Ok, so first post and sorry to intrude but its a weird one for me and I figure it never hurts to ask around, right?
Here's some background:
So I've been living in Greece for the past 6 months or so and met this great english girl here. We actually met when I visited last year for a week but she had a b/f at the time and I was sorta seeing a girl so it meant nothing.
Now this year, we met again, she's gotten faaaaaaarkin hot and we get along like a house on fire. Turns out she's broken up with her BF so we, after a week or so, hook up. All good right? Well, as a result of a combination of factors (mostly stress and too much booze) I end up having a few panic attacks (first time in my life, whole other story) and she, quite rightly, says we need to stop what we're doing so I can get healthy again. All good.
After a couple of weeks I find out she's back with her ex. I wouldn't go so far as to say I'm mortified but yeah, it hurt. So over the next couple of months we drift apart - don't worry, I'm getting laid - some good stories came out of this time, maybe I'll share later. After a couple of months she breaks up with him for the same reasons they broke up the first time and we end up getting back together again. Sadly, with her comes a very intense lifestyle (something I'm working on) involving a LOT of booze, late nights etc. Now I work 9 hours a day EVERY SINGLE DAY, no day off for 6 months and the same thing happens. Too much stress, too much booze and I have another panic attack. She, rightly, flees.
So she runs back to her ex and I go pull a couple of french girls. I understand I have NO right to feel jealous and yet I do. Before you all scream it, this is NOT 1-itis. I've had that before, this is different. I have no issues pulling other girls and I'm not in love with this girl - but I DO really really like her. I havent had as much fun with anyone as I have with her, I (oddly enough) trust her and without putting too fine a point on it, she's sex on (long, long) legs.
So whats the problem I hear you say? Well, she's moving to my home country and I'm actually going home for the first time in 3 years, so we'll be living about an hour from each other. I wont be there for another 6 weeks and she'll arrive, after a holiday, about a week later.
So how do I play this? I know I have 6 weeks to get my sh1t in order and I'm under no illusions, I'm not lying awake at night dreaming of us being together - but as I said, I REALLY like this girl and for the first time in a long time I'd like to see how it all plays out. I'm more than willing to put in a lot of work (it's going to be a slow month at work anyway).
So she obviously has a thing for her ex and he's said he's coming to join her/us, though I think its incredibly unlikely.
I'm not entirely sure what sort of responses I'm expecting or wanting. Im hoping after 6-8 weeks away, it will effectively hit the reset button for both of us and I'll effectively have to start again but with the significant advantage or already having been with her. The thing that gets me is that I'm reacting emotionally to all of this when I know I should just be my usual rational self.
So if you were in this or a similar situation - seeing an on-again, off-again girl after a bit of time apart - how would you guys play it?
Sorry for the rambling post, hope it all makes sense.