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    Soulja35 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default reattracting a girlfriend who has become distant

    Alright, here we go. Me and this girl have been talking/dating for a month. I reconnected with her at a club, but I had known her since high school. I'm 24 and she is 25. I see her at the club and get her number as I'm leaving. Immediately we have good chemistry. I have her laughing and she's engaged through text. I probably over texted (I'm honestly new to this). A week goes by and get invited to her house, and chill on her bed. . . . . . .Just chilled (my 1st mistake). . . . . , another week goes by and we are in the same situation, just chillin on her bed. She starts talking about how she can't wait to meet my mom and what not and I'm fine with that honestly . . .As I was leaving we hugged and kissed. That night I text her and we end up in a conversation about how we feel and how we are both looking forward to what the future holds (my 2nd mistake). After this, my texts became very mundane and lacked any emotional stimuli (3rd mistake).

    That weekend I go to a football game and to a club afterwards. She's there with her friends ( I knew she was as I was meeting her there). We don't just dance with each other but other people as well. She seemed cool with it. Her friend danced with me and she danced with my friend as well. This is where she started becoming distant. Looking back, I know exactly what I did. I failed to capitalize on MULTIPLE opportunities to advance our relationship sexually. She would text/call me when she was in the bathtub, and catch me when I was getting out the shower and make suggestive texts, but I didn't capitalize on em. I was so busy trying to be "mr. nice guy" that I missed these blatantly obvious opportunities. I know the mistakes I made looking back on this situation.

    I Asked her a question 3 days ago and have had no reply. I don't HAVE to have this girl back, but I still feel for her and I do want to at least try as I'm pretty sure she still feels something for me. Should I wait a while to text her and kind of start over or try to send her a short text to stir her emotions a little and get her thinking of me again (one that doesn't require an answer)? I'm open to any and all ideas.

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    Default Re: reattracting a girlfriend who has become distant

    You realize what you did and you acknowledge it. Understand she views you as a friend. Take those lessons and go to next girl... Don't hesitate. When you feel hesitation begin to creep, override and just do it. You weren't chillin on her bed with her to comb barbie doll hair. You were there to pork.

    Trial and error friend.

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    Soulja35 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: reattracting a girlfriend who has become distant

    I appreciate the advice. I do disagree though. I don't believe she does see me as a friend. Friends answer texts. Surely I haven't moved from "I want to meet your parents" to the friend zone in a week. Maybe I'm being naive. She may be completely disinterested, but i certainly don't think she sees me as "just a friend".

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    Default Re: reattracting a girlfriend who has become distant

    Okay then, she's indifferent to you. Which is cool, you should consider that in itself closure and learn. I know it's hard but think logically. See it for what it is, not what it should be. Be logical. If you're coming to this forum for advice then something isn't right... If it's starting like that, who knows what you're in store for.

    You said you're in your learning phase. Well don't get sidetracked. Get back in the field brother!

    Read my raving post I made titled "not sure". I look like a complete doosh in it, but I keep it up there to remind me of who to to be. I'm not ashamed of it. We all make a transformation at some point and it's healthy to remember what you came from.

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    Default Re: reattracting a girlfriend who has become distant

    Look man, you've been answering your own questions through your posts. Trust yourself with those answers.

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    Default Re: reattracting a girlfriend who has become distant

    I'm in a similar position, and would love a deeper reply on this

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    Default Re: reattracting a girlfriend who has become distant

    You answered your own questions dude. You didnt make a move even when she opened the door plenty of times for you to make it. Learn from it and move on.

    If you see her again then its time to rock and roll and put all that shit aside. Meaning you need to man up and do your part. Right now she may have gotten bored with telling you through action "FUCK ME" and you said "lets watch the sweetest thing such an awesome movie" lol. Dude I have fucked up also but as it was stated you answered your own question.

    Next time you see her do like Cesar Millan and remain calm and assertive, show you are dominant and the leader of the pack and Alpha her ass and then BOOM! You will help her talk to God that evening lol
    To my bros who served with me.
    "When it comes your time to die, be not like those whose hearts are filled with the fear of death, so that when their time comes they weep and pray for a little more time to live their lives over again in a different way. Sing your death song and die like a hero going home.


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