nite and see her at the bar and she see's me and starts being all over a lad i know, i just laughed it off n carried on having fun with my friends. See text me in the early hours asking why i had given her a funny look which i didnt n then tried calling me which i ignored. She then calls and texts me the next nite saying she heard i was going to beat the lad she was with on the nite i saw her, text her the next day and explain i hadnt and had no intention to and after that we talked general stuff till i went to work. That night she calls me a bit drunk asking if could come mine as she had lost her keys, i said ok so she came mine and spent the nite (yes we had sex am only human) she left in the morning giving me a kiss. She text me later that day asking if we could talk about the night before so she came mine but as soon as she got here we started kissing n fooling around until our urges kicked in again n slept together. She left to go home about an hour later but text me for an hour when she got home and the same when she woke up. I then go out to the bar last nite and see her and she was off with me and she went back to her friends so text asking if she was ok and got yeah just don't want talk to you, then i made stupid move asking if i had done something and got yeah your just being you so left it there but she text again 5 mins later saying it was a mistake what had happened and i should go sh*g someone else who is worth it, again i didnt respond but she did go out of her way to walk by my friends and I.
I haven't heard from her since and i have no idea what to do or think, I do love this girl and try again but i know her friends dont approve because of my age even tho she has told me she loves and misses me i dont know if its enough for her to go against her friends. Any advice???